Questions You Ask before You Date Someone Seriously

dizzy4111

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I always ask this basic question that determines if I'm going to date someone or not..

"What are your hobbies"

And if they reply.."umm I don't know"

Then its:camby:

For me thats a red flag I learned from experience. That person would need you to entertain them and I'm too much of a loner for that
Lowkey best post in here
 

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Ask no questions and be told no lies. A casual conversation reveals more than a barrage of disrespectful questions ever could.
You can easily take their answers out of context by assuming when you can ask. The same way people lie while answering a question is the same they can lie in a conversation. People are more likely to lie in conversation than when asked a straight question to me.
 

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That shyt is manipulative to me
Once you start doing this why wouldn’t you expect the same from the other person
The more straightforward you are the more likely of the other person to be straightforward as well

Everything in life is a test. Women even test you subconsciously.
 

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i dont get the question:dwillhuh:
could you explain

Women that were debuted are debutantes.
That question lets me know if she was a debutante or not.

Many people have their different criteria for serious relationships with the possible intent of marriage in mind.

That is my only non-negotiable criteria for marriage - that a woman had to be a debutante. And so that's the sole criteria I choose for serious relationships.

Debutantes are typically chosen from a certain type of black family. Well, at least, specific organizations choose debutantes from a certain type of black family. "With whom did you debut" let's me know off bat if she was a debutante and which organization sponsored her.

Being a debutante with the right organization means:
-She grew up with her father in her household (debutantes have to be presented by their fathers).
-She has an upstanding family name that values legacy (which means she understands building towards a common goal).
-Her family is financially comfortable (which means our potential kids will have access to wealth from not just my side but her side as well).
-Her family values high education (typically debutantes have to be college bound and have high gpa's)
-She's well-rounded (to become a debutante, you have to be involved in extra-curriculars, have hobbies, and volunteer a lot of hours to community service).
-She's most likely a legacy (many debutantes are legacy which means their mothers and grandmother's were debutantes as well).
-Her family values excellence, which combined with my own family, will be a mentality easily instilled in our children because of the environment they will be raised in.
-Her family has a good network (which will benefit me because I'm in business and always looking for critical connections outside of my own). Marrying her will give me instant access to another high powered network.
-Because she grew up in a two-parent household, she knows what it takes and has realistic expectations on what it means to make a family work.
-She knows how to present herself well (debutantes have to take multiple classes on manners, how to act, behave, present oneself, how to speak, how to conduct oneself in various situations) so I know that she will be able to hold her own.

There are so many underlying factors with being a debutante that answering the question "yeah, I was debuted at the Tuxedo Ball", answers every other essential question that I have, without her even having to answer them.

It's an efficient way to weed out the wheat from the chaff.
 

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My biggest thing is seeing them when they are mad. How do the resolve conflict? Most men are use to arguing and resort to childish tit for tat when they don't get their way. Can't stand it. Probably the biggest reason I stop seeing someone.

How is his sense of humor? Does he have one? And is he "funny" by belittling others? A lot of people like to insult others and call it jokes.

If they start asking for "favors"? Any people that starts asking for things when you barely know them is a user.

damn your around some very toxic people.
 

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I ask off the wall shyt... "If a turtle and a rabbit were swimming who would win in a race?"

"If you could be any animal for a day, what would you be and what would you do?"

"What's your favorite color, have you ever worn that color from head to toe?"

There's a method to stimulating a woman's mind and gaining information. You gotta make her want to tell you her innermost thoughts and you have to ask in a way that ahe feels no judgement is being passed.


*It amazes me how many women say they would be a dog. And the reasons are all the same.
Breh go into detail :dwillhuh:
 

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this thread has a lot of amateurs posing as experts.

Any woman I dated seriously I observed most of the things I would need to know to take her serious. Her around friends, family. her career/work life. her on a few drinks. her with her guard down/off and her on social media :youngsabo:

I'd rather see for myself than have her tell me how she carry herself and from that we can get serious.
 

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Im not putting my dikk in any woman with a low credit score or debt. That’s bad energy.

That needs to be figured out before the thought of marriage.

I hear you but I think a low credit score and/or debt isn’t everything.

I think your thought process plays a bigger factor.

Are they working to get out of debt? Do they plan to borrow again when their scores and debt improve?

A person with perfect credit and no debt today. Could become the person you mentioned in a year.

For me now. A high credit score just means you interact with debt in some form (or have old items on record that didn’t fall off yet). Aside from a mortgage I’m not feeling any form of borrowing money. No credit cards, etc..
 

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but the longer you wait to ask
The more invested you will be with the woman
Making you more likely to make a bad decision because of your feelings for her
When if you ask that question early it will make your decision more clear
People trap you by dropping bombs on you when you have feelings toward them

Every woman especially those 25-35 still dating do this, because they knew if hofax/a dating resume of sorts existed they'd be disqualified off rip. So they string men along slowly dropping more and more shyt a man won't like about them. Not prodding enough is how men end up saying she changed during marriage. She was always that person you just didn't force it out quick enough.

That shyt is manipulative to me
Once you start doing this why wouldn’t you expect the same from the other person
The more straightforward you are the more likely of the other person to be straightforward as well

Your spot on moreover that method takes more time/effort than necessary I'm an efficiency/pragmatist type guy. That's way to roundabout for inconclusive answers. If anything you'd do that AFTER you ask questions at random time to see if their words and actions line up
 
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