spin:can men handle a woman more successful than them?

[Ashley Banks]

some females need guidance and leadership when it comes to money matters..this is true.i read this on compex magazine

have the whole mortgage payment go to retail speding brehs

um yeah, that wouldn't happen with me. I'm not letting someone give me an allowance out of the money I earned. wtf

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

um yeah, that wouldn't happen with me. I'm not letting someone give me an allowance out of the money I earned. wtf

your looking at it as a sign of disrespect..you have to able to trust your husband that he will guard your money

thats part of the letting him be the leader

my future wife earning will be automatically transferred to a joint account where im primarily responsible..

 

[Ashley Banks]

your looking at it as a sign of disrespect..you have to able to trust your husband that he will guard your money

thats part of the letting him be the leader

my future wife earning will be automatically transferred to a joint account where im primarily responsible..

No.

No one is going to give me an allowance out of money I worked for. That's beyond ridiculous.

We can have a joint account, as well as separate accounts and we will have equal access to the joint account. My money will be transferred to MY account and I will put some money into our account, same for him.

 

[MeachTheMonster]

No.

No one is going to give me an allowance out of money I worked for. That's beyond ridiculous.

We can have a joint account, as well as separate accounts and we will have equal access to the joint account. My money will be transferred to MY account and I will put some money into our account, same for him.

You will be a shyty wife

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

No.

No one is going to give me an allowance out of money I worked for. That's beyond ridiculous.

We can have a joint account, as well as separate accounts and we will have equal access to the joint account. My money will be transferred to MY account and I will put some money into our account, same for him.

you trust some unknow bankers at a financial institution to guard your funds but you wont let your husband control your money flow ??

not even controll just do all the oversight

 

[Ashley Banks]

You will be a shyty wife

So the only way to be a good wife is to let your husband give you an allowance like you're his kid?

OK

 

[MAKAVELI25]

No.

No one is going to give me an allowance out of money I worked for. That's beyond ridiculous.

We can have a joint account, as well as separate accounts and we will have equal access to the joint account. My money will be transferred to MY account and I will put some money into our account, same for him.

I don't see anything wrong with what @Juicy is saying

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

So the only way to be a good wife is to let your husband give you an allowance like you're his kid?

OK

not allowance but he should be responsible for the household finances
your main job should be holding down the 3C's

 

[MeachTheMonster]

Because I want to control what happens with the money I work for? wtf

So the only way to be a good wife is to let your husband give you an allowance out of the money you earned?

ok

Your stuck on the allowance word. Lets change that to "budget"

First off having separate accounts in a marriage is a recipe for disaster. It just opens the door for jealousy, deceit, distrust, unfairness, amongst other things.

Secondly you should both have a set budget every month.

The point of a marriage is to come together as ONE. The more you try to hold on to separate things the more you subject your marriage to fukkery.

 

[feelosofer]

As someone who has been married for a long time, it not that bad initially when the wife is the initial breadwinner, but in 5 or 10 years a lot of little stuff starts creeping in. One of my best friends from college has a decent job paying aroung 65k, but he has a lot of debt, his wife is a VP for Novartis marketing division making 200k. They started off around the same, but as she started making more money, she has a major say in everything, she decorates the house how she likes, and she basically pays for most of the kids stuff and the only thing he has of his own is this little mancave in the basement of their very nice house. I'm not saying it's like that in all marraiges, but trust me the primary breadwinner ultimately controls the household either subtly or overtly.

 

[Ashley Banks]

not allowance but he should be responsible for the household finances
your main job should be holding down the 3C's

Your stuck on the allowance word. Lets change that to "budget"

First off having separate accounts in a marriage is a recipe for disaster. It just opens the door for jealousy, deceit, distrust, unfairness, amongst other things.

Secondly you should both have a set budget every month.

The point of a marriage is to come together as ONE. The more you try to hold on to separate things the more you subject your marriage to fukkery.

The post I quoted originally said "Her pay will go directly to my account and ill give her an allowance." That's why I'm stuck on the allowance part because that's what I had a problem with.

I have no problem with having a monthly budget because you need one but that's different from all my money going into his account and him giving me an allowance like I'm his child.

 

[MeachTheMonster]

The post I quoted originally said "Her pay will go directly to my account and ill give her an allowance." That's why I'm stuck on the allowance part because that's what I had a problem with.

I have no problem with having a monthly budget because you need one but that's different from all my going into his account him and giving me an allowance like I'm his child.

That post was a little inflammatory on purpose. But whatever verbiage you use it's essentially the same thing. All money should go into a joint account and budgets should be set.

I quoted you due to the talk of seperate accounts. That's ALWAYS a bad idea when it comes to a marriage.

 

[kickz]

This is total BS, should be rephrased can women handle a man making less than them

 

[L&HH]

who the fukk says they want an independent woman?

This, I m young so I wouldnt even know any successful women but Ive never heard nikkas say they want an "independent woman". Looks, sexual acts, cook, and just overall holding a nikka down is what Ive heard, anything else is a bonus

 

[street heat]

As someone who has been married for a long time, it not that bad initially when the wife is the initial breadwinner, but in 5 or 10 years a lot of little stuff starts creeping in. One of my best friends from college has a decent job paying aroung 65k, but he has a lot of debt, his wife is a VP for Novartis marketing division making 200k. They started off around the same, but as she started making more money, she has a major say in everything, she decorates the house how she likes, and she basically pays for most of the kids stuff and the only thing he has of his own is this little mancave in the basement of their very nice house. I'm not saying it's like that in all marraiges, but trust me the primary breadwinner ultimately controls the household either subtly or overtly.

women typically decorate the house anyway, no big deal. she pays for the kids stuff, fine, he doesn't have to spend his. sounds like a win to me