Seriously, if you don't get married, what are you planning to do?

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I did learn recently that this often cited stat is actually flawed because they polled couples who were already on their second marriage. Couples who were married more than once are 50% more likely to get a divorce, whereas couples who married only one partner had a lower divorce rate. I will have to see if I can find the article...but thought it was interesting.

:shaq: So technically its already 100% :youngsabo: But im just pullin your strings, it's probably lower, but the rate is high enough because of woman's rights allowing them to have the same careers as men. So its less likely they want to settle down in their 20's.
 

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So what's the difference? Its still marriage isn't it whether its your first, second, third, fourth fifth

[QUOTE="Ohnoits, post: 9888926, member: 5338"]I did learn recently that this often cited stat is actually flawed because they polled couples who were already on their second marriage. Couples who were married more than once are 50% more likely to get a divorce, whereas couples who married only one partner had a lower divorce rate. I will have to see if I can find the article...but thought it was interesting.[/QUOTE]
 

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People that live single their whole lives and have no kids just live selfish, lonely lives.

Get married, have kids..it's the right thing to do

It's also the best thing to do out of all the choices(unless u a miserable selfish fukk)

I'd think most long term single people are tired and want to settle down and call it a day, but some have trust issues they simply cannot get past. They are not just going to dive in blind like that. especially after living the single life for so long and seeing some unbelievable shyt that will make you question everything about human beings.A lot of divorcees swear they're done with marriage, a lot of un married people have seen even worse trauma and couldnt imagine being chained to someone legally.
 

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This woman at work was talking to this other female coworker about how she couldn't find a man after dating her ex for 16 years.

This broad dated a dude for 16 years and got nothing.

She was like "well I'm hanging out with this new guy now just to see what happens"

I could see in her eyes she already knew it may as well be over.

String women along for decades breh's.:smh:
Did they have kids or no? Describe her personality a little if you dont mind
 

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Guys here seem so pro-bachelor. Im all for it as well but what happens when your 44 and 10 years after that, still have no kids and wife? That COULD very well be the norm then but i doubt it. Most men need women by there sides to balance life out. Of course most of the "get married brehs" memes stem from women being disloyal thots. But we all want to be happy at the end of the day. Maybe its just me but i have no desire to smash 100s of women to find the one. Im 29 and i only want one female that i can see raising my kids, enjoying my company and has the desire to build a strong family foundation. Thots (casual thots) dont have this mentality so its becoming easier to reject these only good for fukking chicks out of the pool.
The biggest problem with the bolded above is that you presume that happiness stems from having children and a wife.
It implies that anyone who doesn't have kids or isn't married is miserable.

Not only is that patently false, it's borderline insulting.

:manny:
 

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Did they have kids or no? Describe her personality a little if you dont mind

Nah they don't have kids. She's a white woman, but not one of those Starbucks white women, she's one of those type of white women that wears a shawl when it gets cool outside, she's an office worker personality type, introverted but not mouse like.

She's bony as hell though, probably 110lbs at most and she's like 5'5. She looks aged in the face and arms too.
 

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Marriage really is like letting the Government into your heart and bedroom, and will be right there to make sure you split everything according to the law, and not the relationship, I've been saying this for a minute, it's a legal term for what should be a matter of heart, emotion and trust. You can do the ceremony, the rings, but all the legal obligations?

And, as much as I like repeating that, as both a romantic and ruthlessly pragmatic person, if you stay with a person, without being legally married and start mingling finances and having children, and buying houses, you are potentially leaving yourself open to some very negative consequences. Also, marriage has the tax benefits, and if you live with someone for more then 10 years, they are considered your common law wife.

So, if you intend to trust someone with not only emotions, but your finances, there is really limited protection for a fallout either way, it's all about who you trust and how you trust them. To me, that is the sad reality, you have to acknowledge that and move accordingly.
 

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The biggest problem with the bolded above is that you presume that happiness stems from having children and a wife.
It implies that anyone who doesn't have kids or isn't married is miserable.

Not only is that patently false, it's borderline insulting.

:manny:
Im really not sure how you could find that insulting when its the standard in our society. Im not saying you wont be happy without kids but you may feel a bit incomplete. All those years of fukking random broads and not one of them is with you at that moment in life when you realize " im too old for this shyt". Do you honestly see yourself alone, having loads of money but no kids and or wife and living like hugh hefner? Thats what you want? Or is that what you wouldnt mind....
 

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Most of us will end up married, its just the way it is. nikkaz gonna try to be cool on the message boards talking all that anti marriage stuff but opinions and values change. Who you were today is not who you were five years ago and not who you will be in 5 years.

The key is to live a good single life and then get married to a good woman in your early thirties but thats just my opinion
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Note to ladies: never stick around for a man to change his mind on marrying you. Within 1 or 2 years that needs to be established and the marriage talk needs to pop up early. Far too many black women playing house just to be thrown to the bushes later. Because they believed that nothing but paper BS.

Hold up... within 1 or 2 years marriage needs to be brought up? :huhldup:
 
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