Smh, some of you nikkas, smh....
Should I take my girl up on BJ offer...
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ChuckDaddy
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Yeah, I feel you on bolded. I started to go in that direction when she initially said it, but I was shocked she actually said what she did. Although I agree with what you said, part of me wants to call her bluff and see what happens. You shouldn't say shyt like that just to back away from issues if you don't really mean it.
It's not just about swallowing (and she doesn't spit, btw -- I have to finish somewhere other than her mouth). It's about her pretty much abandoning bjs altogether. It would be one thing if she was like this from the jump, but it just happened gradually over time. She went from being down for pretty much everything (except swallowing) to now pretty much never wanting to go down. Like someone else mentioned earlier, other things will probably start to decline or go away if I just keep letting stuff slide now and acting like it's no big deal.
BlvdBrawler
Superstar
Did you ask her why this happened?
the thing is, after she gives labor it would be perfectly normal to have reduced or absolutely 0 sex drive for 3-4 months and you are going to take that the wrong way when its perfectly physiological. you might as well sit down talk it out and make a plan now once a month or so
Maybe your nagging got on her nerves to the point she didn't think you were enjoying it anymore because you couldn't finish where you wanted to. You ask most females why they enjoy giving head and 99% of the time the answer is going to be they like pleasuring the guy that they are with. Maybe YOU eliminated that pleasure factor with her because you wouldn't stop with that "let me nut in your mouth" shyt.
Secondly, this girl is pregnant with your kid(and nutting in p*ssy
>mouth) so she is already gonna be emotional and insecure. On top of that you want to put it in her head that you may be messing with someone else, which is probably the #1 insecurity most pregnant females have in regards to their relationship, because they see themselves as fat an unattractive. And you wonder why she reacted the way that she did? Because her emotions are already all over the place. In all seriousness the shyt you did was selfish and inconsiderate and you deserve every bad thing coming to you in the future in regards to this relationship.
Secondly, this girl is pregnant with your kid(and nutting in p*ssy
>mouth) so she is already gonna be emotional and insecure. On top of that you want to put it in her head that you may be messing with someone else, which is probably the #1 insecurity most pregnant females have in regards to their relationship, because they see themselves as fat an unattractive. And you wonder why she reacted the way that she did? Because her emotions are already all over the place. In all seriousness the shyt you did was selfish and inconsiderate and you deserve every bad thing coming to you in the future in regards to this relationship.
Illuminatos
#OVOXO
I been with my girl for almost 3 years now. She's cool and everything has been good except for one area. For the first 6 months to a year, she used to give blowjobs pretty regularly, although she would never swallow (I always had to finish on her titties or ass or somewhere). Ever since then, though, the BJ rate has been been on a worse decline than 50's career. Right now, I'd be lucky to get one every other month, if that, and I basically gotta talk her into it. I tell her all the time how fukked up that is and I've been trying to get her to swallow since the start of our relationship. Her response was that she will have to work up to that and that it will eventually happen "one day."
So anyway, last night she was questioning me about hanging out with a female friend that she knows I used to mess with before her. I didn't do anything with this friend last night, but just to piss off my girl I made a comment along the lines of "Well, if I can't get what I like here, of course I'm gonna try to find it somewhere else." Only problem is that didn't really piss her off. She seemed kinda sad/deflated, but was like "I understand if that's what you have to do." I told her I didn't really do anything, but asked her if she would really be ok with me getting head from somebody else, and she said that it wouldn't make her happy but she would understand and would accept it as long as I wasn't fukking them.
So men and women of the coli, what should I do? Would it be a good idea to take her up on this opening? It'd be cool to hear from ladies on this too.
Some background before the "you share that girl" comments: we've been living together for 2 years and I'm pretty sure she aint doing no dirt. And like I said before, everything is cool except for her bj hangups. And she's like 3 months pregnant right now, so I don't wanna throw her (and my seed) in the bushes.
You're not sharing that child support.
ChuckDaddy
Pro
I've brought it up, but she'll just act like nothing's wrong/different or make excuses (the time wasn't right, etc) or point to times (like on special occasions) when she went out of her way to really please me.
Could be a fair point. But it's not like I bring that up every time. And I do offer encouragement or let her know when I am enjoying stuff that she does.
My biggest concern with all of this is that this is just the beginning and other areas will start to suffer after this. If I'm gonna be with someone long-term, or consider them wifey-status, I don't wanna have these hang-ups popping up. It's like how ppl always say women lose their sex drive after getting married. I don't wanna get to that point and look back with all kinds of regret and thinking that I should've tried to right the ship back when it started going off course.
Sounds like she's insecure bruh. She doesn't feel sexy, wanted, beautiful, etc.
Complaining generally doesn't get anywhere with anybody. Your complaining is just pushing her further and further away from you. Try a different approach.
Complaining generally doesn't get anywhere with anybody. Your complaining is just pushing her further and further away from you. Try a different approach.
breh seriously, how old are you two? I doubt y'all have even reached your primes yet. Only way sex is gonna fall off is if she is getting from somewhere else and maybe that should start to become a concern for you.
Silver Surfer
Veteran
...you sharing
Mr Uncle Leroy
All Star
sounds like a really good understanding chick...
but she is having your baby and decided to have a baby with her, but you wanna get a bj from another chick, and proceed to talk her into it?
but she is having your baby and decided to have a baby with her, but you wanna get a bj from another chick, and proceed to talk her into it?
ChuckDaddy
Pro
I didn't say sex was falling off now. I said I don't wanna see it happen years from now and have regrets. And we are both 29, for what that's worth.
I didn't talk her into it. I just made a stupid remark out of anger, which I admitted to her was untrue pretty much right after I said it, and she put that option on the table herself.
BlvdBrawler
Superstar
You have to understand my man, the sex is going to fall off. Lock it in. That's the nature of nature. There's nothing new or exciting about a chick you've been banging for 10 years. It's gonna happen, and on both sides.
I been with my girl for almost 3 years now. She's cool and everything has been good except for one area. For the first 6 months to a year, she used to give blowjobs pretty regularly, although she would never swallow (I always had to finish on her titties or ass or somewhere). Ever since then, though, the BJ rate has been been on a worse decline than 50's career. Right now, I'd be lucky to get one every other month, if that, and I basically gotta talk her into it. I tell her all the time how fukked up that is and I've been trying to get her to swallow since the start of our relationship. Her response was that she will have to work up to that and that it will eventually happen "one day."
So anyway, last night she was questioning me about hanging out with a female friend that she knows I used to mess with before her. I didn't do anything with this friend last night, but just to piss off my girl I made a comment along the lines of "Well, if I can't get what I like here, of course I'm gonna try to find it somewhere else." Only problem is that didn't really piss her off. She seemed kinda sad/deflated, but was like "I understand if that's what you have to do." I told her I didn't really do anything, but asked her if she would really be ok with me getting head from somebody else, and she said that it wouldn't make her happy but she would understand and would accept it as long as I wasn't fukking them.
So men and women of the coli, what should I do? Would it be a good idea to take her up on this opening? It'd be cool to hear from ladies on this too.
Some background before the "you share that girl" comments: we've been living together for 2 years and I'm pretty sure she aint doing no dirt. And like I said before, everything is cool except for her bj hangups. And she's like 3 months pregnant right now, so I don't wanna throw her (and my seed) in the bushes.
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