So what does a man do when he is looking for his wife...

[Leao2005]

I’m in Charlotte. And there’s plenty of pretty chicks here looking to get married.

Tell them holla at me

 

[BaldingSoHard]

So wait a minute - if you holla at a chick,
and on the first time y’all go out and make conversation, she asks:

“Do you want to get married someday?”
...and you do want to get married someday,
what should you say - according to your advice here?

Well if you want to get married, then you should say that.

But for me, I can't imagine wanting to get married until / unless I meet a woman who makes me feel that way.
Like the idea of marriage itself? Nah. Hell nah. Without having someone in-mind, it's just an abstract idea, and a bad one at that. I have to pay $40,000 for some pictures of her in a dress just to spend the rest of my days listening to her complain?
No, I definitely don't want that, abstractly speaking.

However, IF a woman comes along and the feeling just hits you (as it does), then that's the one.
The one that makes you never wanna tell another lie? That's the one.
The one that makes you wanna boss up to your potential? That's the one.

But starting with "I want marriage, let me find someone to fill in that blank." never seems to work out, imo.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Ain't none of these soft lonely dudes gone listen to you. I bet that shyt is a turnoff to women too.

I ain't never fell in love with a woman, they always fall in love with me.

Your woman should always love you more than you love her. I live by this.

 

[EndDomination]

I agree with this.

But I don’t understand how someone can think “compromising” is not “settling”.


If it isn’t so, then why do people refer to getting married as “settling down”?

For instance, my girlfriend has a limited palate, so when it comes to food choices, I take that into consideration and choose a place that will be please us both. That's the kind of compromising one makes in a relationship.

Settling is choosing someone who actively doesn't meet important standards or qualities, without the assurance that they'll at least attempt to meet them.

I like someone who is physically active, while my girlfriend doesn't like it as much, she's willing to go to the gym 4-5 times a week. We compromised so we wouldn't have to settle on that.

Settling down is a different use of settling - it just means you stop "playing the field" and focus on family life.

 

[EndDomination]

Divorce rates hella high but fools in here saying there's great women everywhere


This website is wack for advice 65%of the time

Divorce doesn't mean that the man or women isn't "great," it means the couple had issues within the marriage that couldn't be rectified.

A lot of people don't fully understand what they want, or have to deal with circumstances that make the relationship untenable

 

[tuckgod]

Women don’t want to be married anymore.

Society isn’t set up for that.

If you aren’t already married just fukk as many hoes as you can before you die.

fukk it.

 

[Breh the HitMang]

go to Church

 

[2Quik4UHoes]

@Double Burger With Cheese put it best, just live your life and keep leveling up. It’s her job to convince you to settle down n shyt. Have your fun until you meet someone you can be serious with. But never settle, you only live once why the fukk would you trap yourself with someone you don’t want?

 

[FlyRy]

brush up on your spanish and go to Colombia and find someone half your age

 

[seabreeze80]

So what happens when you come across a man that “feels like” he’s better than your husband
and he starts showing you attention?

I don't. That's the point and highlights the difference btw finding common ground with the right one vs settling with someone you don't really want.

 

[CW_1991]

The common westernized, americanized, liberated female is pretty much raised to be whore.

They're all inundated with the same types of modern propaganda, ideologies, and doctrines that only results in further removing them from traditionalism.

Obviously there are standouts. If America is a proverbial field and women are the crops, the majority of the crops are going to grow in same direction. There will be some that grow differently but, they're rare.

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

So a person does this all this...

...and then when she comes, you want to keep her.
But...







...she wasn’t “dating with a purpose”, though.
She (like much of the advice given in here), was just doing what she wanted
and not really “searching”. So when you want to get serious with her,
she doesn’t want to be serious, she likes what y’all have the way it is/she’s not ready.

What do you do?

And what do you do if this is the case with most women you find?

You kind of answered your own question
You can’t force somebody to be with you
Nor can you force somebody to love you
This is where being in tune with yourself
And knowing when to walk a way
You can’t control what other grown folks do
Only thing you can do with anybody is lay down your program
If she ain’t with it and just wants casual
Then it’s up to you to nut up and accept the circumstances
Or tell shorty
That’s not what I’m looking for
I want more and I understand you’re not there yet
But I gotta go *Dave Hollister voice*
People make things more complicated than it should be
Both times(ex and current wife)
I told them what I was looking for
They told me their same plans
And it worked
Not every persons timeline is the same
Outlook is the same
What it really boils down to is taking care of you
Be direct
And let the cards fall
And not be scared of failure/walking a way

 

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

Marry young enough to mold (24-26 range) and pop out a as many kids that you might want



If you're talking about marrying for companionship....don't

 

[dark_magic]

...but none of these women he talks to or deal with want to be wives, or cuffed by him?


What do you do then?
Because you can’t convince anybody; they either want to be with you or they don’t.


This is academic and rhetorical, btw...

Cop that foreign.