spin:can men handle a woman more successful than them?

[Nintendough]

my current GF makes more than me, so far it hasnt been an issue. shes not the type to throw it in my face (shes white, lol)
she treats me like a king, mostly because thats the way i set it from the jump. i think im the first guy she has been with in quite some time that actually has a backbone, and no amount of money she makes is going make me put up with foolishness. ive been fine before i met her and will be if i leave her.

Shots fired

 

[Malik]

No.

No one is going to give me an allowance out of money I worked for. That's beyond ridiculous.

We can have a joint account, as well as separate accounts and we will have equal access to the joint account. My money will be transferred to MY account and I will put some money into our account, same for him.

How is it any different than men being the primary breadwinner but, still having to answer to his wife if he went and brought something ridiculously expensive without her consent


Yea, I know it sounds weird. You making the money but, you have to answer to your partner about how its spent. That's marriage ma

As someone who has been married for a long time, it not that bad initially when the wife is the initial breadwinner, but in 5 or 10 years a lot of little stuff starts creeping in. One of my best friends from college has a decent job paying aroung 65k, but he has a lot of debt, his wife is a VP for Novartis marketing division making 200k. They started off around the same, but as she started making more money, she has a major say in everything, she decorates the house how she likes, and she basically pays for most of the kids stuff and the only thing he has of his own is this little mancave in the basement of their very nice house. I'm not saying it's like that in all marraiges, but trust me the primary breadwinner ultimately controls the household either subtly or overtly.

Let these nikkas tell it. My aunt is a R.N. making six figures. Her husband does construction. When they met, the dynamic was reversed. He never went to college but, had a good paying job at a car factory in town. She was just graduating from college back then. Years later, the car factory shut down, he had trouble finding work. Even now, his work isn't stable. Meanwhile my aunt is making an assload of money. She runs that house

 

[MikelArteta]

men can laugh etc., but the way the world is going more women are in college than men.

if i were ever to get married , id have no problem with my broad making more bread than me, what yours is mine right hunny

 

[Rusty Kuntz]

Like Always These Threads Tend To Ignore The Individual. Relationship Fail And Succeed Not Because Of The External Factor but Internal Ones Such As Character. Strife Over Money Is Only A Side Effect Of Incompability Between Couples Made Evident. Pride, Lust, Greed, Gluttony, Sloth,Anger, Envy, Were Rampant In The Relationship And Is Always The True Reason Relationship Fails.

Pretty much... people tying their manhood to whether or not they make more than their significant other makes no sense to me. You can be making 100K/year and still be a feminine-acting bytch in my eyes.

 

[feelosofer]

women typically decorate the house anyway, no big deal. she pays for the kids stuff, fine, he doesn't have to spend his. sounds like a win to me

Really, it's more than that, that was just one example. Not me though, I pay the mortgage in my house it get's decorated my way, don't get me wrong, my wife has a lot if input, but I got the gavel.

 

[Shadow King]

Nope

 

[Ashley Banks]

How is it any different than men being the primary breadwinner but, still having to answer to his wife if he went and brought something ridiculously expensive without her consent


Yea, I know it sounds weird. You making the money but, you have to answer to your partner about how its spent. That's marriage ma

If he wants to let his wife control him like that, then that's his business.

I'm not interested in being controlled like that and I'm not interested in any man that wants to treat me like a child. It's really disturbing that y'all think it's ok to take someone's money, that they worked for and give them an allowance out of it. We can both decide how much money is needed to take care of our monthly expenses without me having to give my money to him and receive an allowance.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Yea, wtf nikka I ain't no hater

 

[sfgiants]

if my girl makes more than i do that means she's me

the odds of this are low tho, as most women these days dont select STEM majors and are happy picking some artsy horse shyt that'll have them earning 35k a year for the rest of their lives

the minute i find a respectable broad making more than me i'm creampie'ing on sight.

 

[LebronsHairline]

If you taking care of yo business like a man your woman's gonna see that regardless if she makes more money than you. And if she tries to be on that "i make more money" steeze then you check her on that shyt or you toss that bytch where she belongs

 

[kevm3]

Men ain't afraid of 'independent women'. They just don't to hear the mouth or deal with the nonsense,.Men don't want 'independent' women, ie women that think 'they don't need no man'. But men DO like a woman that's SELF SUFFICIENT, meaning she can support herself when she's without a man, but when she meets a man she likes, she can respect him enough to move out the way and let him be the man.

Also, men ain't afraid of women that make more of them either. Not a man I know that would turn down a woman that happened to make more than him but she didn't come with the attitude that often comes when a woman makes more than a man. "unnh unhhh this MY house, I pay the bills. This MY car. You can't tell me what to do. Why you ain't making as much money as me, etc." In most cases the bigger the disparity in income between a man and woman, the harder she finds it to listen to her man and respect his word. It's not that men are afraid, it's that they don't want to deal with the madness..

 

[Sharp]

Independent women should remain independent and by themselves

 

[#BOTHSIDES]

It would be aight with me as long as she ain't bragging bout it and Talkin downnnn

 

[big bun]

The thread with the 3 questions to women brought up a few questions. ...and since I didn't have the opportunity to go through the entire thread to see the male answers. ..here we are

But I notice a great deal of men claim they want an independent woman. ..but when they actually find one...it seems from my experience men want to feel needed. ..and it starts to create issues for them if their woman is doing better than them...


So can you handle dating a woman doing better than you?

Hell yeah...I'm no slouch out here in my profession, but I want my wife to be more successful than me. Nothing better than to have a woman on my arm doing big things.