Relationships seem to just be about doing a lot of shyt you don’t want to do..

[Tommy Knocks]

she lookin bored so I just told her to YouTube tutorial how to make jambalaya. She doing it too, she got up to grab a pen and paper

You literally have to just give them something to do.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Spell it out. Genuinely curious btw

Like swallowing nut...or washing the skid marks out of your drawers...or cleaning up behind a grown ass man...

But even beyond that I had an ex tell me he didn't realize he was on the verge of depression until he met me. Because prior to us getting together, he would spend 24/7 in his one bedroom apartment, only leave to go to work and come back. Blinds closed, old take-out boxes and dirty carpet, crumbs of soap, mattress and a box spring with no headboard or fitted sheets, mold in the bathroom, socks with holes in em, rings around the tub, nothing in the fridge and the only people he talked to were on PSN.

I tried it with him for a while and that shyt made ME depressed. When you start drinking liquor just to tolerate somebody...hell them trips to Walmart felt like freedom.

Initially I would ask him to come with me b/c I'm used to a wide circle of friends. I'm used to people just popping by my apartment for Ghibli Studio marathons and dinner. I'm used to pub crawling and board games with friends at 3am on a Saturday night in bars. Karaoke, figuring out answers to life's problems, debates in 24 hour French bakeries, traveling, brunch with professors all kinds of shyt b/c my brain can't stay still for too long and I'm a gamer too, but doing that shyt every single day non-stop?!

But he had a way of not wanting to go anywhere with me, but also not wanting ME to go anywhere either. It's hard to describe feeling emotionally manipulated into cutting off parts of urself for somebody else b/c you feel sorry for them or b/c you don't want to leave them behind.

Sometimes if these chicks are in the same boat as me, we just wanna get out the damn house. I remember cancelling a pub crawl with my friends for New Years for this dude and literally spent the night drunk on a ratty ass couch watching Robot Chicken miserable b/c he didn't wanna go anywhere.l literally had friends and family telling me I glowed when we broke up. shyt affected me mentally and physically.

Never again.

 

[King Khufu]

Some chicks just want to be seen as popular no matter how stupid the idea is.
It could be a feet of snow and I'm sure theres always going to be that one chick talking about lets go out to blahze blahze woo woo woo just so she can show off her new dress and get attention out in public.

 

[Astroslik]

There's more than one bytch in here

Including you

@Astroslik
@Astroslik
@Astroslik
@Astroslik

Nice one bytch nikka

Be a man next time

 

[kdslittlebro]

Meanwhile she just over my shoulder like "whats that , wanna walk around a crowded mall with no intent on buying anything "

nikka go pull up a cooking show on YouTube and learn a new dish stop hovering over my shoulder

 

[im outchea]

Once I get out of my current relationship I’m done with relationships. Way too much bullshyt. Single life is the way to go

 

[Roid Jones]

Look at these lames coming up with a list of reasons for their single status

 

[O.T.I.S.]

wow reading this thread after my girl just asked me to go to the mall on xmas day. im even surprised anything is open as Filipinos are hella religious but the audacity to ask me to go roam a mall at some 11am on xmas day. I didn't even respond I just looked at her like and went right back to my laptop.

She talking about let's go dating. Tf I want to do that for? Why they so allergic to the house? Its cause women have no hobbies. I'm here watching ufc embedded and downloading darksiders.. I don't know wtf she doing on her phone it looks like online shopping while video chatting her cousin but funny thing is I hear her cousin talking to the baby so they on video chat but not talking to each other.

Bruh I’m literally doing school work right now and she’s texting me from downstairs about going out AGAIN tonight...

It’s like the 8th time today... just enjoy Christmas Eve at home like normal people



And we already got parties to go to tomorrow... so why tf can’t you relax tonight (let ME relax tonight).


Zero hobbies but sitting in traffic and walking around the mall is what they consider hobbies or spending time together?

 

[Astroslik]

Like swallowing nut...or washing the skid marks out of your drawers...or cleaning up behind a grown ass man...

But even beyond that I had an ex tell me he didn't realize he was on the verge of depression until he met me. Because prior to us getting together, he would spend 24/7 in his one bedroom apartment, only leave to go to work and come back. Blinds closed, old take-out boxes and dirty carpet, crumbs of soap, mattress and a box spring with no headboard or fitted sheets, mold in the bathroom, socks with holes in em, rings around the tub, nothing in the fridge and the only people he talked to were on PSN.

I tried it with him for a while and that shyt made ME depressed. When you start drinking liquor just to tolerate somebody...hell them trips to Walmart felt like freedom.

Initially I would ask him to come with me b/c I'm used to a wide circle of friends. I'm used to people just popping by my apartment for Ghibli Studio marathons and dinner. I'm used to pub crawling and board games with friends at 3am on a Saturday night in bars. Karaoke, figuring out answers to life's problems, debates in 24 hour French bakeries, traveling, brunch with professors all kinds of shyt b/c my brain can't stay still for too long and I'm a gamer too, but doing that shyt every single day non-stop?!

But he had a way of not wanting to go anywhere with me, but also not wanting ME to go anywhere either. It's hard to describe feeling emotionally manipulated into cutting off parts of urself for somebody else b/c you feel sorry for them or b/c you don't want to leave them behind.

Sometimes if these chicks are in the same boat as me, we just wanna get out the damn house. I remember cancelling a pub crawl with my friends for New Years for this dude and literally spent the night drunk on a ratty ass couch watching Robot Chicken miserable b/c he didn't wanna go anywhere.l literally had friends and family telling me I glowed when we broke up. shyt affected me mentally and physically.

Never again.

clearly y’all weren’t compatable.

You were dealing with a depressed bummy nikka, that’s not the norm.


You operate in extremes, and I know black women who genuinely like to swallow nut and cook/clean for a man. Just because YOU don’t like to please your man in that way, doesn’t mean other brehettes don’t.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Communication is the key as well as compromise.

Because trust me there is shyt that men want that we aren't interested in either.

Enlighten me because I can wash my own shyt and she ain’t got to swallow my nuts if she doesn’t want to

But I agree in compromise but it gets to the point where my limit for compromises is reached before hers ever will.

Compromising for me is literally giving me time to do my homework or letting me watch my teams in peace. I don’t ask her to do anything or go anywhere she doesn’t want to.

And fareal, sounded like you just dealt with a bummy nikka. Even single And depressed I’m not that dirty

 

[Serious]

Basically

I just told old girl I’m not going and didn’t go and she got mad.

We talking about the after effects of saying no as well.

Bro I asked her 3 separate times and got 3 separate answers this weekend... specially about today

What else am I supposed to do.. ask her some more? Every minute she changes her fukking mind


I don’t go to malls period but everything else is nice and lowkey/relaxing.

Specifically the grocery store ( I’m a vet so I go to the one on the air force base because hardly anyone is there and it’s cheaper. I go to their PX too).

Dawg how old are you?

You not even in a relationship, yet you talking like a simp in their first relationship.

You the homie, but a lot of the stuff you're complaining about are non issues once you check a woman youre dealing with regarding your preferences.

If she gets mad so what. She's not even your gf.

 

[TntBdx]

a relationship should never be a priority, life is a battle, and nikkas wanna fantasize about romance, leave that to the women
nikkas were suckers for love and end up mgtow or whatever cuz they ain't had their shyt in order

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Your moms is a G. That said tho, she’s also a .01% type person. If you’re holding out for a chick like that in today’s day and age there’s likely a HIGH probability of you dying alone . Seriously no offense, but that’s essentially like the male version of the chicks waiting for the 6 figure 6 cert tupac in a business suit , more difficult even perhaps.

I know, breh. She's dat nikka foreal.

Even the women in my life have commented that they could never live up to that.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Dawg how old are you?

You not even in a relationship, yet you talking like a simp in their first relationship.

You the homie, but a lot of the stuff you're complaining about are non issues once you check a woman youre dealing with regarding your preferences.

If she gets mad so what. She's not even your gf.

Technically she is... when did I say she wasn’t? If she isn’t she’s the closest thing I’ve had to one in years...

And I’m old enough... nikkas act like you got to be young to vent or complain. Old nikkas be the main fukking ones crying about their relationships, cheating, trying to escape from home.

All I literally said was how many more times was I supposed to ask her the same question. I even said normally I don’t care about this shyt but this time of year it’s been specifically bad... especially today

 

[Tommy Knocks]

Bruh I’m literally doing school work right now and she’s texting me from downstairs about going out AGAIN tonight...

It’s like the 8th time today... just enjoy Christmas Eve at home like normal people



And we already got parties to go to tomorrow... so why tf can’t you relax tonight (let ME relax tonight).


Zero hobbies but sitting in traffic and walking around the mall is what they consider hobbies or spending time together?

without kids they have nothing to do but watch shows and social media. They have zero hobbies. I'm serious one day just secretly pay attention and analyze. Watch what they do the whole day. Its TV series, fb/ig and sleep. Occassional make up tutorials if they have a party coming soon. Thats it.

They are a one tab at a time type of people. theyll video chat with nothing to say and lots of dead space in between conversation. have you ever ear hustled on their conversations for a second? Its about nothing. When men chat its to set plans and link up. That's it. Women can video chat and listen to each other breathe for 3 mins. I decline most female attempts and they still be trying to video chat. And the few times I do accept as soon as I hear "what you doing" I know it's gonna some bullshyt. Imma start saying if you aint naked dont be jumping on my video line.