So She Wants To Go On A Family Vacation With Her Baby Daddy

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this is why you really can't get serious with a single mom
This is true - if she don't have any kids to you. If you breed her and she gives you a greater than or equal amount of kids, then she's yours.

Back on topic, I would have said cool, let him come as long as he don't mind hearing me and you in the next room every night.
 

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it's always the people who can't even maintain having a man/woman trying to give their worthless 2 cents about a relationship, smh. don't take any of these clowns advice, do you.
 

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If you're just dating she's free to do whatever she wants :yeshrug:

Stop cuffin'. If you wanted her to follow your rules, shoulda staked your claim. :ld:


Yep.

Pretty much. They been dating 3 months and dude said nothing serious, but now she's supposed to just change her life for a dude who sees their relationship as "nothing serious"?

:mindblown:
 

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This is true - if she don't have any kids to you. If you breed her and she gives you a greater than or equal amount of kids, then she's yours.

Back on topic, I would have said cool, let him come as long as he don't mind hearing me and you in the next room every night.

Yup, and just like what bappaned to sharp you say anything your jealous your insecure you don't trust me?

I'm sure no man here would want their chick serious or not to be going on vacation with an ex.


Sharp did the right thing, a simp wouldnt have.

And that leads me back to single mothers, deep down she's still holding out for the family the white pocket Fence that one day it will work out, if this chick is willing to go on vacation with baby dad she's willing for him to come over and spend the night.

The only single mom you should ever get serious with , is if she is a widow and her kid no longer a dependant.
 

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Pretty much. They been dating 3 months and dude said nothing serious, but now she's supposed to just change her life for a dude who sees their relationship as "nothing serious"?

:mindblown:

Even if I were casually dating someone, I would no go on vacation with an ex even if I did every year prior.
 

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Pretty much. They been dating 3 months and dude said nothing serious, but now she's supposed to just change her life for a dude who sees their relationship as "nothing serious"?

:mindblown:

So you would have been okay with her going to Disney with her baby father?
 

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I don't think that dudes understand the principle behind it. It has little to do whether we're serious or not.

It has to do with drawing the lines about what I will tolerate. Let's say that 4 months later me and her become serious, and she wants to go on vacation with him.

I say that I have a problem with it. She'll simply say that I didn't have a problem with it before. This is what many of you do not get. If I would have said cool, she would have walked all over me from that point forward.

Now if she was a jumpoff, then this whole thing would be moot because there would be no stock invested and I could care less what she does when she isn't with me. But the reality is that even though we weren't serious at that particular time, it was something that we were working towards. We weren't friends with benefits. We were dating, as in getting to know each other to determine if we want to pursue a committed relationship. She messed up any chance of that by her actions.
 

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Man you did the right thing. That's just COMMON ETIQUETTE. It's not hard to understand. She knew what she was doing but women always want to see how far they can push the line before you go for it. If you deal with someone new, you don't have your ex involved in your life beyond the minimum necessary contact, and you especially don't go on trips with them.

Her dealing with the ex in such a fashion is just her way of roster building. I can guarantee you sooner or later in addition to the ex would be 'homies,' 'just my friend,' 'bruddas' and a host of other nonsense.

They know what in the world they are doing. No need to second guess yourself.
 

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Peep this...

I've been dating this chick although nothing serious for the past 4 months. She has a son who is 7. No big deal to me since I have 2 kids of my own.

Anyway, her and her son's father get along great. I've met him and he was one of the few dudes that didn't act like a dikkhead. Always showed respect.

So anyhow, 3 months into the relationship she tells me that she is planning to take her son to Disney in Florida which is cool. But then she goes on to tell me that her baby father is coming too. I told her that I wasn't okay with that. She told me that they take these family trips annually.

I explained to her that if she is in a relationship then she shouldn't be taking vacations with another man regardless of the situation. It's different if it's a graduation or a birthday party, and even then if you're in a serious relationship you should invite your boyfriend. (Mad that I even had to explain this to her)

She went on to tell me that I'm insecure and that if I'm with her and he knows this, then why am I worried about him and her going somewhere with their son. And that she's been doing this before we met, no other dude ever had a problem with it, and if I do, then we just need to stop dealing.

Long story short, I cut her off a few weeks later and she's mad at me calling me an insecure lame. But I think if any other dude was in my situation they would have done the same. If I would have allowed that bullshyt, dude would have been in our lives forever on a very uncomfortable level.

But on another note, what the fukk is wrong with these bytches thinking shyt like this is ok?

How do you know she is calling you a lame if you cut her off?
 

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How do you know she is calling you a lame if you cut her off?

She called me a lame when I told her that I wasn't comfortable with the situation and that it was over.

Her exact words

"I can't believe you're breaking up with me over this bullshyt. You're a lame. You're a little boy. You're not as mature as I thought u was. Well whatever, have a nice life"

She is older than me by 4 years (she's close to 40)
 

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She called me a lame when I told her that I wasn't comfortable with the situation and that it was over.

Her exact words

"I can't believe you're breaking up with me over this bullshyt. You're a lame. You're a little boy. You're not as mature as I thought u was. Well whatever, have a nice life"

She is older than me by 4 years (she's close to 40)

:snoop:

I see both sides of it honestly. That said I think the solution was (assuming the trip was set already) to tell her you weren't comfortable with it and if the relationship was serious at the same point next year this would be a deal breaker if you aren't on the trip with her/him :manny:

It sounds like you didn't like her that much to go that far so :obama:
 
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