So what does a man do when he is looking for his wife...

[EndDomination]

You date women that actually want to be married.

They’re literally everywhere, especially if you’re older than 24. I come across professional, educated, and interesting women every single day - some who are married, some who *really* want to get married, and some who are open to the idea but aren’t necessarily looking.

They shouldn’t be hard to find, no matter where you are in the U.S.

 

[EndDomination]

A smart man looks outside this country.

You okay breh?

Kind of related but I will never forget when my cousin came to kick it for a weekend right after he had his son. He just wanted to get away for a second. We was talking about the bachelor life compared to marriage. I’m giving him the pros and cons from my perspective and he giving me the pros and cons from his perspective. This nikka told me the best way he could describe marriage was that you a full time simp But he love his wife and shyt but at that time, he just needed a break

Depends on who you marry. You’ll have to concede something, because there are compromises in all relationships, but some women are a lot more giving than others.

Nature no.
Upbringing,morality,Cultural and social influence yes.

Long story short American women aint shyt and you would be a fool to attempt to make a traditional family with one.
The bytches themselves know it and are doing you a favor.
Look elsewhere.

Women worldwide are the same, unless you’re in a rural village in Pakistan where child marriage is the norm

 

[EndDomination]

All these excuses and bullshyt.


If a man can’t find a woman to marry in 2021 then guess what? HE is the problem.


Hell if a man can’t find at least three women who would legitimately marry him in 2021 then HE is the problem.


This shyt ain’t rocket science. Any man who has a job, is reasonably hygienic, isn’t a creep, and has a modicum of self confidence can find a woman who will be into him. The test isn’t finding a woman to marry, the test is finding the RIGHT woman to marry. And even then there are plenty of dope black women in the world who are marriage material.

This.
I don’t know a single Black men that has these qualities, that doesn’t have women trying to marry him or interested in him.

Are you telling me that you don’t know any men like the ones you describe in bold
without partners?

I can say I don’t know any men like those described that don’t have partners. The only one that would foot the bill as consistently rejected most of the stream of women around him.

Let’s throw another skew on the Bar-B:


How many of y’all know women who have been engaged more than once?

I only know two, and one was engaged to a crazy man.

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

You can’t look for a wife if you are not a husband
Meaning
If you don’t have yourself right first
You won’t recognize what she looks like
And I’m not talking just financials
Have you sought council for your past demons
How do you talk to yourself
Are you finally comfortable in your own skin
No theatrics, hiding from your truth
Do you have a moral compass
Have you set boundaries for yourself in relationships that are unwavering
And only allowed some leeway permitting circumstances
Outlook on life(goals/accomplishments,wishes)
Do you just see things in black/white or do you live a life in the grey area
We give a lot of shyt to women on their choices
But many men couldnt identify a good woman as well until she is out the door
If you are not spiritually grounded and emotionally stable
You no better than some of these modern women
Do the work
Date with a purpose
And when she comes
All will be revealed

 

[Taadow]

The best things you find
are the things you were never
looking for.
Ask any woman.
A woman will go shopping and the
second she bring what ever she wanted
home and it's in her closet it's like.....ehhh.
But when a woman is just browsing and
come across something that kick her in
the p*ssy like dikk on prom night that
article of clothing,jewlery art etc.
It's something she cant live without.


what's yours will find you.....stop searching.

I can understand this parable in theory...


...but it is the absolute opposite of everyone in here saying “look for someone who is marriage minded”.



If a woman is always “browsing” for something that will “kick her in the puccy”,
(women be shopping...women be shopping)
does it make sense to try be just another thing in her closet?


I mean, men don’t shop like that...we shop with a purpose in mind.
We say “I need a shirt”, go to one store to find a shirt we like, buy it,
wear that shirt until we can’t fit it or it gets holes in it, and still don’t throw it away.
Are we wrong for not shopping like that?

 

[Taadow]

You don't look for a wife. Looking for a wife will inevitably lead to settling.

If a woman comes along who is worth wifing, do it.

But do not seek it out.

So wait a minute - if you holla at a chick,
and on the first time y’all go out and make conversation, she asks:

“Do you want to get married someday?”
...and you do want to get married someday,
what should you say - according to your advice here?

 

[Taadow]

Nah. If I feel I can do better than him I settled. I don't feel that way in any way shape or form. I did with previous men tho. Not with him. There is a difference. With an ex I knew I wasn't going to get what I wanted and felt cheated. I don't feel that way in my relationship now.

So what happens when you come across a man that “feels like” he’s better than your husband
and he starts showing you attention?

 

[TEH]

...but none of these women he talks to or deal with want to be wives, or cuffed by him?


What do you do then?
Because you can’t convince anybody; they either want to be with you or they don’t.


This is academic and rhetorical, btw...

Book one on IG





…. j/k



I remember I was like you

looking for a girl to make my heart beat fast

s a girl who when I saw her I’d think of love songs …

someone who ticked all the boxes

Wholesome, moral, beautiful, etc.

& I got played mercilessly

find a wife with your head

be practical

improve yourself

& you’ll have many who are willing to prove themselves to you to chose from

In other words you can find what you want once you stop being a hoe ass nikka & respect yourself as a man …

stop looking for love

women do that …

this isn’t Disney …

this is real life

 

[Taadow]

Do the work
Date with a purpose
And when she comes
All will be revealed

So a person does this all this...

...and then when she comes, you want to keep her.
But...







...she wasn’t “dating with a purpose”, though.
She (like much of the advice given in here), was just doing what she wanted
and not really “searching”. So when you want to get serious with her,
she doesn’t want to be serious, she likes what y’all have the way it is/she’s not ready.

What do you do?

And what do you do if this is the case with most women you find?

 

[Taadow]

I remember I was like you

This is not about me, Yo.
I got no dog in this fight.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

The best things you find
are the things you were never
looking for.
Ask any woman.
A woman will go shopping and the
second she bring what ever she wanted
home and it's in her closet it's like.....ehhh.
But when a woman is just browsing and
come across something that kick her in
the p*ssy like dikk on prom night that
article of clothing,jewlery art etc.
It's something she cant live without.


what's yours will find you.....stop searching.

Stop playing these games and write the book or get the webseries poppin! These streets are starving for guidance bey!

 

[TEH]

This is not about me, Yo.
I got no dog in this fight.

I hope so

 

[Taadow]

Depends on who you marry. You’ll have to concede something, because there are compromises in all relationships, but some women are a lot more giving than others.

I agree with this.

But I don’t understand how someone can think “compromising” is not “settling”.


If it isn’t so, then why do people refer to getting married as “settling down”?

 

[Cat piss martini]

Stop playing these games and write the book or get the webseries poppin! These streets are starving for guidance bey!

 

[J Money]

Divorce rates hella high but fools in here saying there's great women everywhere


This website is wack for advice 65%of the time