Relationships seem to just be about doing a lot of shyt you don’t want to do..

[mag357]

This is the first time I've done no strings attached sex. I still have my own personal reservations about just fukking around with multiple guys--I just can't. Its not because I'm attached, I just don't want to be sexing a lot of different men. I believe in soul ties. Most of my friends are in the church and I'm in the church too(supposed to be chaste actually because I'm actively involved) so I guess you can say I'm just trying to be lowkey, don't want to be a thot, etc.

Cool.,.. so why this dude? Why is he the chosen one?
U mentioned soul ties?
I got a point...it's coming. Don't worry lol

 

[King Poetic]

Why u think I waited till I was 36 to be in a relationship and booty was no longer a priority for me...

I enjoyed single life, but I’m older now and like for my woman to cook home meals for me

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Cool.,.. so why this dude? Why is he the chosen one?
U mentioned soul ties?
I got a point...it's coming. Don't worry lol

Because he's the first dude I met when I had an epiphany that I wanted dikk (yolo) and not a relationship(esp not with him, not relationship material), it wasn't anything complex. He was just around at the time, when I realized I was interested in trying something different. Trust me, there's nothing deep with it. And Actually, he ain't the only one, before I made the decision to do a no strings attached, I had messed around with an ex a few times a couple of months ago, with no feelings whatsoever for him afterwards(he on the other hand, is a different story lol) but it was nice to just get mine and go home. And it's how I realized that I was missing out, because of sexual repression, guilt, etc, and that I wasn't doing that again--this guy happened to be around and the right time. Simple as that.

 

[Cat piss martini]

relationships/marriages are like church
and AA meetings......it's for quitters.
you can never truly be yourself in a relationship.
it's all acting and lying.
a woman will never know her man like his side thing
because the side thing appreciates every second
of his time and he can truly be the lowlife he always
was without fear of judgement.

 

[Bumblebreh]

What I don't get is why men are shamed for only wanting sex and being non committal, yet when women go through phases or stages in life, where they're content with only sexual relationships, its perfectly cool.

For example, when men see an attractive woman, the first and only thing on our mind is sex. The concept of wanting to settle down, envision kids, properly go on dates, engage in couple activities(costco at 12pm) or examining woman's potential compatibility, never enters the realm of the equation.

Yet access to sex with someone attractive is artificially forged instead of true character compatibility.

Because some men bullshyt and lie to get sex.Selling dreams to get the p*ssy.But women get attached and start to develop deeper feelings which is natural.Men choose and women want to be chosen if that make sense.
It should not really be a problem if both the man and the woman practice safe consensual sex.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Relationships are cool when you don't just settle just for the sake of wanting consistent ass. Once you figure out the shyt thats most important to you that you need in order to be content in a relationship you stick to it a dont settle. Nobody perfect but if they full fill your top 5 things in order to thrive in a relationship then the extra becomes tolerable. But relationships not for everyone which is ok don't let anyone tell you different, just do you. Don't have nobody there just cause you don't want to be alone, that's that bullshyt.

I'm not settling bro, no matter what relationship I was in females did that shyt. I know it's not all but it's just one of those things I got to live with


I can still vent though

 

[mag357]

Because he's the first dude I met when I had an epiphany that I wanted dikk (yolo) and not a relationship(esp not with him, not relationship material), it wasn't anything complex. He was just around at the time, when I realized I was interested in trying something different. Trust me, there's nothing deep with it. And Actually, he ain't the only one, before I made the decision to do a no strings attached, I had messed around with an ex a few times a couple of months ago, with no feelings whatsoever for him afterwards(he on the other hand, is a different story lol) but it was nice to just get mine and go home. And it's how I realized that I was missing out, because of sexual repression, guilt, etc, and that I wasn't doing that again--this guy happened to be around and the right time. Simple as that.

So check it out.... U still could be fukking other ppl while ur fukking this guy.. he could be Thursday and u could have been a guy for Saturday and another for Monday.
Like I guarantee, he has u and a Saturday and Monday...
I guess what I'm saying is, even if women say "I don't like him like that...he's just dikk" "he's not relationship material, he's just dikk"... There's still something there on y'all end (emotionally) or something, cause women can have the opportunity to fukk all the time, all diff types but they usually choose just one, whether it be in a relationship or even when they're single...
So I asked , why him?
U said he was around..
But there are others around... U just chose him. The shyt is mind boggling to a man...

 

[CarmelBarbie]

So check it out.... U still could be fukking other ppl while ur fukking this guy.. he could be Thursday and u could have been a guy for Saturday and another for Monday.
Like I guarantee, he has u and a Saturday and Monday...
I guess what I'm saying is, even if women say "I don't like him like that...he's just dikk" "he's not relationship material, he's just dikk"... There's still something there on y'all end (emotionally) or something, cause women can have the opportunity to fukk all the time, all diff types but they usually choose just one, whether it be in a relationship or even when they're single...
So I asked , why him?
U said he was around..
But there are others around... U just chose him. The shyt is mind boggling to a man...

Because I'm not a thot, and considering my age and the amount of long term relationships I've been in, I have a low body count, I want to maintain that. Again I believe in soul ties, and even though I decided that I want to have sex without being in a relationship, I'm not interested in fukking every dude I meet, I'm not interested in having sex with a lot of different men. I'm not interested in opening my legs every time I see a man I'm attracted to. I met him, at a "lucky" time for him, at an event, he was attractive, we were attracted to each other, we talked, vibed well, was actually considering him as relationship material. Until I found out later on he had two baby mamas.

 

[mag357]

And it's how I realized that I was missing out, because of sexual repression, guilt, etc, and that I wasn't doing that again--this guy happened to be around and the right time. Simple as that.

Because I'm not a thot, and considering my age and the amount of long term relationships I've been in, I have a low body count, I want to maintain that. Again I believe in soul ties, and even though I decided that I want to have sex without being in a relationship, I'm not interested in fukking every dude I meet, I'm not interested in having sex with a lot of different men. I'm not interested in opening my legs every time I see a man I'm attracted to. I met him, at a "lucky" time for him, at an event, he was attractive, we were attracted to each other, we talked, vibed well, was actually considering him as relationship material. Until I found out later on he had two baby mamas.

I highlighted what u said earlier above.... Why would having sex with different dudes be "Thot" business... And "why are u concerned with " low body count"? Above u talked about guilt and sexual repression..
Some People would consider what u doing, allegedly having sex with no emotional ties "thot* work...
And im making a point that u actually digg him, like have an emotional attachment to him, even tho u say u don't. And this is the nature of most women.
The ultimate proof is that u actually considered him "relationship material".... Which means u liked him.
But u found out whatever, and ur saying that he's not relationship material anymore. Doesn't mean u don't still digg this nikka like that. That's just ur brain telling u, this ain't the guy u should be actually giving a title to.
But u are attached, and the reason why he's the only one... Cause again, I'm sure if u wanted to..u could cut him off and go to a different dikk, that doesn't have kids. Or is at least relationship material.
This realization is important for u, sis... And I'm sure every nikka in here can attest to this.
Ur gonna lose in the long run.
I can see if u were actually a Thot then u would be fine

 

[CarmelBarbie]

I highlighted what u said earlier above.... Why would having sex with different dudes be "Thot" business... And "why are u concerned with " low body count"? Above u talked about guilt and sexual repression..
Some People would consider what u doing, allegedly having sex with no emotional ties "thot* work...
And im making a point that u actually digg him, like have an emotional attachment to him, even tho u say u don't. And this is the nature of most women.
The ultimate proof is that u actually considered him "relationship material".... Which means u liked him.
But u found out whatever, and ur saying that he's not relationship material anymore. Doesn't mean u don't still digg this nikka like that. That's just ur brain telling u, this ain't the guy u should be actually giving a title to.
But u are attached, and the reason why he's the only one... Cause again, I'm sure if u wanted to..u could cut him off and go to a different dikk, that doesn't have kids. Or is at least relationship material.
This realization is important for u, sis... And I'm sure every nikka in here can attest to this.
Ur gonna lose in the long run.
I can see if u were actually a Thot then u would be fine

Well truthfully I guess I'm still holding on to some of biases about sex--all that repression and guilt isn't gone. It's true that by having sex without a relationship I am still creating an attachment, but for me, my feelings aren't there. He's blowing my phone up, I'm barely responding. Then again, I'm busy, I'm older(grown), I have a child, and it's not something that preoccupies me(thinking about him). True, I could cut him off and go to someone else, but I'll admit that I don't go out very much, only tend to move in church circles, and I'm still pretty fickle about relationships(not sure if I want one, or not, not sure if I'm ready or not, etc), I'm not fully ready, but it's definitely goals for 2019. For now, I'm just trying to enjoy myself, stop bruh. Let me just enjoy this without your analyzing.

 

[mag357]

Well truthfully I guess I'm still holding on to some of biases about sex--all that repression and guilt isn't gone. It's true that by having sex without a relationship I am still creating an attachment, but for me, my feelings aren't there. He's blowing my phone up, I'm barely responding. Then again, I'm busy, I'm older(grown), I have a child, and it's not something that preoccupies me(thinking about him). True, I could cut him off and go to someone else, but I'll admit that I don't go out very much, only tend to move in church circles, and I'm still pretty fickle about relationships(not sure if I want one, or not, not sure if I'm ready or not, etc), I'm not fully ready, but it's definitely goals for 2019. For now, I'm just trying to enjoy myself, stop bruh. Let me just enjoy this without your analyzing.

I gotcha... Understood

 

[O.T.I.S.]

What’s hilarious is that people are trying to talk like this isn’t a normal thing

But T-Pain made a whole song about it

 

[Dave24]

nikkas be cuffing tryna secure a watering hole

stay hydrated

*

 

[Dave24]

Everytime I look over and see a bro sitting with his girl/wife, kids and shyt... nikka never looks happy lol.
Be at the mall and can't even look at all the nice ass and titties just bouncing around... I look for him tho.. then give him the look like
He be like

 

[Jermio]

No.

This isn't gonna go over well, but trust me when I tell you that if men acted the way women act in relationships, you wouldn't want to be in a relationship either.

I'm not even talking about bad women or bad relationships. Just the constant need to be entertained, and expecting the entertainment having to come from the man's side... is fukking draining.

It'd be cool if, like you said, it was shyt that I wanted to do. But... it's not. It's never shyt that I wanna do. Never in the history of manhood has a dude wanted to go thrift shopping for bedrames and curtains after hiking at 6 am on a Sunday morning. But we do that shyt because ya'll cry if we don't.

Imagine if your breh woke you up on the weekend like, "Baaaaabe! We gonna go to my boy's house 2 hours away and play Dungeons and Dragons till the sun comes up! Get your shoes on and grab your keys, you're driving. Oh and let's stop off at the Popeye's that's half an hour out of the way before we get on the road!!! There's probably gonna be traffic cause they're tearing up the road in that direction so let's hurry!!! "

That's what it's like to be a dude, every weekend.

Ya'll gotta chill with the horrible ideas, brehette.

No lies were told.