Relationships seem to just be about doing a lot of shyt you don’t want to do..

[Serious]

That has changed in the last few months—and will continue on in 2019. Ive found satisfaction without being in a relationship and right now I’m content with it, and I feel for dudes that need to be in relationships to not go through those droughts.

What I don't get is why men are shamed for only wanting sex and being non committal, yet when women go through phases or stages in life, where they're content with only sexual relationships, its perfectly cool.

For example, when men see an attractive woman, the first and only thing on our mind is sex. The concept of wanting to settle down, envision kids, properly go on dates, engage in couple activities(costco at 12pm) or examining woman's potential compatibility, never enters the realm of the equation.

Yet access to sex with someone attractive is artificially forged instead of true character compatibility.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

What I don't get is why men are shamed for only wanting sex and being non committal, yet when women go through phases or stages in life, where they're content with only sexual relationships, its perfectly cool.

For example, when men see an attractive woman, the first and only thing on our mind is sex. The concept of wanting to settling down, envisioning kids, or the woman's potential interest never enters the realm of the equation.

Yet access to sex with someone attractive is forged instead of character compatibility.

I’ve never shamed men for wanting sex only relationships. So I can’t speak on that. Truthfully this is the first time in my life where I’ve been on this—and now that I am I can see why so many people enjoy these sort of non commital situationships.

But when I was sticking to having sex in relationships, only, I never judged men that preferred sex only situations. I always saw it as a to each their own type of thing.

 

[Burned Verses]

One of the main reasons I’m dry is because I hate the things most people enjoy and vice versa.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Hey I get it.

Men tend to get on my nerves too, if I’m around them too often, I feel like they invade my space.

The problem was that I’ve always been a relationship-only-sex type of girl, so for sex, I felt the need to be in a relationship.

That has changed in the last few months—and will continue on in 2019. Ive found satisfaction without being in a relationship and right now I’m content with it, and I feel for dudes that need to be in relationships to not go through those droughts. Lowkey, it’s funny how sex motivates a lot of relationships.

I do enjoy being in relationships when they’ve been with the right guys,
but even then, I found myself annoyed a lot too. I have hobbies and a life, and value my time immensely so I can understand where your coming from. Matter of fact, I’ve always said i’ll never live with a man again because of how annoying I found it(like ugh, I’m not trying to see you this much lmao)

But I’ll probably get into another one sometime soon.

It is what it is.

It definitely takes some gettin used to...

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Damn...forget on the verge of depression, dude was really in the thick of it

for trying, even if shyt didn't work out. You didn't have to do that.
That's rare - most people immediately hit the :towelmax: when they see the effects of depression.


I hope breh got some help and is doing better now...it's possible to bounce back, i speak from experience. The pills work.

I think he was just going thru a rough patch in his life. We all do at some point but it's how we respond to it that makes us who we are and he started getting really out of pocket at one point but it's all cool now and he's doing much better last time I heard from him.

 

[jwonder]

Yeah a really good friend of mine has slick been tryna set me up with his sister for a minute now

He did on the sly but it was dumb. He was like my sister would be your type. But she lived in another state at the time

But she moved the next year and that's when I met her.


He likes ratchet chicks and it took him awhile to get why I wouldn't want to hang with his girl and her friends

 

[mag357]

Hey I get it.

Men tend to get on my nerves too, if I’m around them too often, I feel like they invade my space.

The problem was that I’ve always been a relationship-only-sex type of girl, so for sex, I felt the need to be in a relationship.

That has changed in the last few months—and will continue on in 2019. Ive found satisfaction without being in a relationship and right now I’m content with it, and I feel for dudes that need to be in relationships to not go through those droughts. Lowkey, it’s funny how sex motivates a lot of relationships.

I do enjoy being in relationships when they’ve been with the right guys,
but even then, I found myself annoyed a lot too. I have hobbies and a life, and value my time immensely so I can understand where your coming from. Matter of fact, I’ve always said i’ll never live with a man again because of how annoying I found it(like ugh, I’m not trying to see you this much lmao)

But I’ll probably get into another one sometime soon.

It is what it is.

Even now that ur not really into being in a relationship to have sex... Are u having sex with multiple ppl.. or mainly just 1 dude.?

 

[mag357]

She's not a 6. I just know the beauty standards are ridiculous these days, so to me she's a 8,9,10 depending on the look she goes with. But I know to the average nikka if she ain't a light skin redbone with a phat ass , double D titties, long hair down to her waist and a bunch of makeup then she's considered average or under 7.

It's not that she's not a hassle cuz she's ugly, cuz she's attractive. She's not a hassle because she doesn't care for the attention which was the point in my original post. Guys message her and try to talk to her all the time even without the makeup and her being all natural, but she doesn't entertain it. She got some big titties too, but she doesn't put emphasis on them in her wardrobe cuz again she's not looking for the attention that most of these other girls are. I'm "settling" cuz she's the right one for me and we compliment each other. Plus I know from being single for so long that there's nothing out here.

I feel u... And totally understand. Ur on the right track with that one...
How old is she and u said guys message her... So she's on social media?
I have a working theory that I wanna see if it eorjs in this case

 

[mag357]

Bruh, I don't do nothing but come through once in a while, smoke, drink, and smash. The only reason I met her family is cause she told me her sister nam was drinking and had bottles, so I slide through. I don't do shyt special with these chick and I damn sure ain't spend no holiday with none

Cool... But I wish she was here to tell it bro... Being with her anywhere outside is pretty much a violation, so meeting any friends or fam is definitely a major violation.
I just don't like how us us men try to make females look crazy... When we not playing the game right on our end.
Women are already fragile when it comes to letting nikkaz inside them. They get attached more quickly... We really don't.
So every precaution has to be taken to keep them understanding what the situation is...
But i find that most dudes like playing that type of game wit females, just to act like shorty is crazy later on.
I'm not saying u did that... Just saying If ur on ur playboy shyt, play the game the right way... And u shouldnt have many problems like this come up

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Even now that ur not really into being in a relationship to have sex... Are u having sex with multiple ppl.. or mainly just 1 dude.?

Just 1.

 

[mag357]

Just 1.

Seeee... Even when female is on some "just chilling, being free, no attachments sex" shyt...they still only be attached to one dikk.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Seeee... Even when female is on some "just chilling, being free, no attachments sex" shyt...they still only be attached to one dikk.

LMAO. Its just sex to me tho. No feelings.

 

[mag357]

LMAO. Its just sex to me tho. No feelings.

Seee... I feel u. But check it.
How come ur not fukking nobody else then?
I'm sure u get dikk offered to u, attractive dikk....I'm sure u got willing dikk in ur phone... Why are u just fukking this 1 dude?

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Seee... I feel u. But check it.
How come ur not fukking nobody else then?
I'm sure u get dikk offered to u, attractive dikk....I'm sure u got willing dikk in ur phone... Why are u just fukking this 1 dude?

This is the first time I've done no strings attached sex. I still have my own personal reservations about just fukking around with multiple guys--I just can't. Its not because I'm attached, I just don't want to be sexing a lot of different men. I believe in soul ties. Most of my friends are in the church and I'm in the church too(supposed to be chaste actually because I'm actively involved) so I guess you can say I'm just trying to be lowkey, don't want to be a thot, etc.

 

[etrofllenrod504]

I see one of the main reasons I wanted to be single. I don’t see the point of most of the shyt She wants to do for entertainment. Everytime we go somewhere it has to be crowded af, long ass waits, etc., like I just need to come up with every single idea myself just to avoid me having to do dumb shyt.

Relationships are cool when you don't just settle just for the sake of wanting consistent ass. Once you figure out the shyt thats most important to you that you need in order to be content in a relationship you stick to it a dont settle. Nobody perfect but if they full fill your top 5 things in order to thrive in a relationship then the extra becomes tolerable. But relationships not for everyone which is ok don't let anyone tell you different, just do you. Don't have nobody there just cause you don't want to be alone, that's that bullshyt.