Relationships seem to just be about doing a lot of shyt you don’t want to do..

[CarmelBarbie]

She basically is tho.

We’re not acting, I just made the thread.

This isn’t someone I just kick it with here and there. I told her I didn’t want one and she didn’t care. She imposed herself into my life daily so now it’s normal.

That's on you then bruh. No one can impose themselves into your life like that, unless you weren't speaking up and letting her know that she couldn't. I know plenty of men that have girls try that with them, and they shut it down quick. You didn't, so this is on you. But since she's your gf now, just accept that this is what it is...

 

[Stacks]

Thread proves that 99% of you can't tell the difference between being in a relationship, and spending time with somebody that you have sex with

 

[Sccit]

UNLESS U GOT A SUBMISSIVE FEMALE WHO KNOWS HER ROLE

 

[chowism]

Women are boring and don't share the same interests as men. p*ssy is fun though so we entertain women. The end.

 

[Heafcliffe]

....as I'm en route to the damn in-laws.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

That's on you then bruh. No one can impose themselves into your life like that, unless you weren't speaking up and letting her know that she couldn't. I know plenty of men that have girls try that with them, and they shut it down quick. You didn't, so this is on you. But since she's your gf now, just accept that this is what it is...

Ultimately you're right on the bolded.

But, speaking from personal experience, if a woman is not a liar or a hoe or any of the other negative things we tend to think of when we think of (typically) young women, then we tend to form a soft spot for them. Good girls have a way of getting in your heart, as they should.

At some point, "wanting them to be happy" crosses over into that "sacrificing for a relationship" shyt you talked about. And I'm not speaking on "relationship relationship". As you said, even friendships require sacrifices, right? So....

After 3 months of spending time with your "friend" who isn't a liar, isn't ugly, and you occasionally have sex with... you're kinda by default in a relationship. Because she's decided at some point that your actions can / will affect her happiness, even if you didn't consent to it. And remember you have a soft spot for her now, so you (we) acquiesce so as not to hurt a woman we mostly thought of as a friend with benefits. Keep in mind, we genuinely care about this woman, but had no intention of being locked down.... buuuut...

...Then the "friendly obligations" become "relationship responsibilities". It doesn't matter if you told her "no" 11 times over the course of your "friendship", she's gonna take that one "yes" and ride that shyt till she gets what she wants. And then we have to make the decision... "Do I have to be an a$$hole and break my "friend's" heart and lose the friendship? I genuinely like this person and it's not really that bad... I guess I'll just ride it out and see where it goes."

And bam, we're in a relationship.

You know that women know how to insidiously insert themselves into the life of a man if they're interested in him.

I, and other brehs, have found myself in many "relationships" just by choosing not to lose a "friend".

fukk.

 

[DJSmooth]

Thread proves that 99% of you can't tell the difference between being in a relationship, and spending time with somebody that you have sex with

In these modern times. A relationship is someone that you are fukking at the moment and in between you eat and might catch a movie.

 

[re'up]

This is something that I have had to struggle with, not actually doing it, but understanding how my thinking differs from others.....

Someone I dated seriously, but informally, I only wanted to take her places we would both have fun, like a mutually enjoyable experience, and I would NOT invite her, if I thought she wouldn't have fun.....I thought that was considerate, and thoughtful, but I realize most people don't think like that. They would mostly prefer someone to have with them, regardless of circumstances, and vice versa, obviously not everything, but most things. And THAT is the binding tie of the relationship. I never really got that.

I understand that I have an over idealized version of these things, but I am like that with everyone I go out with. Life is too short to waste doing things you don't want to do.

 

[JLova]

Shopping....with women....is legit hell. I try to avoid it at all costs if they're shopping for shyt for themselves.

But if I need to buy some shyt for myself they already got the face 30 minutes in.

 

[Stacks]

In these modern times. A relationship is someone that you are fukking at the moment and in between you eat and might catch a movie.

Damn shame

Most people here seem to not know their partner AT ALL

 

[chowism]

I don't shop with my woman. I don't give a damn how she feels because that standing around in stores all day shyt is wack to me so I refuse.

 

[King Jae]

...that morning rollover sex real tho....give and take mane....

 

[BaldingSoHard]

UNLESS U GOT A SUBMISSIVE FEMALE WHO KNOWS HER ROLE

I'm not a bytch ass who wants / needs a submissive female. I need an equal. I want a woman who knows what she wants to do, but has the situational awareness to know damn well that I don't wanna do that shyt and the wherewithal to do it on her own.

 

[Serious]

it doesnt matter how many times you tell a chick you're not looking for a relationship if they like you

They STILL believe they can "trick" you into a relationship

This is how you go from just fukking to the "what are we" line

 

[chowism]

I'm not a bytch ass who wants / needs a submissive female. I need an equal. I want a woman who knows what she wants to do, but has the situational awareness to know damn well that I don't wanna do that shyt and the wherewithal to do it on her own.

Women naturally want a leader bruh.