Serious question about settling down and getting married :(
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Plus neither one of us see a reason for getting married at this point
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Plus neither one of us see a reason for getting married at this point
Married breh speaks:
When you know you know.
Is your playa stage over? Are you so high sex-drive that you'll want to cheat?
Or have you had enough of chasing girls and the drama that goes with it?
If you want to have children, mid 30s is a good time since you should be more stable in your career.
Examine the woman's mindset and be sure it's a good fit for yours.
When you know you know.
Is your playa stage over? Are you so high sex-drive that you'll want to cheat?
Or have you had enough of chasing girls and the drama that goes with it?
If you want to have children, mid 30s is a good time since you should be more stable in your career.
Examine the woman's mindset and be sure it's a good fit for yours.
The Realist Perspective
Superstar
I'd assume, she simply is not the ONE.
Nkrumah Was Right
Superstar
You ain’t got 6 certs, making 6 figures, while over 6 feet tall???
This answer right here says it all. At age 33, the op should know what he wants. Nothing wrong with seeking advice but from people on the internet that do not know you and your girl? You should know if she is compatible with you better than any of us AND if she is compatible what are you waiting for?
I know dudes that been with their woman for years, have two or three children with her and still aren't sure if they wanna get married. That is insane!
If you don't know what you want to do with her, sooner or later she is going to wisen up and be ready to move on.
Ezekiel 25:17
Veteran
I've never been married, but my honest opinion, marriage shouldn't be hard as long as y'all on the same page. It's a team effort really.
I am turning 33, my gf is 26...She is a good woman, comes from a good family, family oriented, can cook etc. We went from dating to friends, to now a serious relationship.
I thought it would be a easy decision to make, get married, have kids but it is a real hard decision to make. I am not getting younger but I am one of those dudes that enjoy responsibility free life but with marriage and kids come more responsibility. I legit thought I would be ready already but I am not.
I am definitely not trying to hit at papa pimps age still trying to holla at woman "you got some pretty eyes".
It is so many trash women out there that I may as well just settle down now. Married brehs are you happy ?
Being married or single is not going to determine your happiness. If you're looking to get married because you think it will flip your happy switch or don't want to be "papa pimp" than IDK. But you got a 26 year old good woman who has a lot of positive attributes from what you described...if you don't someone else will.
I talk to all my friends with kids. Not one of em ever said they were ready. They just stepped up to it but you are right if he doesn't want it then be honest and upfront.
International Playa
Playa with a Passport
Be warned, quality women are hard to find, too much trash on the dating market
F*ckthemkids
Superstar
Been married 15 years, together for 17. Do not under any circumstances get married unless you are 100% sure you want to spend the rest of your life with her. A lot of people get wrapped up in the traditional pressures that surround marriage and end up jumping into something they’re not really sure of. Every person I know that’s divorced got married under some sort of duress. Unplanned pregnancy. Family pressure. Partner ultimatum…it never fails. Do you want to be a husband? Are you prepared for the slow grind? Are you prepared for the intertwined family structures and the occasional baggage/drama that comes with that? Are you prepared for the days that y’all don’t like each other? Are you prepared for the hard discussions? Are you prepared to never touch another woman again? A lot of people look at marriage as the destination, when it’s really a journey. It has ebbs and flows. Some days, even weeks are straining and you do question it. You wonder if it’s worth it. So to answer your question…Yes I am happy. I love my wife and we’re bonded, but we’ve spent a lot of time working on that. It’s time she says things that I was thinking or vice versa. But we worked at that and it took time. Are there some days I want to spartan kick her into a busy intersection? Sure, but in all honesty I don’t want to live a day without her. Could she destroy my life? Absolutely. But to me love is giving someone the power to devastate you, but trusting them not to do it. Sorry for rambling breh.l, and good luck.
When I said “ready” I meant for the commitment that is commitment, not for children specifically. It’s not a situational obligation by any means.
You're literally asking a bunch of single sexless men who self admittedly get no women marriage advice?
I am turning 33, my gf is 26...She is a good woman, comes from a good family, family oriented, can cook etc. We went from dating to friends, to now a serious relationship.
I thought it would be a easy decision to make, get married, have kids but it is a real hard decision to make. I am not getting younger but I am one of those dudes that enjoy responsibility free life but with marriage and kids come more responsibility
I am definitely not trying to hit at papa pimps age still trying to holla at woman "you got some pretty eyes"
It is so many trash women out there that I may as well just settle down now. Married brehs are you happy ?