She Should Know You Want the Cheeks...

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I don't think those things...

Urges and desires don't reflect values and priorities, unless that person is maladjusted. This is sadly a reality for many, but that sentence was more of a joke...

Sometimes a person's appreciation for the other's physical can carry parts of the relationship when other things are lacking. I gave a crude example but it definitely happens lol

You don't think those things but those are the words you chose. You can try and walk it back but those are the terms YOU equated to respect.

You literally haven't used any other words as signifiers outside of those 2.

But yes, relationships can carry on without respect. I would say most relationships carry on without a mutual level of respect.

And I'm glad you brought up that point, because now we can bring it home to my original point of this thread, which is that conversations should be had about important issues. In this particular case sex. So that respect can be established early via pacing (consistency) and being up front (morality).

 

[rico_85]

Arriving to pick her up like a gentleman:

Me: Are you paying for your own food?

Her: Nah

Me: We are fuccing

Her: Hell nah mf

Me: BYEEE

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

Respectfully I didn't read all that. Didn't you say you were done with the conversation or am I mistaken?

You were mistaken...

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

You were mistaken...

Oh maybe you just came back to continue to thow a tantrum and call me a hoe again because you aren't getting whatever you're looking for in this discussion.

It's funny how ya'll show exactly what kinda men you are as soon as things don't go your way.

Imagine a grown man throwing a fit about honest dialog.

More women should get to see how truly incapable and weak men like you are...that's why you have to lie...because you know the real you is insufficient.

Look how easily you crack under the slightest bit of resistance.

You look like the hoe to me. Weak motherfukker.

#blocked

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

Oh maybe you just came back to continue to thow a tantrum and call me a hoe again because you aren't getting whatever you're looking for in this discussion.

It's funny how ya'll show exactly what kinda men you are as soon as things don't go your way.

Imagine a grown man throwing a fit about honest dialog.

More women should get to see how truly incapable and weak men like you are...that's why you have to lie...because you know the real you is insufficient.

Look how easily you crack under the slightest bit of resistance.

You look like the hoe to me. Weak motherfukker.

#blocked

I never said ANY of that.. You got your point and people confused

 

[Dzali OG]

Telling a woman im trying beat that back, comes right after hello.

They can't help but respect it...

 

[Kokoro]

No it's not.

Being attracted to someone and actively trying to fukk them are 2 totally different things.

Via my lifestyle (work, my friends etc) I interact with probably 90% men and 10% women.

I personally interact with at least 30 to 40 different men a day in various situations and circumstances (that doesn't even include being in TLR).

In the last 3 months, none of those men have tried to have sex with me. The only time men actively state they want to have sex with me is on this forum.

This is good

I’ve been encouraging men to be celibate and cautious

 

[Kokoro]

Yes and no. It should be that simple but sometimes it's not.

All men have had a woman come over and she said she's not planning on fukking before coming over and 30 mins later she is consensually choking on your dikk with tears of joy coming out her eyes.

And that’s where we as men go wrong smh

 

[Dzali OG]

It's all about having personality.

When you have personality and wit, it doesnt come off as creepy or desperate. I don't know if I've ever said it in the same way yet. Usually it's something to make her laugh and probably say something witty back.

Im serious, when I was in them streets I'd let a woman know I'm trying to have sex like the 2nd or 3rd sentence!

I don't know if im handsome gang, but im tall, black, and what many women consider dangerous gang. Us guys just have a certain energy i guess.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

This is good

I’ve been encouraging men to be celibate and cautious

It is actually nice to be able to move through the the world without every interaction resulting in having to reject or redirect sexual advances.

But just because they aren't trying to get at me doesn't mean they aren't trying to get at other women who maybe more eager or they maybe more attractive to.

I doubt these men are sexless so I wouldn't take it as a W.

 

[Kokoro]

I like to get to know them first, I had too many close calls with nutty broads.

And even then…

And then,

She might follow all the rules

Do everything right

And still might not get none

Cuz that’s just the way it goes around here

 

[Makavalli]

I like your assessment.

The only thing I don't feel like most of the people in this thread are grasping, and I feel that also a bit with your post is the immediacy of the sexual desire conversation.

I think you guys are taking it very literally ie "I want to have sex with you and it should happen now." Which is part of what I mean but i'm more specifically mean, is having the conversation about where you want the interaction to go.

For example, using your examples:

Asking someone you are interested in for sex. It doesn't have to be that literal.

It could also mean expressing that you are interested in a sexual relationship, not just asking for and then expecting sex immediately.

The rest I agree with 100%.

Do you mean letting them know you have a sexual attraction to them as opposed to just saying “i want to smash on thursday”? Like to flirt with a chick in jest with some truth? I was always the type to make a move then wait for the green light like a chess match. Some women it takes more moves than others but if i think one is attractive i let that be known and see how they respond to it before i would react

 

[Braman]

Yes and no. It should be that simple but sometimes it's not.

All men have had a woman come over and she said she's not planning on fukking before coming over and 30 mins later she is consensually choking on your dikk with tears of joy coming out her eyes.

And that’s where we as men go wrong smh

First bold is all facts

2nd bold, some of y’all are trying too hard to be deep. It’s ONE chick in the room and y’all actin funny. Because @Kokoro the fukk are you talking about?!?

 

[MostReal]

I agree. I been learned this smd it's part of being an adult.

It's the best way

 

[Kokoro]

First bold is all facts

2nd bold, some of y’all are trying too hard to be deep. It’s ONE chick in the room and y’all actin funny. Because @Kokoro the fukk are you talking about?!?

Hahaha

Look. You gotta hold women to their word or they’ll never respect you. To respect yourself, hold women to their word.