Sexual confidence is completely gone…

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Shadow King said:
Complain about attractive women pursuing you, brehs
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To op @Black Haven

1. Women come and go
2. Read 1

You can do everything “perfectly” or do the opposite: it don’t matter.

What matters is that you focus on you and what makes you you. The right person is down with that.

You’re just playing the field until you meet the person who sticks. And they too can go or you can leave because people change.

When you focus on how you’ll come across, or perform sexually or react to sexual innuendo and how that could hurt your rep... you’re probably really in your head and worried about the wrong things. If she talks about your private shyt: she’s not the one to spend time with. Treat her for what she offers.

Most likely she wants to fukk because you don’t pursue her like other men. Be sure you don’t become just a notch on her belt. Keep it this way, even if you hit it. Keep her guessing unless there is truly more there.

Nobody knows it all so take no advice as gospel.

Do YOU and the rest will follow.

EDIT: if you have anxiety, I would really suggest you speak with a therapist. This is very much related to your actual brain/thinking patters/potentially trauma from childhood. You can be fully confident and happy, but you need to do that work. Consider EMDR therapy, and basic anxiety coping tools as a result of speaking with a therapist.
 
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dora_da_destroyer said:
couldn't get my crotch to line up with a midget's :ld:
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Black Haven said:
and I somehow backed myself into a corner I can’t get out of that could possibly make it worse. Like I haven’t even looked at porn at all ever since my confidence left, that’s how bad it is.So deadass y’all can clown me whatever idc I just need you guys advice, women can chip in as well on getting me out of this situation I fukked up and put myself in frfr. There’s this woman who is a close associate to someone else in my immediate circle, she is attractive, curvy,outgoing and people seem to gravitate to her(most likely because of her looks). When I first seen her I immediately thought she would be one of those social media type chicks but, come to find out she’s very low key and to top it off when we met each other we find out we have so much in common that we exchange fukkin numbers.:snoop:(I hate fate for this) I don’t know why the fukk I did that thinking we would just be friends when I knew that we had strong chemistry with each other. So after going out to different places together I notice I make her really happy whenever she sees me, she even admitted to bragging about how much I make her happy to other people so I know she doesn’t just see this as a regular friendship smgdh!

Fast forward to today and now she’s wondering why I never bothered to go in her apartment with her or why I never invited her to my crib, so she takes matters into her own hands and wants to invite me over to hang out with her.(why me lord?) I can’t tell her no because that would be suspicious asf for a high esteem heterosexual man to turn down an attractive woman with a banging body and I know she could possibly go back and tell everyone in our immediate circle about it which would bring more attention to me. I hesitated and told her let me think about it and that’s when she tells me to not worry too much nothing serious was going to happen and that we are just going to enjoy classic soul/r&b music, get high , and talk about anime & shyt. So my anxiety slowly went away and I told her yeah I’m down….. big ass mistake because right after she sends me a text saying….

“you know you set yourself up right?*insert demon emoji*”

I lol and tell her to stop playing and she responds that the true playing ain’t happen yet and now my anxiety is at high right now. I regret I ever got too close too her and I know she’s going to possibly hate the fukk out of me because she’ll think I wasted her time. I really wish I could just runaway to a farm and live the remainder of my life alone in peace. Life is a straight bytch for this mayne:francis:
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dora_da_destroyer said:
a lot of people could avoid, or at least greatly minimize, sexual performance anxiety if yall worked on developing RELATIONSHIPS first instead of having sex first. finding someone you trust and can communicate with and who respects you eases a lot of tension, insecurity and anxiety. but yall nikkas hate commitment so carry on giving out weak dikk in week 2 of knowing/hanging out with someone :sas1:

this aint one-sided either, all you leaving your shirt on, only in the dark, insecure women would enjoy sex more if you weren't fukking random dudes who you think are judging you or expect to ghost you after giving it up :sas2:
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:russ::laff:PREACH!

Dudes be accusing chicks of being prudes or not liking them for not wanting to fukk strangers 3 minutes after meeting them. I done tried to tell them that the vagina don’t work like that. You can be fine as hell but this ain’t porn. Sex is wack as hell when you rush into doing shyt. Without a connection, for women who ain’t trying to cosplay as “broken chicks” strange dikk is the last thing you want on your phone or inside your walls. Sunflowers are $10 from Harris Teeter. Go set the mood! You don’t have to take it there immediately. A lotta trash dikk and p*ssy have nothing to do with the physical attributes. Sometimes it’s from a lack of passion or failure to cultivate real intimacy and connection.
 
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