Relationships seem to just be about doing a lot of shyt you don’t want to do..

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I see one of the main reasons I wanted to be single. I don’t see the point of most of the shyt She wants to do for entertainment. Everytime we go somewhere it has to be crowded af, long ass waits, etc., like I just need to come up with every single idea myself just to avoid me having to do dumb shyt.
 
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I remember a few years ago, I got home early from work due to an impending blizzard...there was probably about an inch or so sticking.

Hit up ol girl I was seeing to come through before the storm. She lived down the street so we could bear through it together :mjlit:

Bih comes talking about, "It looks so nice outside...we should go out to eat at X spot :queen:"

Me: ".. You joking, right?:stopitslime: They are literally predicting over foot of snow outside."

Her: "But there's not that much out right now. I wanna walk out in the snow with you :queen:"

Me: "... I'm good "


Her: "And this is why ..." :mad::fire::confused::angry:

Still smashed tho :mjgrin:


But case in point, I agree OP...fukk all of that bullshyt planning. I'd have to really love her to compromise on that.
 

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Find someone with similar interests who you enjoy spending time with.

You'll eventually do all those little things when you find the right woman. I hated all that shyt but ended up doing it when I met my wife.


Pretty much this, get someome who has the same likes as you and same personality will be so much better but fair warning. Moving in with someone is a fast way to kill a relationship

Personal space is underated
 

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Find someone with similar interests who you enjoy spending time with.

You'll eventually do all those little things when you find the right woman. I hated all that shyt but ended up doing it when I met my wife.
Nah I get it, she’s cool and does a lot of good things, etc.,

But she can be annoying af. I literally just spent 40 minutes looking for parking just for her to go to one store at the outlet mall... in which she spent hours in there too. She wanted to eat at some strange place and we get there, another line and it’s small/crowded I’m like I’m about to go somewhere else and she gets upset...

Thing is I normally don’t care but I have short patience especially because everything is crowded af this time of year. I flew in from the airport and I’m telling her to take the backroad. She doesn’t listen, takes her an entire 3 hours to pick me up

Like her decision making skills are ass lately and I’m just to the point where I’m gonna make the decisions from now on.
 

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Relationships often involve some level of sacrifice and compromise--then again that doesn't just extend to romantic relationships, nearly any close relationship you have with anyone will require you to do things that you don't want to do from time to time. That being said, it sounds like you're in the wrong relationship, if it's a common thing for you two to be doing things that you dislike doing. I was in one relationship like this, where I found myself always doing activities that I know I would not do if I were not with him and it was annoying tbh. We weren't compatible.

But I've been in relationships that were the opposite(we often enjoyed some of the same things, or when we tried the other's hobbies we ended up having fun) so I know that your conclusion isn't true. It's true for your relationship because you aren't with the right person lol. It is possible to be in a relationship where you do things you both appreciate, even though there will still be times where you have to do something you don't like, but you need to be with the right person. sounds like you aren't.
 

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Relationships often involve some level of sacrifice and compromise--then again that doesn't just extend to romantic relationships, nearly any close relationship you have with anyone will require you to do things that you don't want to do from time to time. That being said, it sounds like you're in the wrong relationship, if it's a common thing for you two to be doing things that you dislike doing. I was in one relationship like this, where I found myself always doing activities that I know I would not do if I were not with him and it was annoying tbh. We weren't compatible.

But I've been in relationships that were the opposite(we often enjoyed some of the same things, or when we tried the other's hobbies we ended up having fun) so I know that your conclusion isn't true. It's true for your relationship because you aren't with the right person lol. It is possible to be in a relationship where you do things you both appreciate, even though there will still be times where you have to do something you don't like, but you need to be with the right person. sounds like you aren't.

No.

This isn't gonna go over well, but trust me when I tell you that if men acted the way women act in relationships, you wouldn't want to be in a relationship either.

I'm not even talking about bad women or bad relationships. Just the constant need to be entertained, and expecting the entertainment having to come from the man's side... is fukking draining.

It'd be cool if, like you said, it was shyt that I wanted to do. But... it's not. It's never shyt that I wanna do. Never in the history of manhood has a dude wanted to go thrift shopping for bedrames and curtains after hiking at 6 am on a Sunday morning. :stopitslime: But we do that shyt because ya'll cry if we don't.

Imagine if your breh woke you up on the weekend like, "Baaaaabe! :krs: We gonna go to my boy's house 2 hours away and play Dungeons and Dragons till the sun comes up! Get your shoes on and grab your keys, you're driving. Oh and let's stop off at the Popeye's that's half an hour out of the way before we get on the road!!! There's probably gonna be traffic cause they're tearing up the road in that direction so let's hurry!!! :gladbron:"

That's what it's like to be a dude, every weekend. :to:

Ya'll gotta chill with the horrible ideas, brehette.

 
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Set your foot down and tell her you ain't gonna be doing all this waste of time sh.

You are still gonna do activities she likes, but just not as much.
nikka we have this conversation regularly

But today she “needed” to do some of this shyt or so she says.

I be trying not to snap off on her so I just deal with it for as long as necessary. But like now, I just parked and smoking outside the car, I’m not about to walk around this shyt just because you want to exchange something when I told you to do it last week when I came up here.

I don’t like doing this shyt and she knows it.

But, it’s Christmas Eve and I just want to go somewhere lowkey, intimate, and relax if anything. I don’t want to sit in traffic, search for parking, have random people in my face, etc. not to shop or eat some bullshyt.
Relationships often involve some level of sacrifice and compromise--then again that doesn't just extend to romantic relationships, nearly any close relationship you have with anyone will require you to do things that you don't want to do from time to time. That being said, it sounds like you're in the wrong relationship, if it's a common thing for you two to be doing things that you dislike doing. I was in one relationship like this, where I found myself always doing activities that I know I would not do if I were not with him and it was annoying tbh. We weren't compatible.

But I've been in relationships that were the opposite(we often enjoyed some of the same things, or when we tried the other's hobbies we ended up having fun) so I know that your conclusion isn't true. It's true for your relationship because you aren't with the right person lol. It is possible to be in a relationship where you do things you both appreciate, even though there will still be times where you have to do something you don't like, but you need to be with the right person. sounds like you aren't.
Me not wanting to sit in traffic, spend 40 minutes looking for parking, or stand around while she shops has nothing to do with our relationship. Most women tend to do this dumbshyt and think we’re cool with it. Y’all find this shyt entertaining... this isn’t entertainment to me. This has nothing to do with anything actually fun or an actual hobbie. This is not us spending quality time together.

Only difference between me and most dudes out here right now is I’m not pushing a stroller..
 
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