Serious question for the ladies and some of the gents of the Coli!

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Do you think it is possible to have sex with a person at least 3 times a week without any feelings being caught and things not becoming more than platonic? I got an ultimatum from my friend with benefits, saying that if we don't have sex at least 3 times a week from now on she doesn't want to continue our sexual relationship. I been avoiding doing that because I was afraid she would fall in love with me and she seem like she could be the type to cut a nikka if she scorned.

I'm tryna decide today and I'm leaning towards saying no. Only thing is, she has some of the best puss I ever had and a phat booty. I don't know what to do. :sadcam:
 

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Do you think it is possible to have sex with a person at least 3 times a week without any feelings being caught and things not becoming more than platonic? I got an ultimatum from my friend with benefits, saying that if we don't have sex at least 3 times a week from now on she doesn't want to continue our sexual relationship. I been avoiding doing that because I was afraid she would fall in love with me and she seem like she could be the type to cut a nikka if she scorned.

I'm tryna decide today and I'm leaning towards saying no. Only thing is, she has some of the best puss I ever had and a phat booty. I don't know what to do. :sadcam:


someone ALWAYS CATCHES FEELINGS PERIOD thats the reality of it whether it be you or her
 

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Say no breh. She caught the vapors. No girl who makes such a demand thinks of you as just a cut buddy.

She obviously wants you as the "man" in her life. Tell her no and cut if off. The sex might be :ohlawd: but if you don't you'll regret it down the road :noah:


 

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someone ALWAYS CATCHES FEELINGS PERIOD thats the reality of it whether it be you or her

Say no breh. She caught the vapors. No girl who makes such a demand thinks of you as just a cut buddy.

She obviously wants you as the "man" in her life. Tell her no and cut if off. The sex might be :ohlawd: but if you don't you'll regret it down the road :noah:



:damn: I know the answer should be no but I been tryna talk myself into it. Figured someone on here would give me an alternative opinion. It's so good brehs, its so good but I could NEVER imagine myself dating her seriously. :mjpls:
 

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:damn: I know the answer should be no but I been tryna talk myself into it. Figured someone on here would give me an alternative opinion. It's so good brehs, its so good but I could NEVER imagine myself dating her seriously. :mjpls:

thats the thing u say that now but shyt happens and u could be the one catching feelings and then she talking bout we can't do it no more and u be all heart broken then what u gonna do?

there is no alternative especially with her demands if she had no demands it be at least easier and just fukk on a random basis

the most important thing is this if she is a close friend ur gonna fukk around and lose her as a friend in the long run also
 

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Not saying that she WILL catch feelings, but if you comply with her arrangement you have to be ready for the possibility that she MAY catch feelings. And then what?

Hell. you may catch a feeling or two.:manny:
 

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This what you said: "I'm tryna decide today and I'm leaning towards saying no. Only thing is, she has some of the best puss I ever had and a phat booty. I don't know what to do."

What you really mean: "I don't know if I can get it up 3 times a week with her and if I do, I don't want to fall in love."
 

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This what you said: "I'm tryna decide today and I'm leaning towards saying no. Only thing is, she has some of the best puss I ever had and a phat booty. I don't know what to do."

What you really are saying: "I don't know if I can get it up 3 times a week with her and if I do, I don't want to fall in love."

already sounds like catching feelings with this line alone
 

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This is why friends with benefits is only good as long as the two parties are on the same page. The moment shyt changes... its a wrap.

I did this shyt when I was younger and it always crashed and burned once someone started to catch feelings.
 
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Here is the true story. :beli:

O.P. is really the one that caught feeling evident by him making this thread looking for a way out bc he already in too deep emotionally. I can almost guarantee that you hang out with the girl on occasions where ya are not fukking i.e. just you in her chilling at her house watching a movie or just talking. For those who may or may not know that's call being intimate and building an emotional connection. So in conclusion the only one you fooling O.P. is yaself
 

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It really does.

a true fukk buddy will be like this when i call to see whats up its time to fukk and thats it nothing more not it has to be 3 times a week. someone sayin that alone will just find someone else too do the job if u aint up to the task

no matter how good the p*ssy is if i see her feelings getting involved or even if its myself i cut that shyt off really quick so to minimize the DAMAGE to either party

a fukk buddy is basically somebody u fukk with for a certain period of time till someone catches feelings or they find someone better than you
 

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Sounds like feeling may have been caught on the other end. Tough to ever been in these FWB relationships without it happening unless serious ground rules are set, and even that barely works. Good possibility that you may catch feelings too. When you're doing it 3 times a week, then suddenly have to break it off cause a real interest comes into the picture, it always gets messy since someone is basically being dumped.

If you're sure you won't catch feelings then you'll need to re-inforce with her that this is all it is. If you get the sense she will want more, and you don't, then consider cutting. Will just become a trainwreck from there.

Only safe way out of these things is when you both simultaneously find someone you're interested, and that shyt never happens. One person is always left in the cold :lolbron:
 

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First off breh don't let her dictate the terms like that, let her know that your doin here just as much of a favor as she's doin you, if she ain't tryin to come to an agreement together let her step, don't even sweat it, you standing your ground will drive her crazy and you'll be gettin a "you sleep?" Text in no time

2nd it sounds to me like she's already caught feelings and she's tryin to lock in her spot by strong arming almost half your week
 
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