Should I take my girl up on BJ offer...

[Melt_Man]

 

[Houston911]

I didn't the bring the other chick up. She brought her up. I just threw that comment out there bc she was grilling me about the other chick.

And it's not like I'm constantly on her about getting bjs/swallowing. We don't really talk about it that often. It's just that when the subject does come up, I let her know how I feel.

I feel you on the rest of the advice though.

Also, I feel like yall have the wrong impression of her reaction. She wasn't nonchalant about it, she just wasn't super pissed off like I thought she would be. She was more sad/dejected about it. Instead of yelling or getting angry, she was near tears and said that I was making her feel like she was ruining my life and that she was the cause of me being unhappy and she doesn't want to bear that burden. So she said if I absolutely need that to be happy, although she wouldn't like it, she would understand. I just took it as a guilt trip at first, but now I'm not sure what to think about it.

And as for me sharing her, it would be really difficult for her to do in our situation. I'm not saying it's impossible, but I really don't think that's the case.

Post her pics so i can assess the situation

 

[Heretic]

In all honesty. It could be the pregnancy killing her sex drive. Also no matter what these nikkas say, not every girl will swallow or let u cum in their mouth. So just be prepared to deal with that possibility forever fam.

 

[devizelle]

Either she's cheating on you or you realllly hurt her feelings. Or both. No female I know (me included) would ever give their man license to get his dikk sucked by another girl though... that's just weird/suspect, even especially if she was preggo.

How much do you trust her?

 

[A.V.]

 

[Julius Skrrvin]

 

[Grifter]

She's ok with it.

Either you share that girl, you're about to share her or its a plain and simple trap.

 

[winb83]

I been with my girl for almost 3 years now. She's cool and everything has been good except for one area. For the first 6 months to a year, she used to give blowjobs pretty regularly, although she would never swallow (I always had to finish on her titties or ass or somewhere). Ever since then, though, the BJ rate has been been on a worse decline than 50's career. Right now, I'd be lucky to get one every other month, if that, and I basically gotta talk her into it. I tell her all the time how fukked up that is and I've been trying to get her to swallow since the start of our relationship. Her response was that she will have to work up to that and that it will eventually happen "one day."

So anyway, last night she was questioning me about hanging out with a female friend that she knows I used to mess with before her. I didn't do anything with this friend last night, but just to piss off my girl I made a comment along the lines of "Well, if I can't get what I like here, of course I'm gonna try to find it somewhere else." Only problem is that didn't really piss her off. She seemed kinda sad/deflated, but was like "I understand if that's what you have to do." I told her I didn't really do anything, but asked her if she would really be ok with me getting head from somebody else, and she said that it wouldn't make her happy but she would understand and would accept it as long as I wasn't fukking them.

So men and women of the coli, what should I do? Would it be a good idea to take her up on this opening? It'd be cool to hear from ladies on this too.

Some background before the "you share that girl" comments: we've been living together for 2 years and I'm pretty sure she aint doing no dirt. And like I said before, everything is cool except for her bj hangups. And she's like 3 months pregnant right now, so I don't wanna throw her (and my seed) in the bushes.

You want something and you're dating a woman that really isn't interested in giving you what you want. Some people give oral sex for their partner and some do it for the love of the art.

Why waste your time dating someone that isn't on the same page as you? If you have to go out and get core functionality that people in relationships should be getting elsewhere because the person you're with isn't giving it to you then what does that say about your relationship?