Should Men Always -- Or Even Usually -- Pay For Dates?

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She hits you up a few days later and says "Hey Chill, I'm on your side of town. Lets get drinks at this new Martini place nearby" Would you go?

Based off her drinking habits which I should have noticed after being on a few dates with her if she dosent get too heavy with alcohol yeah I'd go and even add a light dinner (especially if it's in Midtown ATL :whew:). If she's heavy with alcohol and drinks a lot I'd suggest something else or a bar.
 

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Based off her drinking habits which I should have noticed after being on a few dates with her if she dosent get too heavy with alcohol yeah I'd go and even add a light dinner (especially if it's in Midtown ATL :whew:). If she's heavy with alcohol and drinks a lot I'd suggest something else or a bar.
Moderate drinker. Lets say she will have 2 drinks on this date. Now when the bill comes, do you pay for it?
 

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Same way chicks don't think they should give up,the p*ssy until a dude done payed up on avg. everybody trying to get over nowadays it seems on both sides. Its like a pro league labor negotiations.

you having sex should not be predicated on a guy spending money on you.
bitter
prude
twit
with gold digger game

Why? Because I disagree with you saying all Black women do one thing? Where are your receipts for your baseless claims?
Ol fling mud to detract from my ignorance brehs...

be a typical woman who does not understand generalizations.
Then, self equate everything to herself as the first person exception to the rule.


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2 drinks plus mine (I don't drink much) so that'd be like $80-$100? I'd pay.

Why would you pay when she called you up and invited you out by saying "Hey Chill, I'm on your side of town. Lets get drinks at this new Martini place nearby"?

This is why the "Whoever invites should pay" rule is bullshyt. Even when women does the inviting they still expect the man to pay. If you would have made her pay for that whole bill since she invited, you would have never heard from her again and she would tell all her friends that you were a cheap scrub.
 
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you dont listen. clearly i said a woman can pay too and she should pay sometimes. I simply said a man should pay more. And yea men are typically the bread winners. I dont need to do research because you already know the deal. Women have been able to work for a long ass time now. How did I know you were gonna bring that sorry ass argument up? lol Men have been paying for dates even when the woman has had a job. Basically you 2010 nikkas are cheap as shyt. Just get with a girl who doesnt care if you dont pay for anything. its no point in quoting me back.
A man should pay for more dates than a woman should.. period.


agai, marriage law does not even support your bullshyt and has not for close to forty fifty years.
Ever since women were given civil rights.
yet, you want to cling onto old female slave style ways of life.
nikka,..
you trapped like a tupac song.
plus, your mind is locked like a prison

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Why would you pay when she called you up and invited you out by saying "Hey Chill, I'm on your side of town. Lets get drinks at this new Martini place nearby"?

Because that's just how I was raised to play the dating game :ld:.

I would just rather pay, I feel like it's an insult otherwise. If I wasn't ready to deal with that sort of stuff then honestly I just feel I shouldn't be dating or just trolling backpage for a guaranteed smash.
 

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It can be 50/50 if thats what the couple wants. I am not speaking for other relationships because people do all sorts of things. I said that the man should pay more because thats what I want. If sally sue up the street wants to pay for every damn date thats her business.

anyways......

Now what else would be 50/50? Is cleaning 50/50? is cooking 50/50? is changing diapers, giving the kids baths 50/50 etc? the bottom line is that the modern woman these days does way more than the man. Not only does she work full time she also comes home, cooks, and takes care of the kids. and this info was presented in my psych book but it doesnt matter anyways because you know thats what women do.

Now if a woman is doing that than a man can at least come out of his pocket more financially. Like I said before every man has understood this basic concept except for cheap ass broke men of the 2010's shoot even broke men back in the day knew women expected for men to pay for dates and be the bread winners.


this is why you stoopid as fukk.
union between men and women have been fifty for close to fifty years.
I knew you did not know any sociological facts.
nor marriage law and real talk...
You sound like a typically ignorant slave minded woman.
when, women were given reparations' on a larger level above any group or sex.
even children, too.
who also were once slaves, in America as well.

you are ignorant.


old maid ass gooflame stances you got are not even supported by fact or law.
Just destructive bullshyt traditionalism, which is the bane of society if based on slave rhetoric and times.

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Why would you pay when she called you up and invited you out by saying "Hey Chill, I'm on your side of town. Lets get drinks at this new Martini place nearby"?

This is why the "Whoever invites should pay" rule is bullshyt. Even when women does the inviting they still expect the man to pay. If you would have made her pay for that whole bill since she invited, you would have never heard from her again and she would tell all her friends that you were a cheap scrub.
gah damn he is stupid smh

thats not a date, thats a girl using him to get free drinks, he is a living coupon
 

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Because that's just how I was raised to play the dating game :ld:.

I would just rather pay, I feel like it's an insult otherwise. If I wasn't ready to deal with that sort of stuff then honestly I just feel I shouldn't be dating or just trolling backpage for a guaranteed smash.
so she invites you out, and you pay? yeah you're stupid breh. no offence
 

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Because that's just how I was raised to play the dating game :ld:.

I would just rather pay, I feel like it's an insult otherwise. If I wasn't ready to deal with that sort of stuff then honestly I just feel I shouldn't be dating or just trolling backpage for a guaranteed smash.

So you just paid for 9 dates in a row with 2 women and havent even kissed them. Spent hundreds of dollars to get a hug and a "You're such a nice guy" text. After those dates with you, these women are calling up other guys to blow their backs out. Be a Simp in 2015 Brehs.
 
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