Relationships seem to just be about doing a lot of shyt you don’t want to do..

[J.E.T.S]

1.

Me - "what's wrong?"

Her - " nothing. "

2.

Me - "what you want to do or eat"

Her - "I don't know "

3.

Me - "I'm out and about..."

Her - "where? With who? Get me this... you're doing that"

4.

Her - "let's go to Sephora "

Me - "no. Go with your homegirls"

Her - "you never do this.... I'm always that..."

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Baldingsohard, and O.T.I.S, your examples aren't things I've ever done(for instance I don't like shopping with anyone, I like to be in and out, I hate crowds and people get on my nerves too much to want to deal with them especially during the busy holidays, I hate grocery shopping and I used shipt, etc), but I get what your saying. I guess that is a good reason why you shouldn't be in a relationship then. Shyt. I'm selfish, so I'm at the point now where if I don't feel like doing shyt or don't want to do something, I'm pretty much saying so, but I'm not in a relationship right now, so I can be. If yall find relationships annoying, the easy solution is not to be in one.

You know how many times I said I didn’t want a relationship to her...

It didn’t matter at all


And you sound exactly how I did earlier this year. I’m still doin wtf I want just less so. And sometimes she tricks me into thinking shyt will be quick or simple then it’s the exact opposite

Some shyt I do for her knowing I don’t want to (going out with her friends) but at least I can drink




So I’ve just decided I’m gonna do the exact opposite of what she suggests. I told her that too

 

[Ya' Cousin Cleon]

it’s a joke fam

relax

Sounds like you’re projecting what you might prefer...


There’s always one of you in my threads

 

[FeloniousMonk]

I mean.

Thats why its good to get to know a females particular ways before you commit that.

There should be some common interests and understanding of who she is.

There's some shyt you establish that you outright wont do, dignify or acknowledge.

And theres NO REASON why you would have to put up with anything.

But

Men do, because she has/is________________________________ .

Then complain about the shyt they dont like....(not you op)

 

[Yinny]

Women be wanting to go to Costco at 12pm on a Saturday afternoon

WE BE SHOPPING

 

[O.T.I.S.]

I mean.

Thats why its good to get to know a females particular ways before you commit that.

There should be some common interests and understanding of who she is.

There's some shyt you establish that you outright wont do, dignify or acknowledge.

And theres NO REASON why you would have to put up with anything.

But

Men do, because she has/is________________________________ .

Then complain about the shyt they dont like....(not you op)

Well I mean that is why we’re dating/boyfriend/girlfriend.

I’m concerned about getting married because then this type shyt would be damn near permanent and I would get so worn down that eventually I’m just like everyday

 

[1thouwow]

I didn’t even know I was in an official relationship with my girl til like a month in

 

[FeloniousMonk]

Well I mean that is why we’re dating/boyfriend/girlfriend.

I’m concerned about getting married because then this type shyt would be damn near permanent and I would get so worn down that eventually I’m just like everyday

Yeah breh.

If your chick gets on your nerves and not in a cute way...you gone end up the black AL Bundy....

 

[TRUEST]

Relationships often involve some level of sacrifice and compromise--then again that doesn't just extend to romantic relationships, nearly any close relationship you have with anyone will require you to do things that you don't want to do from time to time. That being said, it sounds like you're in the wrong relationship, if it's a common thing for you two to be doing things that you dislike doing. I was in one relationship like this, where I found myself always doing activities that I know I would not do if I were not with him and it was annoying tbh. We weren't compatible.

But I've been in relationships that were the opposite(we often enjoyed some of the same things, or when we tried the other's hobbies we ended up having fun) so I know that your conclusion isn't true. It's true for your relationship because you aren't with the right person lol. It is possible to be in a relationship where you do things you both appreciate, even though there will still be times where you have to do something you don't like, but you need to be with the right person. sounds like you aren't.

This is the type of reasoning most women subscribe to that makes them end up hoping from one relationship to the next.

If something isn’t working in a relationship your first impulse shouldn’t be to conclude “ oh my must be the wrong guy for me”

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Now I have to go get her or we gonna be late for something else

 

[CarmelBarbie]

You know how many times I said I didn’t want a relationship to her...

It didn’t matter at all


And you sound exactly how I did earlier this year. I’m still doin wtf I want just less so. And sometimes she tricks me into thinking shyt will be quick or simple then it’s the exact opposite

Some shyt I do for her knowing I don’t want to (going out with her friends) but at least I can drink




So I’ve just decided I’m gonna do the exact opposite of what she suggests. I told her that too

So if she isn't your gf, and yall aren't in a relationship, why are you acting like your in one with her, lol? I mean your out here spending Christmas Eve with her bruh? I'm assuming this is just a girl you kick it with from time to time and fukk. I'm not understanding how she tricks you bruh. By now, you know her well enough to know what she be on.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

So if she isn't your gf, and yall aren't in a relationship, why are you acting like your in one with her, lol? I mean your out here spending Christmas Eve with her bruh? I'm assuming this is just a girl you kick it with from time to time and fukk. I'm not understanding how she tricks you bruh. By now, you know her well enough to know what she be on.

She basically is tho.

We’re not acting, I just made the thread.

This isn’t someone I just kick it with here and there. I told her I didn’t want one and she didn’t care. She imposed herself into my life daily so now it’s normal.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Yup, just had an argument

Her idea of going out and fun is walking around the fukking mall... now she wants to go to another one

I told her I’m out... gonna call my homies and go grab some drinks. If not, go by myself. fukk this dumb shyt

 

[SheWantTheD]

I remember a few years ago, I got home early from work due to an impending blizzard...there was probably about an inch or so sticking.

Hit up ol girl I was seeing to come through before the storm. She lived down the street so we could bear through it together

Bih comes talking about, "It looks so nice outside...we should go out to eat at X spot "

Me: ".. You joking, right? They are literally predicting over foot of snow outside."

Her: "But there's not that much out right now. I wanna walk out in the snow with you "

Me: "... I'm good "


Her: "And this is why ..."

Still smashed tho


But case in point, I agree OP...fukk all of that bullshyt planning. I'd have to really love her to compromise on that.

You always wanna be the one in charge and making the decisions as a man. If they said it's supposed to snow a damn foot, fukk we look like going out to eat?! HELL NAH. ]

I'd be damned if my socks was all wet cuz im walkng in the snow

 

[CarmelBarbie]

This is the type of reasoning most women subscribe to that makes them end up hoping from one relationship to the next.

If something isn’t working in a relationship your first impulse shouldn’t be to conclude “ oh my must be the wrong guy for me”

That wasn't the first impulse and it wasn't the immediate conclusion--there were obviously other factors that suggested that we weren't a good match. But differences in lifestyles, and wanting different things out of life, generally make people not compatible, at least in my eyes.