Refusing to allow your girl to go on a girls trip or travel alone VS Being cool with it and just cheating on her while shes away

[Windows 91]

Alot of times I'm happy she goes on those trips with her friends. Gives me time for myself and my hobbies. Plus some of her friends are major haters anyway and feed off drama, so they'd rat her out if she was cheating.

 

[DaddyFresh]

mentalities like this are why bytches cheat in the first place, whats the point if you cant trust your woman to be out with her friends, who were there before you, and may be there after you. caging bytches never EVER works and builds resentment.

Telling a bytch she can only have sex with you forever is literally caging her lmao

 

[Dave24]

As a Breh who's met girls on those trips back in the day when i use to wild out.....

And as a Breh who has some female friends that still keep in touch with me who tell me more than they should....

Don't let your girls go on these trips Brehs. I don't care how secure you think shyt is. She's fukking

What if she goes on these trips with her family?

 

[Phitz]

It’s really an ambiguous question.

There’s no way I would know that she would cheat just by going on vacation. A real relationship is built on trust. If I couldn’t trust my woman to go on vacation and not cheat, why would I be in a relationship with her?

It’s not like she’s saying “hey let me go to this male strip show where they do orgies out the back”. It’s a vacation, that’s where the ambiguity comes in.

As with anything there’s no real way of knowing what a person would do or not do 100%.

I think the real message here is to be vulnerable enough to take the L, that’s all trust really is. Everyone is trying too hard to be ultra fly and too cool for every goddamn thing.

I get your point, but everybody is human, why put your self in a situation where your imperfections may show themselves. It' not always about trust, but not everyone is not strong every day.

 

[Phitz]

Telling a bytch she can only have sex with you forever is literally caging her lmao

This is the 3rd dumbest comment I've read on the coli

 

[Phitz]

For the rest of my life, I or he are not allowed to have a vacation from each other??? If we do, we must be cheating?




We’d kill each other in 10 years tops

I dont understand how some of you people operate

why get with someone you need a vacation from unless you chose somebody you really don't like

Not saying you have to be joined at the hip but when did these "girls trips" and "living single while married/relationship" become a thing

this is why you all collect bodies

If a marriage and relationship feels like jail you doing something wrong or you should be alone for life

 

[Wildhundreds]

Dudes act like their girl gotta wait to go on vacation to cheat. Straight up squares around here.

 

[Phitz]

Eh. This is inexperienced negro talk. Unless you're in an Ina/Robert Caro type relationship where you were attending Princeton and met your wife when she was 16, and she's the love of your life and you're the love of her life, and you grew up together, you travel together, your families are intertwined, and so on...unless that is your situation, it's likely that you have periods where you just don't care about all this "cuck" and "follow her man" nonsense.

One thing missing in these conversations is, a lot of times you'll be around a chick so much that you just don't care about all that you lose that silly ego shyt. Sometimes you honestly want another person to take her off your hands for a little while. Like, "yea, go ahead with your girls for a few days" and inside you're thinking, "I hope somebody give her some dikk too because I don't feel like dealing with this chick right now."

It is what it is.



There is some heavy truth in this.

That's not inexperienced negro talk. Soem of you on some new age I don't want to know if I'm in an open relationship talk.

That's all it is. As I siad before if your marriage or relationship feels like jail you need to re evaluate your decision making and how you view things.

Just be alone forever then

You can't behave/move like a "single" person and then expect to have a healthy content marriage/relationship

 

[King]

I get your point, but everybody is human, why put your self in a situation where your imperfections may show themselves. It' not always about trust, but not everyone is not strong every day.

Why get into a car if you know the odds of you dying or getting injured are exponentially higher than any other form of transportation?

The point is that it's insecurity. If you're so concerned of your spouse cheating then you shouldn't be in that relationship.

 

[Phitz]

Why get into a car if you know the odds of you dying or getting injured are exponentially higher than any other form of transportation?

The point is that it's insecurity. If you're so concerned of your spouse cheating then you shouldn't be in that relationship.

I'ts not insecurity, it's common sense. You're in denial and subconciously agreeing to the possibility of open relationship/marriage

As I said, if you feel you need break from your wife/gf/fiance you need to reconsider being with them

If you need a break from any relationship you should stay single

Lie to yourself if you want

 

[Dave24]

That's not inexperienced negro talk. Soem of you on some new age I don't want to know if I'm in an open relationship talk.

That's all it is. As I siad before if your marriage or relationship feels like jail you need to re evaluate your decision making and how you view things.

Just be alone forever then

You can't behave/move like a "single" person and then expect to have a healthy content marriage/relationship

Sometimes you need a break from people, not just a girlfriend. It could be friends or family as well. I feel that way need my own space sometimes.

 

[King]

I'ts not insecurity, it's common sense. You're in denial and subconciously agreeing to the possibility of open relationship/marriage

As I said, if you feel you need break from your wife/gf/fiance you need to reconsider being with them

If you need a break from any relationship you should stay single

Lie to yourself if you want

You're projecting your insecurities onto the situation.

 

[Pseudonym]

I dont understand how some of you people operate

why get with someone you need a vacation from unless you chose somebody you really don't like

Not saying you have to be joined at the hip but when did these "girls trips" and "living single while married/relationship" become a thing

this is why you all collect bodies

If a marriage and relationship feels like jail you doing something wrong or you should be alone for life

it’s healthy to spend time apart

Plus we have different interests. I would enjoy a broadway show trip much more with my girlfriends and he would enjoy bike week/ a game weekend with his boys…

 

[Phitz]

You're projecting your insecurities onto the situation.

again it's common sense, "insecurity" is used to pacify the arguement and ignore realities of our flaws. Consistently needing a break periodically is either evidence of a bad decision or someone who needs to stay solo long term.

I have hobbies, my woman has hobbies and is in organizations, neither one of us have hte mentality of needing a break from the other person.

You're leaving a trap door for a shadow open relationship, and you're really NOT connected to your wife/gf.

 

[Phitz]

it’s healthy to spend time apart

Plus we have different interests. I would enjoy a broadway show trip much more with my girlfriends and he would enjoy bike week/ a game weekend with his boys…

This is vague and fluid concept that leaves a loop hole for infidelity. Shows a weak connection between 2 people.

I mentioned in another post that I have hobbies and interests, and she's active in organizations. We have friends. At the same time neither one of us has felt we needed a break from the other. That "desire" shows lack of strong connection.

This is a new thing that previous generations didnt do and it's mostly bullsh*t because I've seen the infidelity first hand on several occasions(sp?) on one or both parts.

People will lie to themselves though. Agree to disagree