I never understood how some girls can grow up without doing anything alone. Do you know why this is?
@ChiefQueen
@Giselle
@Lady.Libra.
I didn't relate to myself

until I was an adult. I wasn't in tune with my own sexuality/sensuality. You have to consider the fact that so many people - parents, peers, siblings, adult relatives, boys, religion, society, and self - are in a girls panties, dictating when, where, why, how, & what she should do with her vagina. I have 3 brothers and all I remember them being told occasionally was 'wrap it up' and 'don't impregnate anyone's daughter'. For me, it was many threats, lectures, talks from various family members - even my Nana (RIP) used to tell us, her granddaughters, "Don't let anybody go in your pocketbook

.", looks as I was developing, my anatomy being discussed with aunties & older female cousins - "Yes, girl, I had to buy her training bras today. She has one little big tittie. (

) Can you believe it?! Her butt is poking out too...her skirts are hiked up in the back. Lord!"
And on and on and on.
Sad that it didn't even freaking occur to me that my body BELONGED TO ME! And wasn't just something to be controlled, chastised, and observed while developing...much less trying to make myself orgasm. Now, I am real nice with it and often fantasize about if there was a way to clone myself so I could make love to my damn self because I rock my own world. Straight up

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O/T - Imagine the women who have given birth and never climaxed! So sad and heartbreaking.
While, I understand the necessity to be chaste with girl children, there needs to be balance and realistic conversations.