Questions You Ask before You Date Someone Seriously

[Commish]

To me it’s like a what point are you willing to be honest about who you are. I need a person confident in who they are. Honesty to me is the deepest intimacy. I have seen plenty of people who are not their true self’s around their partners. A relationship built on half trues and misrepresentations is doomed from the start. Maintaining a lie is usually harder and worst than telling the truth.

My point is..


Asking those questions is fine, once rapport is been established. Pre-rapport interaction should be void of asking certain questions. Find out if you two have chemistry first. I think more important questions in the beginning is something like someone’s spiritual beliefs.

Someone who let’s say wanna abstain from sex until marriage needs to be known right away. Perhaps someone’s political views as well as their views on social justice. I am even cool with someone wanting to know if I date interracially or not is a more appropriate question, because if that is a dealbreaker for someone, then best for them to know right away and go their separate ways than asking about someone’s credit history.

shyt, if you feel that asking about credit is important right away, then why not ask about one’s sexual history right away? Why not ask a single mom how may baby daddy’s she has and if they each pay child support? Ask how much each father pays per month?

Any woman who ask me about my credit history before establishing rapport with me is an automatic dealbreaker! I will not divulge any information regarding my financial business. If a I tell a woman I own a home, bought a new car and I have been gainfully employed for almost 20 years, then that should give her some indication that I am financially stable enough to maintain such a huge responsibility...

 

[Commish]

The problem I see is that some people date scared! They are risk averse and don’t wanna get played to the left. I get it! Who wants participate in a bad investment?

Yes, vetting a potential partner is very important! I would say it is necessary these days, but there are ways to vet someone w/o getting too personal at the beginning. No person is perfect and everyone is a work in progress to some degree...

Lastly, it is one thing to ask/answer certain personal questions with people you have met in person and another thing to ask/answer certain questions to people you never met in person(online dating sites/apps). Something to consider...

 

[Diyhai]

The problem I see is that some people date scared! They are risk averse and don’t wanna get played to the left. I get it! Who wants participate in a bad investment?

Yes, vetting a potential partner is very important! I would say it is necessary these days, but there are ways to vet someone w/o getting too personal at the beginning. No person is perfect and everyone is a work in progress to some degree...

Lastly, it is one thing to ask/answer certain personal questions with people you have met in person and another thing to ask/answer certain questions to people you never met in person(online dating sites/apps). Something to consider...

but at a point its like why play games or waste time in certain situations
if you eventually want to get married why date someone not interested in that
if you want to have kids and the other person doesnt why go into that relationship
sometimes getting those things out the way saves time

 

[Lamar Givens]

How often do you take a bath, brush your teeth

You’d be surprised at the answers

 

[Commish]

but at a point its like why play games or waste time in certain situations
if you eventually want to get married why date someone not interested in that
if you want to have kids and the other person doesnt why go into that relationship
sometimes getting those things out the way saves time

You should not have to play games. However, no person should up be interrogated with very personal questions either. I am on your side, but I have learned that there are just certain questions and topics that should be avoided at the beginning.

First, there has to be chemistry. Then, two people need to be compatible. Regarding chemistry, w/o it, none of the stuff you may want to know about someone even matters.

So, for me, a woman can have an 850 FICO score, but if she is bad built, she will still be charged to the game.

I want to know if someone has a sense of humor, if they have an issue with the use of profanity, do they need to be equally yoked spiritually, if they want or don’t want children and a few other things before more personal questions. Even those questions may need to be put on hold until there is some sort of rapport established. If you like someone, then you will be more compassionate and understanding about certain things.

At the end of the day, I say do what you need to do and see how it works for you? Experience tend to be the best teacher..

 

[8====D]

New York , Detroit or Chicago style pizza?

Have you EVER taken legal advice from a transexual gangbanging lawyer?

 

[King Poetic]

I really didn’t have to ask anything, the last 2 told me straight up or they Facebook gave me the answer cause they didn’t delete shyt

Ok so the First chick who has a daughter

Told me her ex was in jail (Not the father of kid) .. dude was still married but separated and had 4 kids...

I knew straight up he was using her, just like every ex con does to women...but she was honest and told me he was writing another chick and her kid but sent the letter to her by mistake... He told her want she wanted to hear, the usual it’s only going to be me and u, I love your kid like your daughter is mine, let’s go ring shopping... nikka wasn’t working and was pawning her tv...

she dump dude,, so for about 3 years she was just having sex with one dude, who I found out was a ex con, but she said it was just a random dude who she would just hook up once in a while...


The other chick was same as the previous chick and got tired of the bullshyt of the jail bird

I only deal with sisters 35 and up, so I pretty sure majority I dated was with ex cons

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Ya'll ain't asking chicks their FICO score on the first date GTFOOHWTBS

If a dude asks me my FICO score when I barely know him I'd assume he was on some scam shyt.

 

[Swahili P'Bitek]

Ask no questions and be told no lies. A casual conversation reveals more than a barrage of disrespectful questions ever could.

 

[Blankthawtz]

Does your p*ssy stink after impact?....

 

[MajesticLion]

Swimming on the first date. Mandatory. The communication flows naturally regardless.





Sink or swim. Quadruple entendre, don't even ask.

 

[WaveWhisperer]

Do you accept responsibility for your actions?

 

[Koli_Kat]

I'm not asking you shyt. I throwing out little tests here and there to see how you react and adapt.

Actions speak louder than words. Time reveals.

 

[pawdalaw]

I ask off the wall shyt... "If a turtle and a rabbit were swimming who would win in a race?"

"If you could be any animal for a day, what would you be and what would you do?"

"What's your favorite color, have you ever worn that color from head to toe?"

There's a method to stimulating a woman's mind and gaining information. You gotta make her want to tell you her innermost thoughts and you have to ask in a way that ahe feels no judgement is being passed.


*It amazes me how many women say they would be a dog. And the reasons are all the same.

 

[Diyhai]

I'm not asking you shyt. I throwing out little tests here and there to see how you react and adapt.

Actions speak louder than words. Time reveals.

That shyt is manipulative to me
Once you start doing this why wouldn’t you expect the same from the other person
The more straightforward you are the more likely of the other person to be straightforward as well