Serious question for the married men on the coli...

[root_eruditorium_org]

Choose well, do right, hope for the best.

I will say this.... I got luuuuuuuuuuccccccccccccckkkkkkkkkkkkkyyyyyyyyy. My wife and I started dating when I was 24 and she was 22. We got married when I was 28 or 29 I think. I'm 32 now. Things worked out but I think we got serious a little too young. I would tell the brehs to hold off on getting really serious until like 25-27 unless u think u found the one. Problem is when u are young u dont know what the fukk u want so it's often better not to choose.

I see a lot of couples who hate each other too. All that comes down to is people who choose the wrong person, and then are too scared/lazy/comfortable to call it off and start over. Especially once they are old and have kids. But people shouldn't even let it get that far. High key my parents have been married as long as I have been alive (they got married in March, I was born in September). I have been telling them to get divorced since I was 10 years old.... pretty much as soon as I learned divorce was even an option. But they say they stay together "for us kids" and all that horseshyt. Now my mom admits I was right but she was too scared to leave. So it is what it is. Point being people have to date, know what they want, know how to be in a relationship, choose properly and then go into it. Lot of people get married to the wrong people at the wrong time for the wrong reasons, and don't want to own up to their bad decisions. But that's what 99% of shytty marriages come down to.

The shyt's not always fun and games but that's life. I still think marriage is a good thing though and am glad to be married. Just like anything in life though you can't half ass it and expect it to go well.

you were trying to convince your parents to divorce and they never did?

coooold


they must hate each other something serious

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

Maybe I'm immature but I honestly think the #1 reason ppl get married is to secure regular, relatively safe unprotected sex.

You are BOTH immature and stupid

 

[Dominicansbelit]

So, that's a no you are single or no you aren't scary?

If you're still single, for you, that means you're still scary.

If you aren't single anymore, congrats! You're growing. How long did it take you to stop being scary and say something to her?

But Judging from the last part of your post, it sounds like you're still single and scary. lol

When will you be honest with yourself?



LOL

Nothing happened to him, he's just scared of girls and relationships. & rejection.

I'm not taking relationship advice from a woman

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

you were trying to convince your parents to divorce and they never did?

coooold


they must hate each other something serious

They do. They know they are no good for each other. But they are too codependent on each other. It's like having a coworker you hate, but you are scared to quit or look for another job. So everyone on the team has to suffer the bullshyt.

If for nothing else, people should choose wisely not for themselves but for their children.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Not trying to knock you, you just sound defeated. Obviously I have no clue what issues she has but are ya'll trying to work on them? Trying to make things better? Challenging her to do better? Everybody has issues and while some are worse than others, most people fall somewhere in the 'manageable with work' area. I know cats that just don't even try and of course those relationships are miserable and doomed to fail

Bruh what are you doing with your life? Sounds like you gave your wife your balls for life. Man up some my dude. Sounds like wifey is a ball buster. Amd you just give in rather then fight for your right to live. fukk that. I may not ruj my house but goddamn if Im not going to get my wants in life. Just came back from MIA on some fukkery with the homies. And she was cool with it too. Plan on taking her in July though. Ahe understanfs money comes money goes. Might as well have fun when its coming cause when it goes....that shyt is for the birds.

I'm trying, but she's not.
There was a platinum thread about a year ago where another breh was in the same situation I was in.
Chick just refused to go outside and do stuff.
Nothing nasty or evil...just refused to budge on going out.
That's the same problem I got...but she expect me to be on that mess too.
Nah.

I break ranks and leave her to do stuff but I always get mean mugged on return.
Love her, but she tries my patience...greatly.

 

[thatdude954]

Married after a year of dating. Figured I reached the pinnacle of my ability to attract a female.

I would not get married if I could do it all over again.
Nor do I recommend anyone else get married...There is way too much compromise.
I realize that the comfort and stability that I enjoy daily are all due to my wife's support and encouragement, but I've sacrificed all of my personal freedoms and personal life goals in order to be "married". The daily routine gets stale real fukking quick. You don't go out anymore, your friends leave, your family leaves, you can't be yourself, you can't just have a quiet moment, work becomes more fun than being home, being home is nothing but a chore or complete boredom, you have a permanent attachment to a boring person all weekend that's so bad that you yearn to go back to work on monday, the only thing you really have going for you after a while is being able to say you're with someone and stable.
Then once you're in you can't leave or you're back broke and poor or in jail for murder.
It's not worth it.
If you don't get married in the first place, you avoid all this bullshyt.

I would rather go back to making 40k a year and living in a ratty studio apartment, interacting with my blood family on the regular and enjoying all that life has to offer, rather than living a complacent safe excitement devoid life of stability and boredom.

I'm not driven by looks or p*ssy so I don't have any desire to cheat on my wife or give in to other females chasing me, I only want back what I was born with...

My fukkin freedom to live...

CONS:
I'm never going to get my college degree
I'm never gonna have a new car
I'm never gonna see the world outside of this country
I'm never gonna work the jobs I want to
I'm never gonna have sex again
I'm never gonna meet new people
I'm never gonna make new friends
I'm never gonna take another road trip
I'm never gonna do anything significant with my life from here on out

PROS:
Stability
Bragging rights over being married longer than anyone I kne
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Someone has my back constantly
Love
My kid
Tax breaks

lol @tax breaks
do you feel as if you married the wrong woman or could you wife beyonce and still feel the same?
do you feel like its your wife holding you bak or are you plaing blame on her for not accomplishing goals

why cant you do any of the things you listed?
take classes online
save up for your ar and trips. (idk your fianials situation)
the degree would probably help with getting your dream job
How are you not having sex with your wife? did she let herself go? did the p*ssy die? does she hate you?
Meet new people at work/after work/while traveling
take her on the trip or just tell her its a "guys weekend"

no offense intended, I genuinely want to know.

 

[Makavalli]

They do. They know they are no good for each other. But they are too codependent on each other. It's like having a coworker you hate, but you are scared to quit or look for another job. So everyone on the team has to suffer the bullshyt.

If for nothing else, people should choose wisely not for themselves but for their children.

My sister in law and husband are like that. Straight up death stares whenever they are together at a family function but he too insecure and selfish to let her be happy elsewhere and she invested too much time trying to mold him to let another broad benefit from it.

I told my wife the minute we look a quarter miserables as them we split amicably

 

[Jahmal]

I could never tell my dikk it would only get to smash one p*ssy for the rest of its life. that is MADNESS!

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

My sister in law and husband are like that. Straight up death stares whenever they are together at a family function but he too insecure and selfish to let her be happy elsewhere and she invested too much time trying to mold him to let another broad benefit from it.

I told my wife the minute we look a quarter miserables as them we split amicably

Thats the excuse my mom uses. "Im not going to let another woman take what Ive built" Thats what the court system is for. It would have been very straightforward. Plus in any case as is my pops is breaking her bread with his sidepieces. So what's the difference?

 

[Rawtid]

I want to be married but I'm not trying to be "in love" if that makes sense. I want someone who realizes that grinding alone takes twice as long and values partnership in a like minded individual. When you start making power moves, love will grow. When you're out here trying to fulfill some fantasy or missing feeling, then it seems hopeless. I'll never be the woman of a man's dreams, but he damn sure won't leave me more broke than he came in because I know for sure I won't.

 

[Kamikaze Revy]

Yes. Marriage, children, a family. All of it great. No regrets what so ever.

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

Yes. Marriage, children, a family. All of it great. No regrets what so ever.

So you are a married man? I always figured you are an uncommitted 17 year old with lots of free time and no responsibilities with the way you post heavy on arcadium. How do you find the time to game?

 

[Kamikaze Revy]

So you are a married man? I always figured you are an uncommitted 17 year old with lots of free time and no responsibilities with the way you post heavy on arcadium. How do you find the time to game?

:ThisGuy: Somebody behind an alias talking slick about things he knows absolutely nothing about.

 

[Maschine_Man]

I'm happy with marriage. I just think that alot of ppl rush in to it too fast and don't even really get to KNOW the person they are married to first.

I was with my wife for 6 years before we got married. I don't think marriage should be rushed in to. And I definitely don't think ppl should wait to marriage to live with each other...or have sex.

 

[BurnSlow]

Yes. Marriage, children, a family. All of it great. No regrets what so ever.

I'm married and wouldn't take it back - it's a good life being able to grow with someone. I've had my time being with different women and chose to hit life with the one who fit my needs.

I play video games, watch sports, go to the bar, hoop and all of typical shyt men in their late 20s do - it gives her time to do all of the boring things women do honestly like watch netflix, pin shyt on pintrest and shop. Works out nicely.

Just gotta be willing to hear about all of the stuff she thinks about/deals with , which is a small price to pay for her company, advice, sex, support and child-rearing capabilities