Single mothers are way poorer than I thought.

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maybe it because black men are collectively the lowest group of financial stable men in the country. :patrice:

But when we tell black women to stop dealing with unstable not ready dudes we get deflections like this

or we got black women going viral talking about they dont want a 9-5 nikka.:wow:


Where are men supposed to start to fix the shyt. Give me some viable shyt:feedme:

Oh it’s the black women struggling as single mother saying this??
 

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I disagree bro. I know too many cases of blk women and children getting shytted on by legit scumbags who would not provide any help to their own children. It’s gotta be a case by case basis. My good friend was married for 12 years. They had 5 children together and when she got laid off, he cheated and stopped paying bills. I watched her give plasma to feed her kids and when she finally divorced she tried joint custody but he would not see his own kids to try and control her b/c he didn’t want her to have time to date. Keep in mind he cheated on her and remarried 3 weeks after their divorce was finalized. But the new wife left him too b/c she found emails catching him in lies. He had a job paying 60k and owes 15k in back child support. She has been raising those 4 blk boys and girl with no help. And the kids will tell u themselves that she had never blocked any opportunity for them to see their dad. There are some dudes who are utter scum out here. Bitter blk baby mamas ain’t the only ones ruining lives in our community.
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This "wealth" is very misleading.

It's almost entirely tied to home ownership....and since white people prefer living around their own...and are the majority, their home values are driven upward.

If you looked at more liquid forms of wealth (cash, stocks etc), that $384k number is coming all the way down.

Plus...most WW get cash infusions from Mom and Dad. My coworkers stay funneling cash to their kids, even when the kids make good money. Paid for their college, bought them condos etc. They start life in 3rd base while black folks ain't even inside the stadium yet.
 
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I understand both sides because my sister's sperm donor hasn't paid CS in 12 years and works under the table jobs to keep the court off his back. I've witness how a deadbeat ass nicca can make shyt so hard on a single mother.


I also have a couple homeboys who are good dudes just trying to make a way and what little bit they get is damn near nothing after CS payments...all because these chicks are petty and vindictive. Dudes actually involved and breaking consistent bread still ending up in friend of the court because of bitterness.
 

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This "wealth" is very misleading.

It's almost entirely tied to home ownership....and since white people prefer living around their own...and are the majority, their home values are driven upward.

If you looked at more liquid forms of wealth (cash, stocks etc), that $384k number is coming all the way down.

Plus...most WW get cash infusions from Mom and Dad. My coworkers stay funneling cash to their kids, even when the kids make good money. Paid for their college, bought them condos etc. They start life in 3rd base while black folks ain't even inside the stadium yet.
Which is even more reason to be married. You have twice the time, income, and networks to invest in the children.

Its like tennis. Single parents playing a tennis match by themselves. While two parent households playing doubles. A single player vs. two players who has the advantage?

idk why folks insist on playing at a disadvantage.
 

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This "wealth" is very misleading.

It's almost entirely tied to home ownership....and since white people prefer living around their own...and are the majority, their home values are driven upward.

If you looked at more liquid forms of wealth (cash, stocks etc), that $384k number is coming all the way down.

Plus...most WW get cash infusions from Mom and Dad. My coworkers stay funneling cash to their kids, even when the kids make good money. Paid for their college, bought them condos etc. They start life in 3rd base while black folks ain't even inside the stadium yet.

nothing misleading about it at all. this is how wealth is defined.


If black single mom wealth is $5k, their liquid wealth is probably $500

"While the overall wealth gap remains stunning, as Whites have a median net worth over 15 times that of Blacks ($111,740 vs. $7,113), and over 13 times that of Latinos ($111,740 vs. $8,113), when it comes to liquid wealth, the disparity is even starker. The median liquid wealth of Whites is over 100 times that of Blacks and more than 65 times that held by Latinos.
When retirement savings are taken out of the analysis, the disparities in liquid wealth are even more disturbing. Blacks are found to hold a mere $25 and Latinos just $100 in liquid wealth, compared to $3,000 held by the typical White household."

source from Duke University: https://globalpolicysolutions.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/BeyondBroke_Exec_Summary.pdf

The Middle Black Family in Los Angeles is only worth $200.00 Liquid

And if we look at those other forms (which most of us DONT have any stake in) we look even worse.
 
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Women women women :mjlol:

It takes two to tango and it takes two to raise a child.


You do realize that more men are probably dead beats because they expect women to make all the decisions when it comes to a child? Because they put all the responsibility on a woman once they impregnate her?

Once both parties realize that it takes two to make a child and two to raise a child than maybe some parties will stop thinking that only one is responsible for taking care of a child. That goes for both women and men.


There’s no pointing fingers at one parent... it’s takes both.

you’ll probably come back with well if women chose better and etc etc... but a child is innocent.. to take it out on how you feel a mother should act on a child you created is selfish.

It's not so much blame....but rather.....the positions we occupy.

At the end of the day, men are almost ALWAYS the initiators and women are the "deciders". Obviously a lady can't help if Prince Charming turns into a frog. However, it's not uncommon for a man to show his true colors early and for the lady to ignore it because the man has impressive physical attributes (height, smile, build etc).

Men have to approach and women have to figure out the Studs versus the Duds.

Men can't reliably pull women out of their league for casual sex. We can only do that with commitment. That's when men get burned. They make money and attract women out of their league but aren't savvy enough to deal with much more experienced women.

Women CAN pull very attractive men for casual sex. Rather than getting a guy that adores you, the lady gets fukked by a dude that knows he can find more women anytime and doesn't value his interaction with you.
 

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Which is even more reason to be married. You have twice the time, income, and networks to invest in the children.

Its like tennis. Single parents playing a tennis match by themselves. While two parent households playing doubles. A single player vs. two players who has the advantage?

idk why folks insist on playing at a disadvantage.

if any Pro Black message / "How to save the black community" dont start with Black Marriage, then its a waste of time....
 

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if any Pro Black message / "How to save the black community" dont start with Black Marriage, then its a waste of time....
i dont consider myself pro black but the shyt is obvious. Black children from single parent households are at a disadvantage when competing against children from two parent households.

All the other disadvantages they gonna face and folks cant even find responsible parents for they kids and make that shyt work. its like black folks trying to lose.:snoop:
 

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maybe it because black men are collectively the lowest group of financial stable men in the country. :patrice:

But when we tell black women to stop dealing with unstable not ready dudes we get deflections like this

or we got black women going viral talking about they dont want a 9-5 nikka.:wow:


Where are men supposed to start to fix the shyt. Give me some viable shyt:feedme:
Viable shyt? Welp plenty of blk women want a man 9-5. But the ones you pay attention to, the most ignorant in our community don’t. It’s great u used that example b/c it actually proves what I’m gonna he saying in this post.

It starts and ends with blk men and who ya’ll entertain. They gotta keep their dikks out of trashy women. I mean do u know the one factor that actually deaded OOW babies in our community in the past?

It was called shotgun weddings. Or the expectation that if u stuck ur dikk in somebody’s daughter whether she was a hoe or not, you were required to marry her on some tag u it nikka! That was a cultural norm enforced by our community historically.

See how simple that is. No juelzing about how fast she was. No “b-b-but she da one having da baby.”

Just pure male accountability and simple understanding of 9th grade science that says if u stick ur dikk into raw p*ssy, she might get pregnant whether u like her or not. Sure they shamed chicks back in the day. All day long, but chicks was still fukkin dudes on lovers lane, all kinds of shyt. But the buck stopped with who? The man.

Male sexual selection drives OOW births in our race. Black male overemphasis on ass and titties, nuttin on her face, lemme run a train on her, she betta suck my dikk or I’m ghosting, she sucked my dikk now I’m still ghosting, have resulted in ya’ll only having access to the lowest tier of women who will let u do all of that shyt but also comes with the price of dealing with mentally broken chicks. And this isn’t solely a black female phenomenon, b/c blk men repeat this pattern with other races of women as well. So u either want loose easy p*ssy and the dumb ass mentality that comes with bum bytches who’ll let u fukk en on their air mattress in the middle of a dirty empty apartment...or you are promoting qualities beyond ass and titties and nutting in her face and “but the PAWGs will let me” mentality.

The most viable solution is to help fix the psychosis blk men are going thru that makes them believe their sexuality is their primary value. That’s a lie of white supremacy. So many pursue Easy p*ssy as a form of escapism and catharsis but easy p*ssy is never easy.

Out of 22 million blk women in America, guess how many are single moms? And of those single moms guess how many are actually divorcees and not the trifling hood rats we think of when some mentions blk single mom.

It’s actually a minority of blk chicks bussin it open and they got MULTIPLE blk baby daddies. Multiple blk men chasing easy p*ssy or getting angry on the Coli over easy p*ssy and wishing them death b/c they can’t get those types of chicks.

Believe it or not, blk women are already doing their part to combat this shyt. Nearly 40% of blk women are childless. That’s double the number from previous generations and an increasing number of blk women are delaying childbirth. But even if most black women decide to close their legs to all black men, black men will simply do go to Brazil, Europe, Asia, DR, Whole Foods, and repeat the cycle with non-blk women or chase after the worst chicks ever just so they can brag about nuttin in a chick raw or in her eye or on her face.

I can shout to the rooftops about how horrible and trifling these bytches are outchea but the truth of the matter is, she can always find MULTIPLE men to fukk her. Black men have to value their seed and get beyond the “anything for a nut” mentality they using to deal with the evils of white supremacy.

To me it’s already been established that the blk chicks weaponizing reproduction are trash. So why would a trash woman still have so many dudes lining up to help contribute to the next OOW blk child being born? Until men take responsibility for their future by avoiding obvious trap queens, they will continue to get fukked over walking down then p*ssy paths of least resistance.

Lemme know if you want me to post stats on any of these numbers b/c I have the sources available somewhere.
 

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As for blk women they have a similar psychological journey they have to take. I posted a thread in the Salon a while back literally trying to explore the mystery of why these blk women allow themselves to get caught up with illegitimate babies with dudes who obviously don’t care about them.
And much like blk men do the same thing with non-blk women, blk women date the lowest quality dudes in other races too. Sooooooooo it can’t just be a black male issue.

I think many blk women are trying to finesse a family using her p*ssy. They idiotically equate getting fukked with love. Even in spite of these chicks repping that hood rachet, hard vaneer, they are actually some of the most psychologically fragile women.

Blame white supremacy. So many of them are desperate for love and that hood hardness doesn’t translate to them being able to advocate for themselves in meaningful ways, like I dunno saying no to the dummy who trying to fukk u without demonstrating his affection for u. Meanwhile others are in survival mode and just trying to get whatever they can get.

The solution to this shyt for blk women is them learning how to keep their legs closed or being fully in control of their sexuality. But for many, just like blk men, they locate their only value in their sexuality. Combine that with natural reproductive impetus and no guidance in communities where they may have been raped or molested and u get chicks who will let u run trains on them on dirty floor of somebody’s apartment.
Blk men can’t fix that for Black women. Do you know how many blk men got OOW children? Not many. And Zaddy won’t fix it either. Hell he started this shyt.

So what we are really looking at is a phenomenon where the most mentally unstable men and women in our communities are the baby boomers for our community, while the rest of us ain’t going nowhere NEAR birthing and raising babies.

Solutions to this for black women wont come easy. Acknowledging the problem is a struggle let alone solving it.
I suggest mass community programming. Schoolwide curriculum on positive interpersonal relationships and communication with the opposite sex. There has to be a cultural shift that is powerful enough to reach those in the darkest spaces of our community. Because they are literally the only ones having kids in the same environments, thus perpetuating the cycle.
 

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Viable shyt? Welp plenty of blk women want a man 9-5. But the ones you pay attention to, the most ignorant in our community don’t. It’s great u used that example b/c it actually proves what I’m gonna he saying in this post.

It starts and ends with blk men and who ya’ll entertain. They gotta keep their dikks out of trashy women. I mean do u know the one factor that actually deaded OOW babies in our community in the past?

It was called shotgun weddings. Or the expectation that if u stuck ur dikk in somebody’s daughter whether she was a hoe or not, you were required to marry her on some tag u it nikka! That was a cultural norm enforced by our community historically.

See how simple that is. No juelzing about how fast she was. No “b-b-but she da one having da baby.”

Just pure male accountability and simple understanding of 9th grade science that says if u stick ur dikk into raw p*ssy, she might get pregnant whether u like her or not. Sure they shamed chicks back in the day. All day long, but chicks was still fukkin dudes on lovers lane, all kinds of shyt. But the buck stopped with who? The man.
shyt changed. Sexual revolution in all that. If we going back to shotgun weddings there is gonna be a lot of shyt men just aint gonna let yall do.
Male sexual selection drives OOW births in our race. Black male overemphasis on ass and titties, nuttin on her face, lemme run a train on her, she betta suck my dikk or I’m ghosting, she sucked my dikk now I’m still ghosting, have resulted in ya’ll only having access to the lowest tier of women who will let u do all of that shyt but also comes with the price of dealing with mentally broken chicks. And this isn’t solely a black female phenomenon, b/c blk men repeat this pattern with other races of women as well. So u either want loose easy p*ssy and the dumb ass mentality that comes with bum bytches who’ll let u fukk en on their air mattress in the middle of a dirty empty apartment...or you are promoting qualities beyond ass and titties and nutting in her face and “but the PAWGs will let me” mentality.
Come on now. Its not black male sexual selection thats the problem here. All men like attractive women. and black men collectively are fairly responsible.
Nearly half a black men dont have kids. In fact black american men have the HIGHEST percentage of unmarried childless men of any ethnic group in the country.
women just like to share dudes.

The most viable solution is to help fix the psychosis blk men are going thru that makes them believe their sexuality is their primary value. That’s a lie of white supremacy. So many pursue Easy p*ssy as a form of escapism and catharsis but easy p*ssy is never easy.
fukk outta here with this. Dudes aint out here believing they primary vaule is sex king status. That something black women look for. Any dude will tell you its easier to to pull other races of women while being less physically attractive than bw like.
Out of 22 million blk women in America, guess how many are single moms? And of those single moms guess how many are actually divorcees and not the trifling hood rats we think of when some mentions blk single mom.
I dont care. There is still to many single moms and too many ratchet single moms.
It’s actually a minority of blk chicks bussin it open and they got MULTIPLE blk baby daddies. Multiple blk men chasing easy p*ssy or getting angry on the Coli over easy p*ssy and wishing them death b/c they can’t get those types of chicks.
Men like attractive women. Women cant be attractive and have morals?
Believe it or not, blk women are already doing their part to combat this shyt. Nearly 40% of blk women are childless. That’s double the number from previous generations and an increasing number of blk women are delaying childbirth. But even if most black women decide to close their legs to all black men, black men will simply do go to Brazil, Europe, Asia, DR, Whole Foods, and repeat the cycle with non-blk women or chase after the worst chicks ever just so they can brag about nuttin in a chick raw or in her eye or on her face.
47% of black men are childless. Yall slacking. And im failing to see the correlation between fukking other races of women and the black single mother rate. Why does fukking other women matter.
I can shout to the rooftops about how horrible and trifling these bytches are outchea but the truth of the matter is, she can always find MULTIPLE men to fukk her. Black men have to value their seed and get beyond the “anything for a nut” mentality they using to deal with the evils of white supremacy.
So if she has multiple men to fukk her why not find one with a stable job, a responsible outlook, and a willingness to marry her?:yeshrug:
To me it’s already been established that the blk chicks weaponizing reproduction are trash. So why would a trash woman still have so many dudes lining up to help contribute to the next OOW blk child being born? Until men take responsibility for their future by avoiding obvious trap queens, they will continue to get fukked over walking down then p*ssy paths of least resistance.
The dudes she fukking with aint thinking about the future. Does she look good? Is she a pain in the ass? Trust yall dont want brehs having standards. I wish black men had higher standards.
Yall bytch endlessly about brehs engaging in the slightest critque.
Dudes say they dont like fat women. Bw got a problem.
Dudes say they dont want single mothers. Bw got a problem.
Dude says he doesnt want a woman with additude. Bw got a problem.

Lemme know if you want me to post stats on any of these numbers b/c I have the sources available somewhere.
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40% of blk women are childless.

Only 4 out of 22 million blk women are single mothers. And roughly 1/2 of those are divorcees. 68% of single moms got multiple baby daddies.

Multiple men keep going back to the same trash ass women b/c they chasing easy p*ssy.

It’s all about a phat ass and who will let u nutt in them easily with blk men in this equation.

with 2 million blk women engaging in this lifestyle it’s all about either being stupid enough to believe Rodney when he said he loved u just so he could hit it raw, or thinking u can “trap a nikka” and finesse a family just cuz he fukking u.

At either end it’s about low self esteem and using sex as a means to an end.
 

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As for blk women they have a similar psychological journey they have to take. I posted a thread in the Salon a while back literally trying to explore the mystery of why these blk women allow themselves to get caught up with illegitimate babies with dudes who obviously don’t care about them.
And much like blk men do the same thing with non-blk women, blk women date the lowest quality dudes in other races too. Sooooooooo it can’t just be a black male issue.

I think many blk women are trying to finesse a family using her p*ssy. They idiotically equate getting fukked with love. Even in spite of these chicks repping that hood rachet, hard vaneer, they are actually some of the most psychologically fragile women.

Blame white supremacy. So many of them are desperate for love and that hood hardness doesn’t translate to them being able to advocate for themselves in meaningful ways, like I dunno saying no to the dummy who trying to fukk u without demonstrating his affection for u. Meanwhile others are in survival mode and just trying to get whatever they can get.

The solution to this shyt for blk women is them learning how to keep their legs closed or being fully in control of their sexuality. But for many, just like blk men, they locate their only value in their sexuality. Combine that with natural reproductive impetus and no guidance in communities where they may have been raped or molested and u get chicks who will let u run trains on them on dirty floor of somebody’s apartment.
Blk men can’t fix that for Black women. Do you know how many blk men got OOW children? Not many. And Zaddy won’t fix it either. Hell he started this shyt.

So what we are really looking at is a phenomenon where the most mentally unstable men and women in our communities are the baby boomers for our community, while the rest of us ain’t going nowhere NEAR birthing and raising babies.

Solutions to this for black women wont come easy. Acknowledging the problem is a struggle let alone solving it.
I suggest mass community programming. Schoolwide curriculum on positive interpersonal relationships and communication with the opposite sex. There has to be a cultural shift that is powerful enough to reach those in the darkest spaces of our community. Because they are literally the only ones having kids in the same environments, thus perpetuating the cycle.
White supremacy is damn near dead. This shyt is over exsposure to poverty which set a culture that is destructive.

Black men associate black women with poverty because collectively we broke. So little black boys associate black women with poverty which is unsavory. Added to the fact that black women have a negative portrayal in the media in comparison to other women. Not many in shape, attractive, feminine potrayals of black women. Yet thats the norm for white women. Not to mention the black community is matriarchy. So black men havent estblished networks to control the wealth in the community. (Makes black people have to deprieve self worth from nothing of any material vaule.) So men arent passing down a legacy in any real way so there is no material reason to keep it black. Which means a black woman is only as valuable as any other woman(because they still MY kids), less so when accounting for media promotion. This leads to black womens inferiority complex to white women.

I dont even wanna do the analysis of why black women fukked up because its gonna take to long and yall not gonna listen.
 
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