relationships are a pain man....like am i wrong here?!!

[The ADD]

Breh, I'm not seeing what point you and @Rawtid are trying to argue here. Who has said that you should expect your partner to just lounge around in the crib all the time?

Wasn’t a direct quote my friend. General sentiment but so if it doesn’t apply……..

 

[The ADD]

That's a very weird perspective.

You're never going to find someone who's interests you align with perfectly. If you do, then congratulations breh: you're dating yourself lol.

That's where compromise comes in. If everything else is great except for a few sticking points, both parties try to compromise. In the case of OP, he's clearly tried to compromise and stretch himself, but his effort is unappreciated. This causes resentment.

I didn’t say perfectly…….further it’s not even about interest. More than enough stories here where it seems like people get into relationships and don’t really know the person past surface level.

In this case she clearly has a set of needs and expectations that it doesn’t seem the addressed before moving in together.

 

[The ADD]

Semantics. Compromise/tolerate. Speaking for myself, I'm not going to dump a good woman off the bat because she has interests that I don't particularly care for, as long as she appreciates me, reciprocates and doesn't demand anything that's too excessive.

In the case of OP it's not even about compromise at this point. It seems like his woman doesn't appreciate any of his efforts and constantly critiques him no matter what he does. Clearly that's not a healthy dynamic.

I wouldn’t say that having to tolerate doing things with your partner is compromise. I tolerate paying my taxes.

Chalk it up to semantics tho

 

[Depreciating Asset]

Breh been there... Save yourself before ya'll have kids together. She may be great in a variety of ways but ya'll are two different people that don't want the same thing out of life. Period. Two good well meaning people can just want different things that are not ultimately compatible. Get out now. I promise you won't regret it later

 

[RealCrownHeights]

That part

You do all this and bytches still gonna complain

 

[boogers]

A lot of great advice on this thread, but I gotta give you the "homie to homie", car-ride talk...

(Respectfully), get that bytch TF outta here!

You sound like a good, and chill dude. You're certainly a trick (which she recognizes), but we'll get back to that later. A lot of these hoes would kill to get wit a nkka, who does 25% of the shyt, you're doin, and this chick complaining. FOH.

The shyt is ungrateful, and entitled. Miss me wit that shyt. You don't exist, to be some bytch, personal genie. Did u pop outta lamp, when you met this bytch? At the least, you're incompatible. On a bigger note, after you're bussin up all this money on her, what is she really doing for you?

You fukkin up that type of bag, and she still out here, taking getaways, wit her crew? Come on, my guy.....

You better than that. Quit lettin shorty walk all over you, or project you're in the wrong for not fukkin up all your bread. She sounds like, she's in the way. Let her be some other nkka (simps) headache. At the end of the day, you're YOU, and she's HER. I'm 100% comfortable tellin a bytch (especially one, I'm dealin wit already) this shyt...

"If I'm not you're cup of tea (which is already cap, cuz she already deals wit you), THEN go get you the nkka, you're lookin for. THIS AINT THAT."

If she fukks wit u the loooong way, then she's gonna get wit the program (cuz she's not gonna risk losing you). If she don't (and in your case, sees you as Trick Daddy), then you already know what time it is, AND YOU WON ANYWAY. Don't be a simp, walkover nkka. Women don't (truly) respect that shyt.

i didnt read all this but the vibe i got off the first paragraph was 'find someone who loves you and not your wallet'

if thats the case then they are right

 

[Rozay Oro]

I’ve personally given up but sounds like you should replace her or continue to suffer

 

[Ironman]

Dump her before xmas

 

[Rawtid]

I'm agreeing.

I'm saying there's even less of excuses since there's no kids involved.

I usually strive to have a formal date night, at least once a week.

And dates were only one component of what she was asking for.

She was asking for random acts of appreciation,, without having to ask.



I usually do some combination of buying flowers, booking a manicure / pedicure appointment booking a couples massage or coping a $25 gift card to somewhere a woman, I'm dealing with likes, every so often.

These little gestures go a long way imo.

Because like I mentioned before the problem is, while OP maybe doing a lot. Men are always being compared to or competing against: what a woman's past ex's did, what men who to smash did, what women see on social media, what women read and what their friends are bragging about.

Why does it have to be the last man’s standard’s and not her own? Don’t you get a hair cut regardless if you’re single or not?

 

[Depreciating Asset]

Sounds like you need to drop her asap, she gone have you stressing. my Ex was just like her always wanting to travel and go out and shyt meanwhile I was cool with chilling in the house I dropped her earlier this year and been stress free ever since not mention the extra money I've saving as well meanwhile she putting herself in hella debt trying to keep up with Social Media.

This

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

Earlier this year, I went to x place with my girl. Spent like 5 days, super nice high rise hotel, then two overseas country halfway through the year...for close to a week.... she constantly complains about me not courting her. We live together. Our last date was a month ago. In between thanks giving holiday, also I traveled to South Florida myself n she goes to vegas and now wants to do a trip or road trip which I honestly don't care to do. All my vacation days have been spent traveling, I just want to freaking chill.

Like damn, its like women keep watching these social media sheet n think life should be some fairy tale romance movies daily, dates weekly blah blah. I am perfectly fine just chillin at the house. I have always been this way. F

Like I am the easiest guy to date because I am mad laid back and let things work itself out (lol she complains about that too). Now she is talking about trouble in paradise.

lol am I wrong here? Also valentines day and her birthday, I went big for her. It's like all that is out of the window.

Ask her to pay for the next trips and watch how quick she becomes a homebody...

 

[Bboystyle]

Sounds like you not with the right woman for you. Find you a homebody.

I thought that shyt said homeboy. Had to do a double take

 

[WaveWhisperer]

Make her pay for the trip for the both of you and if she doesn't she can shut the fukk up. Either way you might have to fire her since she sounds high maintenance and entitled.

 

[Primetime21]

Why do I feel the party complaining is not the same one footing the bill for rent/mortgage and these extravagant trips. Man you can listen to these suckers if you want to

 

[Uncle Trill]

That's why I love being single. All my money for myself and I can do whatever the fukk I like.