She Said A Coffee Date Ain't Good Enough
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You can't be serious...lol
FLYINHAWAIIAN
Vegan For a Reason
I'm saying.
A woman in today's time can meet a dude who she is feeling, they set up a date, then she stops dealing with him cuz they went and met up at Baskin Robbins and not some a seafood restaurant.
I would never tell anyone where to take me. I would just decline. But how you approach dating speaks volumes about how you conduct yourself. If cheap serial dating is how you roll then chances are our priorities don't align anyway.Im not dating nobody; and I don't like coffee neither.
If I was meeting a female for the first time tho, I ain't tripping on going to a soft serve/ice cream place. If I offer that to a woman and she declines and tells me I need to take her to a restaurant for her to see if she interested in me, then I'm not responding. The place don't make the person.
:I'm just saying.
FLYINHAWAIIAN
Vegan For a Reason
I don't even be doing dates no more. In today's time, if I'm on a "date", and me and chick I been fukking out doing something. But as far as first meeting a woman and going on a date.....naw. lotta women wanna live like Instagram models or rappers.
The crazy part is, the dudes that they really want ain't the ones that's tryna take them out to top notch restaurants (tryna impress em) on the first date.
Sorry but relationships come with issues. The most danger women have comes from domestic partners. Not to mention the possibility of pregnancy, diseases along with all the things you guys expects us to do and give up. No that's not worth ice cream and coffee. Sorry. If I have to deal with those risks than I damn sure better get a real benefit otherwise I have none of those worries without ya'll around.I'm saying.
A woman in today's time can meet a dude who she is feeling, they set up a date, then she stops dealing with him cuz they went and met up at Baskin Robbins and not some a seafood restaurant.
We know a man is going to do the minimum required to get what he wants. If a woman accepts less that's all she'll get.
FLYINHAWAIIAN
Vegan For a Reason
It is what it is I guess.
"He took me to a high end seafood restaurant while we getting to know each other"...
"He cool. I think we can vibe together "
"He took me to Dave & Buster's while we getting to know each other"...
"Nah...I don't think he cool"
I think my priorities might be low then
FLYINHAWAIIAN
Vegan For a Reason
Y'all just getting to know each other. Where you get pregnancy and disease from? Lol
The core message isn't bad, but the presentation is unbecoming and telling. Also, there's nothing I can't stand more than relationship/dating gurus who aren't in relationships.
How can you justify charging for your advice if you're clearly unsuccessful...unless the goal is being old and dating forever?
I'm not taking investment advice from a bankrupt person.
How can you justify charging for your advice if you're clearly unsuccessful...unless the goal is being old and dating forever?
I'm not taking investment advice from a bankrupt person.
Exactly I'm getting to know him and he more than likely wants at the minimum sex correct? What he's giving isn't worth what he's asking. If all you present is Starbucks than it's not worth moving forward.
How you do anything is how you do everything.
Piff Perkins
Veteran
Not gonna lie, taking aside the fact that she's completely unattractive and delusional...I actually like the advice.
Coffee dates are low effort, most women probably would agree with that. But instead of saying that directly and coming off like a hassle, she figured out how to completely side step it and get a better outcome. All while being respectful and pleasant in order to increase the odds of getting her way. In an era full of online dating "experts" convincing women to be aggressive or disagreeable about dates, this strikes me as a much better alternative. It's like leading from behind: getting your way without being in front or forceful.
Coffee dates are low effort, most women probably would agree with that. But instead of saying that directly and coming off like a hassle, she figured out how to completely side step it and get a better outcome. All while being respectful and pleasant in order to increase the odds of getting her way. In an era full of online dating "experts" convincing women to be aggressive or disagreeable about dates, this strikes me as a much better alternative. It's like leading from behind: getting your way without being in front or forceful.
She just tired of the 3am text when the old dude kept striking out with the drunk stragglers. There she go opening up the door with the stank face all the while holding a plate a food she cooked up for the homey
Now she wants to bypass coffee and straight to dinner with the new dude
Social media really have ppl thinking we dont see right through them.
Now she wants to bypass coffee and straight to dinner with the new dude
Social media really have ppl thinking we dont see right through them.
darealvelle
Real Talk
Thats a good point.
I really didn’t mean to get into a serious discussion in this thread.I'm saying.
A woman in today's time can meet a dude who she is feeling, they set up a date, then she stops dealing with him cuz they went and met up at Baskin Robbins and not some a seafood restaurant.
The short answer is what I said earlier: good luck.
And it’s good luck to her. Or anyone going out on a date, trying to meet someone to connect with.
I think it’s ridiculous to expect a special night on a first date. For a VARIETY of reasons.
But the first reason is: women have this remarkable ability to set a floor for a man and hold him to it. You show up in a Lexus? You’re gonna have a Lexus or better for the rest of your time together. You take her out to a 2 star Michelin restaurant? Get used to splurging for dinners. It doesn’t matter if your circumstances change. And frankly that’s preposterous and unfair.
Her argument is she doesn’t need a man. She doesn’t need a relationship. And therefore, she’s not going to entertain anything but the very best and most special.
I’m not here to tell her how to set her standards or how to change her outlook and values. Or point out the flaws in them and how they can lead to issues in the future.
People don’t want to hear any of that. They know what they’re doing. Or so they say.
So, I said Good Luck.
I suppose there is someone for everyone.
KillerB88
Superstar
Def fake. No man is talking like that. "I woke up refreshed". "I'd love to..." Very effeminate.