Serious question about settling down and getting married :(

[LuuqMaan]

Has she dropped hints?

You don’t want to propose and get left hanging because you didn’t speak to her about it.

Don’t get MBJ’d out here

 

[JoseLuisGotcha]

Marriage and kids ain’t for everybody

That being said she obviously ain’t the one so stop wasting her time and cut her loose so another dude and give her what she wants

Plus you’re holding yourself back from a potential match

Hurting people sucks but sometimes you just gotta rip the bandaid off…pealing it off slow ain’t gonna save you pain

 

[MikelArteta]

if you have doubts whether you should marry her she prob ain't the one

 

[MajesticLion]

"I may as well"


Here's the obvious question a lot of people love to avoid: if you feel you're "not ready", what are you doing to get ready?

 

[Bigen King]

As a person who was married before and married again

You ain't ready, if your not ready to compromise who you are for another persons wants, needs and desires.

 

[RareHunter]

You deflowered the maiden ass nikka
It’s not his duty, the puss was never gonna stay mint condition. It’s his duty to be real with her though

Then you contribute to destroying the community.

 

[Rozay Oro]

Then you contribute to destroying the community.

Hold on, a woman is going to lose her virginity regardless. She choosing too fym

 

[TreySav]

Aye, don’t get married if you’re indecisiveness will torment that black woman. We don’t need more women walking around saying ‘All men ain’t shyt’

 

[Greenhornet]

its realistically not a question for anyone but yourself

is it what you want or not some nikkas dont and some can only see themselves married and trying to maintain a family by any means
no different than religion... you cant ask "what religion should I become" ... you're gonna get all types of wild answers. You do what your mind tells you to do, how to live. Ive been avoiding being married and kids because I got too much to lose and im not putting 50% of my life into some randoms hands.

im in a weird position where nobody can really match what I bring to the table so I would be hustling backwards
couldnt imagine having kids with someone I ended up hating and the kids are a mirror of them ... couldnt be me

 

[Shadow King]

You're fighting your true nature.

Embrace your proclivity for the dark side

#GMB Undefeated

 

[Abstract83]

I am turning 33, my gf is 26...She is a good woman, comes from a good family, family oriented, can cook etc. We went from dating to friends, to now a serious relationship.

I thought it would be a easy decision to make, get married, have kids but it is a real hard decision to make. I am not getting younger but I am one of those dudes that enjoy responsibility free life but with marriage and kids come more responsibility . I legit thought I would be ready already but I am not.

I am definitely not trying to hit at papa pimps age still trying to holla at woman "you got some pretty eyes" .

It is so many trash women out there that I may as well just settle down now. Married brehs are you happy ?

I think you should set some time to yourself and really think about the situation. When you wake up next to her how do you feel? When you're with her when yall just chilling how do you feel? Is she respectful, loving, and supportive? Just think about all of it.

Another thing is do not waste her or your time. Don't lead her on if you dont feel that way. I've made that mistake in the past. We never got married but I feel like I wasted a lot of time when I should have let her go a long time ago. She was and still is a wonderful person.

 

[Armchair Militant]

Don’t fukk ya life up. Bush her

 

[RareHunter]

Hold on, a woman is going to lose her virginity regardless. She choosing too fym

We don’t understand the word contribute I see

Contribute :

1. To give or supply in common with others; give to a common fund or for a common purpose.
2. To submit for publication.
3. To make a contribution.
4. To help bring about a result; act as a factor.
5. To submit material for publication.
6. To give a part to a common stock; to lend assistance or aid, or give something, to a common purpose; to have a share in any act or effect.
7. To give or use one's power or influence for any object; to assist.

 

[Swirv]

I thought it would be a easy decision to make, get married, have kids but it is a real hard decision to make. I am not getting younger but I am one of those dudes that enjoy responsibility free life but with marriage and kids come more responsibility . I legit thought I would be ready already but I am not.

I am definitely not trying to hit at papa pimps age still trying to holla at woman "you got some pretty eyes" .

It is so many trash women out there that I may as well just settle down now. Married brehs are you happy ?

Don’t do it if you’re not ready for shyt to get real. Once you’re a parent, life changes and you deal with even more complex situations than child-free.

I’m married and have another one on the way. We don’t have much help and spend a lot of family time together, Thankfully, we get along well. If you won’t have any help watching your kids, things can get stressful.

If you’re ready for marriage but not kids, that’s cool. Y’all just use birth control. Newlyweds have alot of fun together and that time alone will increase your bond.

To answer your question, I’m happy and fortunate for what I have.

 

[Rozay Oro]

We don’t understand the word contribute I see

Contribute :

1. To give or supply in common with others; give to a common fund or for a common purpose.
2. To submit for publication.
3. To make a contribution.
4. To help bring about a result; act as a factor.
5. To submit material for publication.
6. To give a part to a common stock; to lend assistance or aid, or give something, to a common purpose; to have a share in any act or effect.
7. To give or use one's power or influence for any object; to assist.

I took one girl’s virginity but I didn’t know