She left me brehs

[MikelArteta]

You’ll be iight breh. I had a similar situation a few years ago. Together for 5 years and got engaged. Ended bad just don’t crash out. Life goes on.

same thing happened to me, broken engagement in 2017. Now 2025 I'm married and a kid on the way in 3 weeks.

One day you will look back and like that it did not work out. It's cliche but there is someone better out there for you, hell anyone who won't leave you and break your heart is better than her already.

 

[Silkk]

Only positive is that R&B music will never hit harder than rn for you

Only short term “positives” in situations like this

 

[Him]

same thing happened to me, broken engagement in 2017. Now 2025 I'm married and a kid on the way in 3 weeks.

One day you look back and like it did not work out. It's cliche but there is someone better out there for you, hell anyone who won't leave you and break your heart is better than her already.

Hope yall have a beautiful life and family

 

[WhereIsTheLove]

Why y’all act like women don’t break up with you in some cases to force a man to act

From what breh has said this woman WANTS a marriage proposal NOW. This may have been a way to force his hand.

I don't believe it for one second.

 

[MikelArteta]

Hope yall have a beautiful life and family

God is good breh, gave up on ever being married
I remember when it ended with my fiance for a long while I held out hope. That she would come back, I was a simp azz nikka even would sabotage when women would get too close to me because just in case

Then I met my now wife and I see why it did not work out. I would have been miserable in that marriage but couldn't see it when I had the blinders on.

Always be a first option not a backup

 

[jj23]

 

[MikelArteta]

I don't believe it for one second.

yeah its lies

 

[V Skyye]

Sounds like she moved on emotionally after you didn’t propose last year. Sometimes you gotta shyt or get off the pot.

 

[Child_Of_God]

With all due respect to you OP, you are better off going to a close family member or friend about your break up rather then thecoli.

Dudes here are legit sociopaths and narcissists who will crack jokes and make fun of you during your most vulnerable state which is just crazy to me because we as black men need all the support we can get from each other but unfortunately even your own people don’t really have your back.

 

[Lord_nikon]

You right man thank you fukk all that. I put in a lot of work in this damn relationship through all her damn mental issues and she just gonna throw it away nah fukk that

Was your lady traumatized or something by passed events ?

I just noticed a pattern or traumatization with women that I attract,,

 

[Ohene]

5 years and no proposal and she’s 30? Yeah the clocking was probably ticking after year 3.

But marriage should always been on YOUR timeline and when you’re ready. Something was preventing you from going pulling the trigger breh. You said she had mental issues it was probably that.

BUT this might be a bluff from her to force you into proposing. If you see yourself with her marriage wise and really want to be with her you might as well send her a picture of the ring like another breh said and get the marriage shyt over with

considering he begged he prolly already told her he had a ring and shyt

she wasnt going for it ...meaning she prolly just not interested anymore or has her eyes on someone new. its the game

 

[Water]

Was your lady traumatized or something by passed events ?

I just noticed a pattern or traumatization with women that I attract,,

Her cat died of cancer

 

[Water]

With all due respect to you OP, you are better off going to a close family member or friend about your break up rather then thecoli.

Dudes here are legit sociopaths and narcissists who will crack jokes and make fun of you during your most vulnerable state which is just crazy to me because we as black men need all the support we can get from each other but unfortunately even your own people don’t really have your back.

You right. There's some good advice here I'm just filtering.

 

[Born2BKing]

She had already checked out. Get in the gym and cut off contact

@Water get in the gym if you wanna get in better shape but that ain't gonna make you feel better. NOTHING will but time. Time heals wounds and you'll eventually move on. And no, smashing random women won't help and will probably make it worse. Be sad, and just live and count the days. It will get better and easier as time goes on but don't look for a magic solution to get over this pain. Its one that some men would rather die than experience.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

Sell the ring, take a vacation, and focus on yourself for a couple months. Then get back out there. If you can find a woman willing to be with you for 5 years, you can find another. Sometimes, things just don’t work out. From what you’ve said, you didn’t do anything wrong, so don’t take it as you weren’t a good partner. She just ended up in a different place mentally. You’ll be alright. I’ve been there. But I bounced back.