Serious question about settling down and getting married :(

[colicolicoli]

My rule has always been until I'm financially and mentally stable in my life I can't support a wife and kids. That's probably why I been with my girl for almost 17 years and we still not married or have kids.

When it's time you will know. You won't have any doubts about it. Kids are gonna come unplanned

 

[Cattle Mutilation]

Im the type of guy that likes time to myself and make moves on my own time/schedule

This is me and why I never intend to get married or have kids. I'm too selfish with my personal time to want to constantly have to sacrifice it for a wife or kids.

Only thing is I wonder what is going to happen when I get old and probably need assistance if I don't have the money to go into a nursing/retirement home.

 

[BlueHeffner]

One thing I can say, is that if you have a really solid good woman. Lock it down. The older you get the more you realize that the streets are cold as hell and the majority of these bytches aren’t worth a damn.

Problem with this, is if he aint ready for the commitment/responsibility, it wont matter the quality woman she is. You are either ready for the marriage life or not

 

[RareHunter]

I am turning 33, my gf is 26...She is a good woman, comes from a good family, family oriented, can cook etc. We went from dating to friends, to now a serious relationship.

I thought it would be a easy decision to make, get married, have kids but it is a real hard decision to make. I am not getting younger but I am one of those dudes that enjoy responsibility free life but with marriage and kids come more responsibility . I legit thought I would be ready already but I am not.

I am definitely not trying to hit at papa pimps age still trying to holla at woman "you got some pretty eyes" .

It is so many trash women out there that I may as well just settle down now. Married brehs are you happy ?

If she is good and tolerable for your tastes, there’s more trash out there than not. Did you take her V, if so it is your duty.

 

[21stCenturyColiMascot]

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

I don't consider her settling. If I had a check list, she would fit the majority of that checklist. A good 90 percent. This is one of the few women I can honestly say I can trust. My main fear is marriage/kids. Thought I would be ready but I am not. Also the quality of women out there is rough . I can give this woman keys to my house etc and not have to worry about nothing. I doubt she will ever cheat and do me dirty so I have to force myself to be ready then go back out there with these sharks.

 

[Tflasha]

I’m happy, your girl still got a few years before pregnancy becomes more dangerous and less likely for her. I’d say keep taking your time, but also remember this. I feel like in this country people are equating kids with responsibility in a way that seems hyper negative. It always sounds like that responsibility is a CHORE rather than a blessing. You’ve got to see taking care of kids as a challenge but an investment in people. Responsibility can be fun. Teaching them how to speak, read, ride a bike, cool food, workout. Etc. you know the more you educate your kid about knowledge of self and life the faster they take up on your responsibility too cause they’ll want to raise themselves up along with you so, just remember, child rearing is what you make it.

 

[African Peasant]

A man should not be indecisive like this, especially at your age. Take a decision and stick with it. If you don't want to get married, let her go, now it's her time.

And if you have doubt, talk to your parents, family, friends, people who KNOW you and CARE about you, not to strangers on the internet.

Good luck.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

If you don't want to do it breh then there's your answer.

A bunch of women are going to tell you that you're the devil for not wanting to marry her. You should ignore them.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

This is one of the few women I can honestly say I can trust.

Then ALL the rest is bullshyt if you can tell her that to her face and MEAN it.

You ain't ready, breh.​

 

[OfTheCross]

I am turning 33, my gf is 26...She is a good woman, comes from a good family, family oriented, can cook etc. We went from dating to friends, to now a serious relationship.

I thought it would be a easy decision to make, get married, have kids but it is a real hard decision to make. I am not getting younger but I am one of those dudes that enjoy responsibility free life but with marriage and kids come more responsibility . I legit thought I would be ready already but I am not.

I am definitely not trying to hit at papa pimps age still trying to holla at woman "you got some pretty eyes" .

It is so many trash women out there that I may as well just settle down now. Married brehs are you happy ?

You can stay together w/o being married...that's what I did

 

[Rozay Oro]

This is me and why I never intend to get married or have kids. I'm too selfish with my personal time to want to constantly have to sacrifice it for a wife or kids.

Only thing is I wonder what is going to happen when I get old and probably need assistance if I don't have the money to go into a nursing/retirement home.

Better get them six certs now

 

[Rozay Oro]

If she is good and tolerable for your tastes, there’s more trash out there than not. Did you take her V, if so it is your duty.

You deflowered the maiden ass nikka
It’s not his duty, the puss was never gonna stay mint condition. It’s his duty to be real with her though

 

[Cattle Mutilation]

Better get them six certs now

Better get what?

 

[Rozay Oro]

Better get what?

certifications in the I.T. career field open the door for high five figure to six figure salaries