Chrome2279
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This would be easy to turn into a game for people to do with their kids at the dinner table over time. Which will improve them over time.
Social Skills Improvement Thread
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This would be easy to turn into a game for people to do with their kids at the dinner table over time. Which will improve them over time.
Everyone except y'all Coli gawdsooooooooohhh I was just about to make this thread but I had too much shyt to do OP! Good looking out!
Social skills deficits are the issue a lot of men and women are dealing with these days.
Yeah,there's another one where you pick words that fall into a category in a certain amount of time.
some people are going to have to train their brains like they are children if they aren't used to pulling from their brain
Not really sure at what point people would know that they can't be helped.
But I would assume that most people can be helped and don't have a mental disorder
I doubt anyone will actually do this but whatever.
To improve pronunciation find a list of tongue teasers, speak them out as clearly as possible. Once you've learned the sounds properly speed it up enough your tongue teaser isn't pronounceable and start again. I always had a problem with people asking me to repeat whatever I said.
To speak less monotonous read a passage from a book 1-2 minutes should be fine to start off with. Put as much passion into it as you can as if you're giving a clinic about whatever you're talking about and your audience completely trusts you.
To speak louder read something out loud and imagine you're talking to the wall opposite you. Now, you may want to record your voice when you're talking normally and when you're talking to the wall and see the results. I'd say learn breath control but that's an intermediate step that's not relevant.
Memorize ice breakers. If you know 10-20 ice breakers odds are you can sustain a 5-10 minute conversation without feeling awkward.
Practice basic greetings and ending conversations. Goes without saying you won't feel comfortable in a conversation or social interaction if you have no idea how to get out of that situation.
Learn storytelling. Storytelling is the #1 method to convey your values and status. Literally, try telling a story and record yourself. Figure out stories in your life that convey certain things about you whether it's your wealth, personality or whatever message you want to send. If you have absolutely no life experience fake your stories. Without sharing and opening yourself up with people you won't connect easily.
Practice smiling in front of a mirror if you can't smile on a dime. It's more helpful than y'all realize.
Group conversations are difficult, all I'll say is even if your timing is off even if you think it's dumb, saying anything is better than being silent in a group conversation.
Don't be afraid of saying dumb things.
None of this works if you don't go into the field and obtain reference experiences.
Ideally, in the end, your goal is to persuade and seduce everyone whenever you talk.
As with everything your mileage may vary. Don't do everything all at once and give it 21 days for the habit to kick in.
To improve pronunciation find a list of tongue teasers, speak them out as clearly as possible. Once you've learned the sounds properly speed it up enough your tongue teaser isn't pronounceable and start again. I always had a problem with people asking me to repeat whatever I said.
To speak less monotonous read a passage from a book 1-2 minutes should be fine to start off with. Put as much passion into it as you can as if you're giving a clinic about whatever you're talking about and your audience completely trusts you.
To speak louder read something out loud and imagine you're talking to the wall opposite you. Now, you may want to record your voice when you're talking normally and when you're talking to the wall and see the results. I'd say learn breath control but that's an intermediate step that's not relevant.
Memorize ice breakers. If you know 10-20 ice breakers odds are you can sustain a 5-10 minute conversation without feeling awkward.
Practice basic greetings and ending conversations. Goes without saying you won't feel comfortable in a conversation or social interaction if you have no idea how to get out of that situation.
Learn storytelling. Storytelling is the #1 method to convey your values and status. Literally, try telling a story and record yourself. Figure out stories in your life that convey certain things about you whether it's your wealth, personality or whatever message you want to send. If you have absolutely no life experience fake your stories. Without sharing and opening yourself up with people you won't connect easily.
Practice smiling in front of a mirror if you can't smile on a dime. It's more helpful than y'all realize.
Group conversations are difficult, all I'll say is even if your timing is off even if you think it's dumb, saying anything is better than being silent in a group conversation.
Don't be afraid of saying dumb things.
None of this works if you don't go into the field and obtain reference experiences.
Ideally, in the end, your goal is to persuade and seduce everyone whenever you talk.
As with everything your mileage may vary. Don't do everything all at once and give it 21 days for the habit to kick in.
You can always get betterAll these Coli ballers and pimps in here
So many gems in here being dropped.
Damn I got to do this
How find something like this for a 26 year old like me irl?
When the fukk I say this
in a world of smart devices and he asking me the time?nikkas really catching anxiety attacks when a stranger asks for the time
nah somethings up
I cant emphasize this enough. A large part of my job is communicating problems with with financial trades. You'd think ppl are more precise with their words in my environment, no. The first few mins of a convo is me trying to pull out from ppl wtf they're wanting to say. Why am i helping you form the question you want to ask me????????
I noticed this shyt outside of work too. Its like ppl vomit words out until they start making sense. Like did you but any thought into what you said? So like other humans can understand it? You might as well be talking to a wall. Trump is a master of this shyt.
Ppl would rather text than talk because its "simpler." bytch we in the same buildingsome have even devolved into fukking meme speak irl
Ironically, some of Trumps most complete thoughts were his fukking tweets.
all facts right here, i work at a call center and you damn near gotta pry information out of people these days cause it’s like they don’t even have a clue what they tryna say with how they’re talking
i do believe smart phones and social media have hindered people’s ability to communicate in real life and the general PC nature of society today has made people more passive with their words overall
SuaveyBoi115
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Actually a good thread 
I’m doing all this shyt
The weird thing for me is that I excel at public speaking. It's my greatest strength. Giving talks, presentations, lectures. So you know, I have no issues at all with expressing myself and with very clearly communicating what's on my mind. I have an excellent vocabulary and my pronunciation is also very good. I'm not afraid to get up in front of an audience and address them about something I know, in fact I find that energising.
But I'm really bad at initiating conversations with strangers. I can do fine if they come and talk to me, but I've never really tried or been good at starting conversations with people I don't already know. The exception is when there is a "reason" to talk to someone. Like you know, if you're in an office or classroom or at a party you can go talk to people because your "reason" is that you're doing the same activity in the same room.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I can't cold approach people, I can't stop someone on the street and start a conversation. That's what I consider to be elite level social skills, when you can talk to literally anybody in the most random scenarios.
So where have I gone wrong? Why do I have good social skills for some situations but poor social skills for other situations? It has to be an issue of self-esteem and not an issue of technique, like I said speaking is not in itself technically challenging for me, because I speak excellent English.
But I'm really bad at initiating conversations with strangers. I can do fine if they come and talk to me, but I've never really tried or been good at starting conversations with people I don't already know. The exception is when there is a "reason" to talk to someone. Like you know, if you're in an office or classroom or at a party you can go talk to people because your "reason" is that you're doing the same activity in the same room.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I can't cold approach people, I can't stop someone on the street and start a conversation. That's what I consider to be elite level social skills, when you can talk to literally anybody in the most random scenarios.
So where have I gone wrong? Why do I have good social skills for some situations but poor social skills for other situations? It has to be an issue of self-esteem and not an issue of technique, like I said speaking is not in itself technically challenging for me, because I speak excellent English.