Spin: Are women more afraid of approaching than men are?

[Neuromancer]

BREH, its story time!


No


I was at a Caribbean/Naija dance club for my girl's bday (Cloud 9 for you Dallas brehs).

I'm clearly with my girl the entire night, but she and her friends go to order some hookah

So 'm chillin by the DJ, we go to the same church

This thick chick comes up and starts dancing on me but i'm like , "i got a girl".

I didn't say anything mean, was as polite as possible.

She says turns around and says "What? Fukk you doing at a club if you got a girl my nikka?" (Girls that say "my nikka" are always loud af)

And cuz i'm by the DJ, she had to yell it so I could hear it. But cuz i'm by the DJ, i'm standing REAL close to the club promoter.

No bullshyt, I think the club promoter's mic must have picked up what she said cuz ppl started looking at us all over the club.

I just said, "sorry , i got a girl"

Her face...
She made no attempt to play it off or be cool. She makes a b line to the restroom, probably ran a 4.2 40




I felt bad even though I knew I did nothing wrong


All she had to do was be like "oh ok" and walk on. I mean damn... got me feeling bad for no reason

So women don't handle rejection well in your experience?

I wouldn't say I'm conceited now. I just don't have the confidence to deal with it. That's my problem. I also don't think women should approach men in that manner. I don't see why many of you would since you all tout feminism as the death of relationships and modern western values. I'm more traditional in that sense.

Do you agree that feminism is the death of relationships and values or do you support it?

 

[philmonroe]

If a man really likes you he will go after you. Men usually go after what they want.

Sounds good. I guess woman usually don't go after what they want then? Sucks for them. Most people scarred of rejection on both sides but y'all just have a built in cop out for it but shyt if dudes did they'd probably use it too.

 

[Gold]

So women don't handle rejection well in your experience?

The lamest nikka you have ever seen handles rejection better than the average woman.
They simply aren't used to it.

A breh can take a rejection and save face. Even a harsh curve... he can still make his way out of it (if he's not emotional/sensitive).

My sister liked (likes?) this guy, she shot her shot, he said no.
She still talks about how lame and stupid and dumb and awkward, and stupid, and dumb he is... to this day.

And she approached him back in 2012

 

[Gold]

Sounds good. I guess woman usually don't go after what they want then? Sucks for them. Most people scarred of rejection on both sides but y'all just have a built in cop out for it but shyt if dudes did they'd probably use it too.

Preach

 

[Neuromancer]

The lamest nikka you have ever seen handles rejection better than the average woman.
They simply aren't used to it.

A breh can take a rejection and save face. Even a harsh curve... he can still make his way out of it (if he's not emotional/sensitive).

My sister liked (likes?) this guy, she shot her shot, he said no.
She still talks about how lame and stupid and dumb and awkward, and stupid, and dumb he is... to this day.

And she approached him back in 2012

 

[Raava]

The bold is very true, those are the only options. I dont even have to look far. Half my brothers are starving cuz they haven't adapted to the game. I get tired of being their personal cheerleader telling them they can get girls. They need to stop listening to me and just go out there and do it. My brehs are the typical Coli poster brehs with more height


You had a breh grab you like that? Nah that's crossing too many lines. He deserved to get maced

I'm saying tho there are a lot of things about life that if I had stayed in my shell or let my internal issues win I would have missed out on. Some things I have and I just take my L and keep it moving. A lot of things about life that aren't fair. While I feel for them and understand but honestly I feel like you either adapt, change, or deal with it.

Yes I have been grabbed more than once.

Exactly, we're taught you're not supposed to chase after men, it's a bad reflection on you if you have to. But at the same time, this doesn't apply to me now, but back when it did the way I would approach a guy was different. I'd introduce myself and spark up convo, also he had to be a male dime. I wasn't willing to let myself get rejected by any less because my ego couldn't live with it.

I agree and we didn't make it how it is. I have heard on here how much stock is put in you looking good enough for dudes to approach you. If you aren't approached the first thing they ask is how you look

I have initiated the convo before, but I'm not cold approaching nope. I need some established interaction at least.

Also women get rejected everyday B. Dudes act like you only get recjected by cold approach. Women can get rejected after. Dudes can fall off the face of the earth to you. And we have read the very stories on here

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

The times I have, the dudes just assumed I wanted to fukk.

 

[Gold]

The times I have, the dudes just assumed I wanted to fukk.

Cuz you did

 

[god shamgod]

According to that other thread these dudes on here getting approached by women daily

 

[Neuromancer]

I'm saying tho there are a lot of things about life that if I had stayed in my shell or let my internal issues win I would have missed out on. Some things I have and I just take my L and keep it moving. A lot of things about life that aren't fair. While I feel for them and understand but honestly I feel like you either adapt, change, or deal with it.

Yes I have been grabbed more than once.



I agree and we didn't make it how it is. I have heard on here how much stock is put in you looking good enough for dudes to approach you. If you aren't approached the first thing they ask is how you look

I have initiated the convo before, but I'm not cold approaching nope. I need some established interaction at least.

Also women get rejected everyday B. Dudes act like you only get recjected by cold approach. Women can get rejected after. Dudes can fall off the face of the earth to you. And we have read the very stories on here

Why can't you cold approach?

 

[Gold]

Why can't you cold approach?

She kinda already explained that

 

[Raava]

Why can't you cold approach?

That was in my first reply sir

 

[Neuromancer]

She kinda already explained that

Oh. That's what she was doing. My fault.

 

[Neuromancer]

That was in my first reply sir

I just realized that.

 

[Elle Driver]

I'm saying tho there are a lot of things about life that if I had stayed in my shell or let my internal issues win I would have missed out on. Some things I have and I just take my L and keep it moving. A lot of things about life that aren't fair. While I feel for them and understand but honestly I feel like you either adapt, change, or deal with it.

Yes I have been grabbed more than once.



I agree and we didn't make it how it is. I have heard on here how much stock is put in you looking good enough for dudes to approach you. If you aren't approached the first thing they ask is how you look

I have initiated the convo before, but I'm not cold approaching nope. I need some established interaction at least.

Also women get rejected everyday B. Dudes act like you only get recjected by cold approach. Women can get rejected after. Dudes can fall off the face of the earth to you. And we have read the very stories on here

If you put yourself out there and get rejected dudes will question how you look. Matter fact it was @The Wave and some other dudes questioning if OP in the other thread was really a 7. But that was the reverse, she wasn't approaching dudes at all but my point still stands.