She left me brehs

[Peter Popoff]

She said i didn't support her the way she needed during some hard times but she didn't realize how she needed to be supported until recently which I don't think is fair. I tried my best. She also was pushing for me to propose last year but I wasn't ready so I spent the last year getting ready but seems like she spent that time detaching.

For the last 6 or so months sex became sparse and she would get annoyed when I tried pushing up on her and for the last two months we just didn't so anything anymore. That built resentment in me and we would have petty Lil arguments over bs.

Red flag. Not saying you shouldn't have proposed but if you would've rushed it on her time while she knew your circumstances and still chose to prioritize herself first...it essentially is a sign of selfishness. Selfish women are huge red flags. She loved the construct, not you and that is what wore off.

A strong relationship is built on trust and time.

That relationship would've been a future headache waiting to crumble.

 

[Water]

expound

If one side is pushing for marriage, then you were obviously not on the same wave length

I think the support piece is unfair as well. If she just realized what type of support she requires, I think it's only fair to allow for you the opportunity to provide that support in another situation if it should arise. You can't go back in time to do what she would have wanted you to do

Once sex leaves, it's done done breh


Like I said in previous post, it's hard, but you gotta focus on you now. There's no more "us"

she would just ask me why im not ready to take the next step with her. I told her I needed more time.

 

[King_Kamala61]

Red flag. Not saying you shouldn't have proposed but if you would've rushed it on her time while she knew your circumstances and still chose to prioritize herself first...it essentially is a sign of selfishness. Selfish women are huge red flags. She loved the construct, not you and that is what wore off.

A strong relationship is built on trust and time.

That relationship would've been a future headache waiting to crumble.

Sounds like she was a total bytch based on his testimony.

Women who push men to propose to them are the worse kind of woman cause when they get that wedding band and last name change in effect, they get tired of being a wife.

 

[King_Kamala61]

she would just ask me why im not ready to take the next step with her. I told her I needed more time.

You needed to be clear and concise. Not used word porn answers to questions that need direct and precise answers.

You shouldve told her honestly, "Chère, we been Geauxin through some things which we still working on, trust and believe I'm here for you and I wanna spend the rest of my life with you and I do not believe in divorce. Be patient." Kiss her on the forehead and drink a Yoo Hoo and play Tekken afterwards

 

[International Playa]

It happens to everyone, dont beg her to take you back


See u at the gym breh

 

[Peter Popoff]

Sounds like she was a total bytch based on his testimony.

Women who push men to propose to them are the worse kind of woman cause when they get that wedding band and last name change in effect, they get tired of being a wife.

Been through so many red flag women in my young days that rushed kids and marriage in the span of 2 years when I wasn't financially ready that are now single baby mama's, bat shıt crazy or that let themselves go (or all 3)....



Plus as men, we think we can dıckmatize these women into sticking by but they're playing you at your game with their own agenda. These young dudes better learn that relationships are chess not connect 4.

 

[Mr. Manhattan]

such is life

 

[Human Torch]

I member them days.

shyt gon suck but you will survive. You ain’t the first and you ain’t the last to go through this.

It’ll take time but you’ll be aite.

 

[Concerned Citizen]

That’s rough. Wishing you the best breh. This is when you’ve gotta focus on yourself. It might hurt now but she actually did you a favor because if a marriage, house and kids were in the mix and she decided to dip it would hurt a whole lot more emotionally and financially.

 

[J.E.T.S]

Most, if not all, of us have been there. I went through a break up a few years ago with someone I was with 5 years. Then another one last year with someone I was dating for 9 months.

They both ended the same way as yours. They checked out and start dealing with someone else while detaching from you.

The brehs are right, they are not just clowning. She found another guy and she think he’s an upgrade from you.

It’s hard coded into women DNA. Most are really trash emotionally wise and lack empathy. They want whenever that FEEL like makes them happy in the moment.

My advice from experience. You will think about her constantly and be sick for a long while. You will probably cry when in familiar places, smells, and activities. Try to find a way to stop checking on her social media and don’t go driving by her crib.

Do not contact her and do not allow her back. If you do, she will wear the pants in the relationship and impose all these boundaries on you. You will constantly think about how good she was fukked by someone else. There will be an imbalance and you will worry yourself into a grave. She WILL test your limits/respect and eventually leave again at some point.

Try to find you a couple of new girls to make friends with and go on dates with NO INTENTIONS. Guard your emotions and have meaningless sex with one or both. If you develop feelings for one start practicing how to control your emotions and not becoming attached.

After a while you will either love being single and dealing with who you want, WHEN you want. OR you end up in another relationship where you are empowered and emotionally strong.

“Go to the gym”. Go to school too if you can and get you a degree in supply chain management or cybersecurity.

You eventually find you a loving a loyal girl who you will love, but you have enough healing and strength to handle the reality that a woman can leave at any moment. It’ll also be proven that you can be happy ALONE and have the ability to be playa as fukk. Treat her well. She will respect you and probably never hurt you because women can sense this kind of high value energy.

Always remember that ONE woman or fukk nikka is all it takes to ruin you.

 

[Ukbrotha]

We were together for 5 years, met at 25 and she just told me she don't wanna be with me anymore. We were going through rough patches but I was willing to fight through them but i guess she wasn't.

Brehs I bought this beautiful engagement ring custom made and I was ready and boom she's done with me just like that after all the shyt we went through. It feels like I lost my best friend and I just don't know how I'm gonna get through this shyt. I ain't never hurt this bad before. I even begged her like a fukkkng simp even though i knew it was pointless. I can't eat and I'm barely sleeping I'm scared of what I might do

Hang in there breh. You might not see it now but this could be the best thing that ever happened to you. And you might meet the real one for you.

 

[ThaBoyBam]

If no kids, you good breh.

 

[King_Kamala61]

Been through so many red flag women in my young days that rushed kids and marriage in the span of 2 years when I wasn't financially ready that are now single baby mama's, bat shıt crazy or that let themselves go (or all 3)....



Plus as men, we think we can dıckmatize these women into sticking by but they're playing you at your game with their own agenda. These young dudes better learn that relationships are chess not connect 4.

I learned the hard way about thinking I'm Mighty dikk....smh.... That was the best p*ssy I ever had too and she stayed wet....the wet spots looked like she pissed the bed.

Then she disappeared and I contacted her out the blue, and now she married to a Negro with a tongue ring lol

Funny thing is she came back to me before ghosting me completely for dikk.

Some women are big weirdos, but I also know at 39, you rarely marry the person you have great sex with.

Other components be so important to woman.

All men want is peace, sex, quiet and not to be nagged....

 

[DaddyFresh]

She had already checked out. Get in the gym and cut off contact

Best advice in thread by far. Lmao @ the clown that said send her a pic of the receipt of the ring. Learn from this lesson breh. You bough ring for a woken that had been checked out. Be more aware breh

 

[Remote]

She had already checked out. Get in the gym and cut off contact

Assuming this thread is for real -- OP, you need to do this.