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Serious question about settling down and getting married :(
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Paisley Darts
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Marriage has some pros. Like somebody said above, life partner, companionship, basically experiencing life with somebody else. I think this is very important. I don't think life would be as fulfilling if I didn't have my wife. BUT on the flip side, most women change up after having kids. They start putting the kids first by far and tend to get to you a lot later. Sex typically goes way down. And kids themselves will more than likely force you to put your life on the back burner and tend to them. I talk to all my married brehs and we all have the same complaints. I've been married for 6 years and my kids are toddlers. I think in the long run it will be all worth it but as of now I don't know if all of this was the right choice. So take your time and make the right decision.
If she wants marriage and you dont, dont waste her time.
We can choose to be fathers at 60, she cant so at least give her the time to find someone who will give her what she wants
We can choose to be fathers at 60, she cant so at least give her the time to find someone who will give her what she wants
I think That's the basic gist of it. Also I think people should talk to married couples from both spectrums. The successful ones and the failed to see if it's something they really want to do.
Elim Garak
Veteran
You clearly don't want to be married lol. Don't do it just because you are trying to follow societal norms.
Honestly Bro, the mother and father are supposed to change after having children, lol. The best thing about being married is that its your children and legacy that she is dedicated to. That shouldn't be a problem unless the guy is a total creep.
It's going to be 20 years married for me next month. Its definitely worth it. Like you said, life is not as fulfilling without my wife. The children do not stay toddlers forever, so that neediness that they have for their parents, especially their mother naturally goes away.
Im in my mid 30s and I think I’m ready to get out the game early than late. Yes you have options out here but having a quality person you trust is always tough.
DJ Paul's Arm
Veteran
This.
WaveMolecules
Superstar
if youre not ready, youre not ready. nothing worse than shouldering a responsibility when you DONT WANT IT.
i was 33 when i got married and i felt it in my bones that she was the one.
choose wisely, divorce is expensive.
i was 33 when i got married and i felt it in my bones that she was the one.
choose wisely, divorce is expensive.
Paisley Darts
All Star
I understand change...its a part of growing. I was keying on what came after that - most women legit put the husband last. Most men see it like "we are married first and both of us will take care of these kids." The relationship as far as husband/wife typically takes a hit when kids come in the picture. Its a different dynamic.
@High Value Man are you planning to get married one day?
What's wrong?
Duke Wy Lin
It's been a good run. Wish y'all the best ✊🏿
I am turning 33, my gf is 26...She is a good woman, comes from a good family, family oriented, can cook etc. We went from dating to friends, to now a serious relationship.
I thought it would be a easy decision to make, get married, have kids but it is a real hard decision to make. I am not getting younger but I am one of those dudes that enjoy responsibility free life but with marriage and kids come more responsibility. I legit thought I would be ready already but I am not.
I am definitely not trying to hit at papa pimps age still trying to holla at woman "you got some pretty eyes".
It is so many trash women out there that I may as well just settle down now. Married brehs are you happy ?
You need to look at the bigger picture. How do you picture yourself when you're 70? Do you see yourself with kids, grandkids, happy family? If you live long enough, running after women in a perpetual state of adolescence will get old. Ppl around you will begin to grow ill and die. You'll be faced with your own morality. Whether you like it or not, you WILL come face to face with responsibility at some point in your life. It's only a matter of whether it gets thrust upon you or you accept it willingly.
Point is, look at the bigger picture. If you're fine with dying alone with a lot of memories and experiences in your head that you'll never pass on to anybody (and tbf some ppl are fine with this), then don't ever worry about marriage. Otherwise, you'll have to take it seriously.
People don't get married, expecting it to be all fun and games. Marriage is more like investing. You probably won't see the fruits of your labor for a long time. But if you do it right and build with the right person, I can't think of a better human experience than to have a successful family.