She Should Know You Want the Cheeks...

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Many women say that explicitly stating your intentions is unsexy. I have got better at moving situations along just from reading the vibe as I have got older. Just stating what you want seems to put women off. Women claim to be better communicators and have this great intuition but it doesn't stack up to reality.

I think some of you are just scared of rejection.

I would hope that you can state your intentions in a direct way that doesn't sound like a robot.

I can't imagine having sex with a man that is too scared to tell me he wants to have sex with me.

He'd be a resident of Friend Zone City.

 

[Strapped]

I was confused for a minute & thought that black pearl had a new love interest . I did get a lil jealous but I was also happy for her

 

[Starman]

OP is right. I can live with rejection, but not with never knowing.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I’m saying entitlement in either scenario. You really believe if someone says “ok” to sex and someone backs out there won’t be resentment?

Just go with the flow and not expect anything and you’ll be fine.

Communicating your intentions and then allowing the person to make the decision for themselves is literally the opposite of entitlement.

"Going with the flow" is the quickest path to the friend zone.

Just because you are sexual interested in someone doesn't mean you are obligated to have sex.

 

[cyndaquil]

Salute to the breh for speaking up and locking down his wife. If he didn't she would have put him in the friendzone and just been the trip guy. I tell all the women I deal with that I don't do trips to intimate locations with people I'm not intimate with. Now that doesn't mean just sex but we gotta have a level of comfort and closeness that sex is always there. But these brehs just gotta realize that these chicks are just as horny and wanna get put through the mattress. They mess the game up out here trying to shame women for being the sexual beings that they are

Even worse, lets say you go on the trip and you agreed to be platonic travel buddies...sometimes one thing leads to another and yall end up fukkin being in settings that intimate. She might even try to blame you or have some resentment for fukkin her after yall agreed to be platonic.

But the absolute worst thing would be yall go out while traveling and she gets picked up by another breh and ends up getting her ass pushed through a mattress while you come back to your room alone beating your meat to some porno chick that looks like her

 

[Barlow]

Communicating your intentions and then allowing the person to make the decision for themselves is literally the opposite of entitlement.

"Going with the flow" is the quickest path to the friend zone.

Getting upset about not getting sex is the entitlement which can happen whether you let it be known before hand or not.

You know you can still initiate intimacy without saying it before hand right? If you were going to get friendzoned it was going to happen whether you brought up sex before hand or not.

 

[boogers]

It's almost 2026. Are we still not telling each other we want to have sex and leaving it up to a "vibe"?

That's a dangerous game gentlemen. I hope we're having real adult conversations by now.

i know most dudes on here are younger and into short term dating but as someone in a LTR shyt like this is hilarious

i think the most we went was six weeks. its my fault for not getting in there. i think after nearly a decade shes only turned me down maybe 3 times. i was just being lazy. she actually told me recently like "you spent all this money on birth control, why arent we...?"

man i feel like im married

its still good dont get me wrong. she can extract my soul at times. but having sex on a schedule like some old person cracks me up lol

i like when women are honest. ive had women hit on me and ask me out and it was wild. i love a woman with balls (no dame)!

 

[boogers]

i will admit that most of my women friends are women i tried to get with who didnt want me

its a good thing. not having that tension anymore means yall can be friends. after reading some of these posts... a lot of yall need some women in your life. you know theyre not just for sex right? i mean your momma your sister etc. talk to them

IME they can tell you when youre fukking up. and how to look attractive. and how to handle a girl youre interested in.

just having a girl 'wingman' in general is good. it shows other women that youre capable of being friends with women and not just into them for sex.

 

[Doobie Doo]

ALl you gotta do is try and put a finger in her butt, if she swats your hand away, you got your answer

 

[NotAnFBIagent]

Jammed up language

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[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

You're right. But they be wanting to fukk on the first date. It's a matter of them fighting their own impulses. I'm attractive so they assume I'm a player. It's a her problem for sure because she's not forcing me to invest if she wants a relationship nor can she.
That's why I stay telling brehs they really dont have to jump through all these hoops if the woman is attracted to them. But on the same coin as a man it is important to let a woman know your intentions so the onus is on her to bow out if your intentions don't align with hers. If I let her know and she still onboard and fukks me it's 100% on her. Nobody lead her on. She decided that pleasure was worth it

If she is willing to fukk a complete a complete stranger just because you look good she deserves what she gets. Trying to get a relationship AFTER the fact is a wild way to live.

You can tell when a person never dates attractive people.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

TikTok - Make Your Day

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[concise]

If you clicked on the quote, you would see exactly where it came from.

YOOOOO. I BEEN HERE ALL THIS TIME AND I NEVER KNEW YOU COULD DO THAT.

That's how it works on almost every forum, it even worked that way on

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I was confused for a minute & thought that black pearl had a new love interest . I did get a lil jealous but I was also happy for her

Not yet. Lol

 

[UpThruDere]

But do you state it or do you just expect them to know. That's the question.

Im a direct person so it usually goes like this "Don't come over here on that bullshyt acting shy cause im trynna nail a bih to the cross right now" and they end up giggling and telling me im stupid/crazy then say their on the way. It's better to just go all in cause if they're not with it then you're not really losing nothing anyways, most women still act childish when it comes to sex they be wanting to feel like you tricked them out their panties basically.