Southerners do yall "yes mam" people

[Reflected]

It's a southern thing, I don't do it as an adult though, as a child sure, but as an adult, it's not really as cordial as it might seem, I would rather just stick to the please and thank you. Not every woman wants to be called "ma'am", they might accept that from a child because they don't expect them to know any better but as an adult there are more avenues to show respect beyond just highlighting the difference in age between you two. And for men, I don't say "sir", I just carry myself respectfully, fukk I look like calling another man sir, and why, just because he has been living longer?

 

[Sauce and Footwork]

Older black women yes.

 

[Wildhundreds]

Older black women automatically get the yes ma’am. Older black men. Usually get a yes sir unless they start off problematic. And y’all can neg but I even call older white women maam . Older White man sir well…. That don’t sound right

It started with you respecting your family 1st. Its not even necessary to run around disrespecting people unless they come side ways at you 1st.

 

[Reflected]

Older black women automatically get the yes ma’am. Older black men. Usually get a yes sir unless they start off problematic. And y’all can neg but I even call older white women maam . Older White man sir well…. That don’t sound right

 

[Elim Garak]

You think saying yes ma'am is strictly a southerner thing and that it's country?

 

[Willie Lump Lump]

fukk you don't worry bout what the fukk we do

 

[Hathaway]

As people said above, I only say it to my elders. At work, there's a team lead named Meghan. She's like 46. White. Trailer cac type. Been with the company for over 20 years. Everybody there calls her Ms. Meghan and yes ma'am/no ma'am her. I just call her Meghan. Even though she's older than me, I don't consider her my elder. But I still respect her. Just not the same respect id give her if she were black.

 

[MasterThought]

Wow. As a southerner born & raised this thread baffles me.

Saying yes ma'am/ sir is a foreign concept to some of y'all?


I definitely say it to elders and I say it alot to strangers just out of politeness when I say thank u when they help me with something.

I even say it to people who are obviously younger than me, especially fast food or service workers.

Dude/sis can be 16 and ill say "thank you ma'am/sir when they hand me my food.

It's just an overall polite way of dealing with people in general and I think the world would be a better place if we all referred to each other in a more respectful manner.

 

[315]

Not from the south myself but my Granny instilled that in me

 

[Reflected]

Wow. As a southerner born & raised this thread baffles me.

Saying yes ma'am/ sir is a foreign concept to some of y'all?


I definitely say it to elders and I say it alot to strangers just out of politeness when I say thank u when they help me with something.

I even say it to people who are obviously younger than me, especially fast food or service workers.

Dude/sis can be 16 and ill say "thank you ma'am/sir when they hand me my food.

It's just an overall polite way of dealing with people in general and I think the world would be a better place if we all referred to each other in a more respectful manner.

Goofy, poll older women, they don't like being called "ma'am". I have had older women wanting me to get with their granddaughters, older women love when younger men show respect, and I have never earned that respect by addressing them as "ma'am", I earn that by doing masculine things that are seen as making thing easier for women these days and being a pleasant individual to be around.


And on "sir", fukk no, not every man is deserving of that title. "Sir" is a sign of a respect, an acknowledgement of superiority, if you go around calling every older man sir you are a clown and honestly , imagine the possibility of addressing a racist white man as "sir". Clown shyt.


Damn, it's insane, I know you guys are older too, and you still don't know how to navigate properly.

 

[Negro Caesar]

Yup. I say yes ma’am and sir to elderly and kids believe it or not whenever they ask a yes or no question.

 

[Lamar Givens]

Ask any military bruh’s and brehette’s this same question…

 

[Reflected]

Also, it might need to be said more clearly for some of you awkward brehs, the only reason why someone would jump to say "ma'am" is because the woman is seemingly older than them. Most women don't like having their age thrown in their face, think about it, you have lame ass men on the internet going on about hitting the wall and being past their prime. When you are a kid, it's fine, but as an adult, just act respectful, that's done through serious eye contact, listening with intent, holding the door for them, helping them with things they need done, etc.

I can almost guarantee, if a poll was done to never have "ma'am" come up again, women would overwhelming disappear that shyt. Saying "ma'am" is not as respectful as you think, it's just tolerated to an extent, don't be surprised if you get corrected one day.


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Damn, just had a lightbulb moment. In customer service, like call service and tech help, I bet most companies tell you not to say "sir" and especially "ma'am", you wonder why that is? I can't believe I have to explain this to grown ass adults though.

 

[etrofllenrod504]

I do

 

[valet]

OP.. How do you great your aunts and uncles?

I call them by their 1st name. Which disturbs alot people. I make my niece and nephew call me uncle though.