Should Men Always -- Or Even Usually -- Pay For Dates?

Art Barr

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Free meal ticket? I would just drive to my parents' house...I can get free meals anytime I want. That's not the point at all.


it is the point.
as no law, supports a man committing the whole entire one hundred percent.
plus, the law is fifty/fifty.
so, in the beginning that is why successful black couples who are on committals.
get together by visiting one another, and not spending money on a date.
I know this shyt as a science and know what females do in general and the connotation involved in proposing dates to a female you just mate.
it says you are an insecure fool with low dating experience. That likes to be taken and a female will readily take from you, as that is what they do.
as standard if you click on their taker based initiative by proposing a date before you are intimate.
I know this to be real,...
as I lived it and found the matrix to up game.
that completely works when getting up with females.
plus, getting them to respect you from a male perspective.
where they shut off the take iniative as you never engage it to be taken in the first place.
females, now do.not respect men who court in a traditional sense.
females who are real and will really play you, to just the ones who will get up with you in general.
all know not to get with the guy talembout going on a date as the first thing out his mouth.
if, they bite on a date asker, they are a roster builder/slash gold digger.
I know this shyt, all to real cause I live the shyt and I know what does not work, in nature.
plus, is not represented by any law or actual braintrust of females who are on any side of the spectrum in general.
females know,...
a guy who asks for date are unactualized in the dating game and are equal to food out'chere.

any female disputing it is not breaking kayfabe.
Or, just to hellbent on voicing their exceptions to the rule.
when, life is about generalizations, not the exceptions.


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A woman telling a guy to keep tricking his money on dinner dates. You Go Girl!

A man with HIV trying to convince another man to hoe around and end up like him. You go....straight to hell
 

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Many of these guys are very young, some don't really like women, and some probably haven't felt the touch of a woman who genuinely cares about them in years (if ever). Ignore them and do you. I wish you the best and hope you find a woman who can play her role with the same level of rigor that you play yours.
so because we don't want to trick off on a fleet of women were young? your logic is flawed.
 

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So let me get this straight...you are going this route to avoid being used and putting your money into a woman for no reason right?
So let me get this straight... you feel that taking a woman that you've recently met on a dinner date and spending $80+ is a more effective way to get to know if a woman really likes you better than a nice walk in the park on a beautiful sunny day?
 

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A man with HIV trying to convince another man to hoe around and end up like him. You go....straight to hell
Oh here comes the female with the defection! l don't have HIV. Is that the best you have Sista Girl?
 

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So let me get this straight... you feel that taking a woman that you've recently met on a dinner date and spending $80+ is a more effective way to get to know if a woman really likes you better than a nice walk in the park on a beautiful sunny day?

To what advantage would this plan of action bring me? Let's say I do decided to be frugal with my dates. I end up wifing her, putting money into her and she breaks up with me because she just lost attraction with me for whatever reason. How would you avoid the loss from that?
 

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Yes you do, brother man. Do I need to pull up the quotes?
Instead of focusing on the topic at hand, you decide you want to spend your time searching for nonexistent quotes of me saying I have HIV. Have Fun with that!
 

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so because we don't want to trick off on a fleet of women were young? your logic is flawed.

I gave a number of reasons why SOME men in thread are CHASTISING one man because he doesn't mind paying for dates. You can't even follow the conversation so I doubt you can follow logic.
 

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I don't understand why women just can't admit that they expect the man to pay.
They always have to throw in some comment about how they wouldn't mind covering their part...but that doesn't address the unspoken custom that it's EXPECTED of the man to pay.

It just goes back to my original comment.

If it's a gender role or tradition that you like, then you're okay with it. You just want to cherry pick the convenient parts of chivalry and shyt.

I'll grant that a lot of women today have no issue paying --- if presented with the request to do so.

But I'd bet that in 99.999% of those cases, it would raise an eyebrow if she's asked to pay.
And in 100% of the cases, her girlfriends...when they ask about how they date went...will ask if he paid.

That shyt always comes up.
And you know why, too.

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To what advantage would this plan of action bring me? Let's say I do decided to be frugal with my dates. I end up wifing her, putting money into her and she breaks up with me because she just lost attraction with me for whatever reason. How would you avoid the loss from that?

When did I ever say be frugal on all dates? All I'm saying is you shouldn't be dishing out a bunch of bread when you first meet a female. Many females have dates lined up with Tricks like you and are just using you for free meals. If a female isn't down to chill with you at a park, art festival, hiking, working out at the gym or any activity where money is being spent and will only meet up with you for a date if you are spending money then what does that tell you...
 
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