She left me brehs

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btw when I first saw the title I coulda sworn it said "my side chic left me"

maybe I misconscrude(sp?) it with that 40body chic thread some how
 

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How old is she?

Sounds like they’re the same age (30)

She probably believed he was wasting her time/leading her on because he never proposed after years.

We gotta remember women are on different timelines to us :manny:

I don’t think she was creeping probably just a “I’m 30 now, getting older and been with him for 5 years, given him time and he still hasn’t married me or proposed. What am I doing?” :yeshrug:
 

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Give it some time

If you're both the same age, something interesting is about to happen for you.

Your 30s are probably the second most transformative time in your life.

She'll realize, after some time alone, the value of a committed and safe relationship.

You will realize your value on the market, especially after a tried and tested 5 years and proposal. You will be seen as stable and safe if/when you choose to date.

Thats when the interesting part will happen. And you will both choose to either reconcile or never speak again.

So give it time and don't do anything brash. Also, don't listen to the internet either, myself included. Our opinions don't take into consideration your experiences with her. We will either be too positive or too negative. Seek therapy instead. Good luck brother.
Good advice.
 

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Sounds like they’re the same age (30)

She probably believed he was wasting her time/leading her on because he never proposed after years.

We gotta remember women are on different timelines to us :manny:

I don’t think she was creeping probably just a “I’m 30 now, getting older and been with him for 5 years, given him time and he still hasn’t married me or proposed. What am I doing?” :yeshrug:

yeah, if they're both 30, chances are his next relationship will be better.
 

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Welcome to the club, I just went through this months ago :wow: I just went through this last month. My story is similar to yours.

-Know for five, dated for three
-was pushing me through propose last year to a rough patch that led me to move away with just the clothes on my back
-she begged for us to get back together and I did
-We got back in August, every time we flew to see each other, we argued because she thought I was cheating on her, there was never another woman in the picture. She accused me of cheating with a female friend and read our messages , it became a huge blow up. Zero interest in dating this particular woman or even fukn her because I know she a nut case and know all her business.
-In february, I got accused again of cheating with multiple women, she blocked me on everything, mind you I am ready to buy a ring and propose( she was also pushing that shyt on me last year when I was about to ready to leave her ass).
-Despite how tempting it is to cheat long distance, I never got with another woman . Don't get me wrong, I am a man, I have thought about but I just couldn't do that to her

-Anyways, she dumped me, I left VA, she was suppose to come to ATL the next week. When I landed I realized I was blocked on everything. She texted my mom and dad that she discovered I cheated on her with multiple women. I don't know what it was. There was never another woman in the picture, I was extremely busy with work.

-After trying to get in touch, my boy and family talked some sense into me and I moved on:hubie:
-I am enjoying the fuk out of this emotional peace I have :manny:

I told her I was hesitant about getting back together because I liked finally being in peace mode. I do think about her at times, I do miss her(not the arguing) Especially when I went back to our favorite city for work but no way I want to go back.
 

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ok, yeah some women in that 29-31 range get weird and take their stable relationships/marriages for granted. Seen it happen a few times. It's some weird phase that if they listen to it they make bad decisions. Alot of them dont listen to those feelings/thoughts, and alot do.
 

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5 years and no proposal and she’s 30? Yeah the clocking was probably ticking after year 3.

But marriage should always been on YOUR timeline and when you’re ready. Something was preventing you from going pulling the trigger breh. You said she had mental issues it was probably that.

BUT this might be a bluff from her to force you into proposing. If you see yourself with her marriage wise and really want to be with her you might as well send her a picture of the ring like another breh said and get the marriage shyt over with :yeshrug:

She did him a favor..the favor of a lifetime.
He just doesn't realize it yet :wow:
 

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Keep it moving breh. She's most likely been planning it for weeks/months and is already emotionally checked out.

You just have to let it go. Don't go out of your way to contact her unless you really need to (ie. she has your stuff or vice versa) and certainly don't try to convince her to take you back. Being dumped sucks but you still need to move with a certain amount of pride.
 
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