Since moving back to the south, I realized how much folks down here talk.

[Umoja]

It is usually like that in country areas. I think it is a good thing.

The way that we're living isn't healthy. Depression and loneliness is on the rise but people want to get bent out of shape because others make conversation.

 

[Jean Jacket]

Man...facts.

Doing business in GA last year and meeting different people in different work centers.

EVERY single conversation was about football and sports the whole time (45 mins to an hour). Women, men, old people didn't matter. Just start talking like a NPC or some shyt once they see you.

Alabama/Auburn/Georgia.

Brehs waste so much time talking about nonsense it's almost sad.

 

[OnlyOneBoss]

It is usually like that in country areas. I think it is a good thing.

The way that we're living isn't healthy. Depression and loneliness is on the rise but people want to get bent out of shape because others make conversation.

But it’s times where silence is okay too

I mean look at the native Americans, they grow up in close communities too and they value silence and hold in high regard. Sometimes there just don’t be shyt to talk about frfr

Again this ain’t really a dig cause I don’t like south slander for the most part but it is a big cultural difference

 

[ba'al]

nikkas like a broken record stay repeating themselves. They live in these little bubbles and get offended you not in that mfer with em. I think up north on average ya'll get exposed to a lot more stuff then bammas but that's anecdotal i aint got a source or anything just MO.

nikkas really be thinking since idle chit-chat makes them happy it must make everyone happy. Bammas will literally force a conversation on to you. Had one nikka talk to me about grits and cheese for like 10 minutes straight but it felt like a hour long National Geographic series the way dude was talking. In my face the whole time during downtime at work. Like bruh, we got some downtime, and this how you want to spend it? Talking about some damn GRITS AND CHEESE!!! Then if you tell them you're not interested in whatever they are rambling about they get hurt and offended it's a lose, lose.

 

[Grand Cru Boo]

I live on a floor with 12 apartments in a 13 story high rise in NYC. I don’t even speak to my neighbors let alone randos pulling up. I will say sometimes white people will try to hit me with “good morning” if were in a close space. Sometimes I’ll reciprocate, sometimes I’ll ignore it.

 

[ThatTruth777]

Stop being anti-social

 

[Umoja]

But it’s times where silence is okay too

I mean look at the native Americans, they grow up in close communities too and they value silence and hold in high regard. Sometimes there just don’t be shyt to talk about frfr

nikkas like a broken record stay repeating themselves. They live in these little bubbles and get offended you not in that mfer with em. I think up north on average ya'll get exposed to a lot more stuff then bammas but that's anecdotal i aint got a source or anything just MO.

nikkas really be thinking since idle chit-chat makes them happy it must make everyone happy. Bammas will literally force a conversation on to you. Had one nikka talk to me about grits and cheese for 10 minutes straight looking me in my face the whole time during downtime at work. Like bruh we got some down time and this how you want to spend it. Talking about some damn GRITS AND CHEESE!!!

Without communication, it isn't known. Result of that way is people moving with their heads down and not getting to know one another. The result of that, well the proof is in the pudding: depression and loneliness.

If people want to stick to the values that make them happy, and those values result in people feeling welcome, good for them. I hope that they don't stop to appease spineless poofs who cannot hold a conversation.

 

[MajesticLion]

It's on you to steer the convo toward something productive.


And even with that said, I can't begin to count how many opportunities/help came my way because I took the time to listen to some little old lady on the train. You never know who's linked up with who.

 

[ba'al]

Without communication, it isn't known. Result of that way is people moving with their heads down and not getting to know one another. The result of that, well the proof is in the pudding: depression and loneliness.

What makes one person happy could make another miserable. Like blowing hot breath into a person's face about some cheese and grits for 10 minutes. You talk about depression. I feel worst around large crowds because it's a certain pressure to conform to that group think herd mentality. But you might enjoy that. I'd argue people pleasers have a harder time. No one is obligated to talk to you or entertain you.

I hope that they don't stop to appease spineless poofs who cannot hold a conversation.

That's another thing I can be social and when I am people are giddy and want to chill and hang out but I much rather study, read, listen and make music. It's nothing wrong with enjoying your own space and company. What I'm thinking is more important to me than what Joe Smoe has to say. It's nothing wrong with being introspective imo and chilling with only your day ones.

 

[Greenhornet]

when you talk to someone a few times to be friendly
and then they want to take every single time they see you, about nothing... wasting your time

thats that shyt I dont like!

 

[Umoja]

What makes one person happy could make another miserable. Like blowing hot breath into a person's face about some cheese and grits for 10 minutes. You talk about depression. I feel worst around large crowds because it's a certain pressure to conform to that group think herd mentality. But you might enjoy that. I'd argue people pleasers have a harder time.

That's another thing I can be social and when I am people are giddy and want to chill and hang out but I much rather study, read, listen and make music. It's nothing wrong with enjoying your own space and company. What I'm thinking is more important to me than what Joe Smoe has to say. It's nothing wrong with being introspective imo and chilling with only your day ones.

There is nothing wrong with being introspective. I am that way inclined to. It is a problem when your head is lodged so far up your ass that you cannot see how trying to push for people to cut down on the chit chat is contributing towards the issues we are seeing.

I will say this again. A growing problem is loneliness and depression. This problem is not cured by pushing for a social norm where people don't talk to those around them due to the fear that they might not want to talk.

 

[Mowgli]

Go back home Yankee

 

[3rd Ward Swangin]

Generalize the big ass south as talking too much. Maybe that's in your part of the SOUTH.

In my part of the south if you talk a lot. You're looked at too damn friendly and lame.

 

[ba'al]

when you talk to someone a few times to be friendly
and then they want to take every single time they see you, about nothing... wasting your time

thats that shyt I dont like!

Dapped and repped.

There is nothing wrong with being introspective. I am that way inclined to. It is a problem when your head is lodged so far up your ass that you cannot see how trying to push for people to cut down on the chit chat is contributing towards the issues we are seeing.

I'm not pushing for people to cut down or chit chat. Ya'll can talk to each other about the same shyt, over, and over, and over and over, and over to one another just don't try to group think or peer pressure nikkas into talking.

 

[tuckgod]

Take your rude ass back round them funny style nikkas you let rub off on you