Someone explain to me why arranged marriages dont work
- Thread starter Shameonyou
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That happens in marriages of choice too. Pretty much every negative you can list for arranged marriages can apply to marriages of choice. People make horrible choices and use piss poor reasoning to get married all the time.
Ashley Banks
All I ever wanted was the world
6% global divorce rate for them, and a 1% rate in India, those shyts are a smashing success
-_____-
Marrying for logic over emotion 
Love is the dumbest reason to marry somebody. That shyt is wears off.
That's why we got so many divorces and single mothers out here.
The Black community could benefit from a type of arranged marriage system in our culture. Let the community have some input into mate selection.
Apparently, letting nikkas choose bytches to wife up and letting bytches choose fathers ain't working for us.
The results speak for themselves.
That's why we got so many divorces and single mothers out here.
The Black community could benefit from a type of arranged marriage system in our culture. Let the community have some input into mate selection.
Apparently, letting nikkas choose bytches to wife up and letting bytches choose fathers ain't working for us.
The results speak for themselves.
ExodusNirvana
Change is inevitable...
Sometimes people get lucky. I remember this one Egyptian homie from Grad school that I used to kick it with...I remember we were in the library working on this term paper and in walks the BADDEST MIDDLE EASTERN CHICK I'D EVER SEEN.
I'm like yo...you gotta tell me how to get it in with these middle eastern girls man. He was like aight just not that one. I'm like why? He's like cause that's my fiance basically.
I'm like
His pops and her pops set it up when they were in HS or whatever the equivalent of it is over there.
Such a lucky motherfukker...she had a body like a fukking track star man
They got married shortly after we graduated too...son of a bytch he won
I'm like yo...you gotta tell me how to get it in with these middle eastern girls man. He was like aight just not that one. I'm like why? He's like cause that's my fiance basically.
I'm like
His pops and her pops set it up when they were in HS or whatever the equivalent of it is over there.
Such a lucky motherfukker...she had a body like a fukking track star man
They got married shortly after we graduated too...son of a bytch he won
ThatTruth777
Superstar
From what I understand back then there was a courting process in most of black community. It was simply the boy or man would come to the girl's house and they would simply ask questions that revolved around one thing "what are your intentions towards my daughter?" and to get to know him obviously. I don't think there's anything wrong with people deciding who they want to marry but people need to understand what glitters isn't always gold. And if you come from a family that loves you, they're not gonna send down a rocky road.
Ohms Law
All Star
Sometimes people get lucky. I remember this one Egyptian homie from Grad school that I used to kick it with...I remember we were in the library working on this term paper and in walks the BADDEST MIDDLE EASTERN CHICK I'D EVER SEEN.
I'm like yo...you gotta tell me how to get it in with these middle eastern girls man. He was like aight just not that one. I'm like why? He's like cause that's my fiance basically.
I'm like
His pops and her pops set it up when they were in HS or whatever the equivalent of it is over there.
Such a lucky motherfukker...she had a body like a fukking track star man
They got married shortly after we graduated too...son of a bytch he won
So he won because he married a woman that "looked" good?
saint25225
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peace brother, you make some interesting points,
I would disagree with this statement, I think love is one of the better reasons to marry somebody if it's genuine. So I don't think it is the LOVE that fades but it's the ATTRACTION that goes away, because you can love somebody but not be attracted to them, that's the difference between the way you feel about your close friends or family member and the way you feel about your wife or girlfriend, It's all about maintaining ATTRACTION. I think the problem in are community isn't marriage, but it's people creating all these babies when they know they can't afford them. Having kids is very expensive and time consuming, also it doesn't help that the government is rewarding women with houses, food money, and medical for having kids. So the government takes the place of the man and that's why some men feel like they don't need to bother helping the women raise the kids. But yea man, we need to stop bringing all these kids into the world when we can't afford it.
Yeah, breh. But, you really never know if it's genuine love until you've been with the person for a long time. Like really building with them over time. That's where that true love kicks in.
You don't develop that shyt over the course of 1 year, 2 years or even 5 years. But I agree with your other point. People need to stop have all these damn children they can't afford. shyt is crazy.
HookersandIceCream
#TeamOrange
In most arranged marriage countries, they have evolved with the times
You meet multiple people sometimes and both pick each other. And given time to know each other.
If its in different countries you skype and what not over months
If things click then you go ahead with the marriage part
Works better than empty relationships over years and years.
You meet multiple people sometimes and both pick each other. And given time to know each other.
If its in different countries you skype and what not over months
If things click then you go ahead with the marriage part
Works better than empty relationships over years and years.
Your wife stays in line when an honor killing is hanging over her head.
