Sounds like she did you a favour breh. You don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t have enough self-awareness to understand and communicate their feelings, needs, and desires. Good thing you didn’t get married because she would have had you chasing her and her ambivalent feelings for your entire lives.
She left me brehs
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WhereIsTheLove
All Star
Yes, with these divorce rates out here you better do your best to wed someone who you have no doubt is down for you. In this case, OP has no doubt that she ISNT down for him. We about to be in May. Summer around the corner. Don't let this summer go to waste. Don't delete her or block her from social media. Don't watch her stories or like her pics. If anything let her make the first move, but still operate like you moved on @Water
damn breh. you even begged.We were together for 5 years, met at 25 and she just told me she don't wanna be with me anymore. We were going through rough patches but I was willing to fight through them but i guess she wasn't.
Brehs I bought this beautiful engagement ring custom made and I was ready and boom she's done with me just like that after all the shyt we went through. It feels like I lost my best friend and I just don't know how I'm gonna get through this shyt. I ain't never hurt this bad before. I even begged her like a fukkkng simp even though i knew it was pointless. I can't eat and I'm barely sleeping I'm scared of what I might do
leave that bytch alone...if you need an ear feel free to inbox me
Move on. The next year will feel like shyt, unless you're the type who can go out on dates on the regular. Enjoy being single. Get to know yourself. See a few other women before you choose one to settle with. Have fun man. Be free. Try new shyt. Travel. GET TO KNOW YOURSELF.
Bushmaster69
Superstar
I hope you ain't trolling.
You probably dodged a bullet. ThIs is how life goes sometimes.
Go travel and get your confidence back up.
You are still young for a man. You haven't even peaked yet. She is the one who fukked up. Trying to start all over at 30 for a woman, willingly, is silly IMHO.
You probably dodged a bullet. ThIs is how life goes sometimes.
Go travel and get your confidence back up.
You are still young for a man. You haven't even peaked yet. She is the one who fukked up. Trying to start all over at 30 for a woman, willingly, is silly IMHO.
DJ Paul's Arm
Veteran
Listen to this. You’ll feel better.
Ay breh, my woman left me after 7 years and a kid. I was fukked up for awhile. Spent the first six months trying to prove I could be all the things she said I wasn’t in the relationship.
Then I went to therapy, got my shyt together, had some flings. I was detaching. As this was happening she started reflecting on our relationship and started sending me apology messages once per month. I thought she was changing.
We had reconciliation conversations a few times. When I was ready to reconcile she wasn’t, even though she started the convos. After doing that three times I eliminated her as a prospect. Found someone new who treats me like gold and has supported me better than any person ever has (including my mother). As such I have levelled up immensely in a year.
About eight months into my current relationship I told my ex about it (since I was going to introduce my new partner to our kid) and my ex literally cried in the car. It was sad to see honestly. But at that point she knew I had moved on.
She’s since started with a new guy who honestly seems like a rebound but that’s her life and she seems very happy with dude. I’m very happy with my new partner (VERY HAPPY). And we are both living good 2.5 years after our breakup.
Life goes on.
Then I went to therapy, got my shyt together, had some flings. I was detaching. As this was happening she started reflecting on our relationship and started sending me apology messages once per month. I thought she was changing.
We had reconciliation conversations a few times. When I was ready to reconcile she wasn’t, even though she started the convos. After doing that three times I eliminated her as a prospect. Found someone new who treats me like gold and has supported me better than any person ever has (including my mother). As such I have levelled up immensely in a year.
About eight months into my current relationship I told my ex about it (since I was going to introduce my new partner to our kid) and my ex literally cried in the car. It was sad to see honestly. But at that point she knew I had moved on.
She’s since started with a new guy who honestly seems like a rebound but that’s her life and she seems very happy with dude. I’m very happy with my new partner (VERY HAPPY). And we are both living good 2.5 years after our breakup.
Life goes on.
MaxBundles
Veteran
At least you ain't have no kids with her
Amerikan Melanin
Veteran
It’s over. She felt abandoned and neither one of you knew how to sit and talk about it.
Not saying she slept with anyone else or is even talking to anyone else, however it’s rare for a woman to leave situations unless they have another landing spot.
Can you accept that when asking her back?
The Realist Perspective
Superstar
If a woman says she is done, it’s pretty tough to get her back. Especially in the position you are in. You bought her a ring, you thought it was one way she was thinking an entirely other way. That wide of a disconnect? Honestly, yall should not be together. And furthermore it does not take 5 years to marry someone.
Imagine, essentially 30 is the wall for women. She’s going to have to compete with a fierce dating pool with the new young tenderloins released on a daily basis. She chose to swim with the sharks when she has a bad leg at the age of 30 as a woman.
There’s a small chance you’re getting her back man. The last Hail Mary you can do is if you haven’t already show her the ring. Because like the vast majority of women at that age they really want to be locked down. So if you’re really about that, go do that, and report back.
We’ll be here to pick up the pieces breh.
Imagine, essentially 30 is the wall for women. She’s going to have to compete with a fierce dating pool with the new young tenderloins released on a daily basis. She chose to swim with the sharks when she has a bad leg at the age of 30 as a woman.
There’s a small chance you’re getting her back man. The last Hail Mary you can do is if you haven’t already show her the ring. Because like the vast majority of women at that age they really want to be locked down. So if you’re really about that, go do that, and report back.
We’ll be here to pick up the pieces breh.
UnQuantized
Superstar
Youtube Michelle Langley who is an expert on female infidelity. She will turn your understanding of women upside down and expose their true nature. They are not the naturally monogamous, kind, nurturing, emotionally inteliligent fairer sex that we have been raised to worship. They are simultaneously chaotic and ruthlessly pragmatic with no accountability.
Nah, man. Don't feel goofy. You wanted a specific result out of a relationship, more than that relationship wanted you. It happens. As much as I love our community here, you gotta be real selective when taking relationship advice from the brehs. It's a LOT of brehs that are bitter and jaded that ain't ready to admit it yet.
Whatever you do though, don't get into the loop of feeling sorry for yourself, and like you were an idiot or something. That's the least productive way to grow from a setback.