Spin: Younger Brehs what do you feel older brehs don't understand about modern dating and why it's become so difficult?

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Neuromancer said:
I'm also in the NYC area. So that may be a big factor.
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Yeah different places have different vibes and people. I have no issue matching with women on hinge I usually get a match or 2 a day without paying for the other hinge+ or whatever. But I'm definitely an in-person kinda guy. Most women want second dates after we meet. I'm a sucker for nuanced discussion so when a chick can't give me that I usually end up losing interest. So speed dating might be something to look into
 
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cyndaquil said:
Yeah different places have different vibes and people. I have no issue matching with women on hinge I usually get a match or 2 a day without paying for the other hinge+ or whatever. But I'm definitely an in-person kinda guy. Most women want second dates after we meet. So speed dating might be something to look into
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I won't lie I enjoyed speed dating more than the online thing. It seemed more genuine.
 
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28 and 7 months. From my experience they generally believe the formula that they used back in the day is still effective in this new landscape. Shorty don't even have to live in the same state as you, but she peeped your page and already got a "idea" of you who are. nikkas watching their relationships crumble in real time on livestream. MFs sending emails to your boss and harassing your family/exes over some posts lol OGs never had to deal with that type of defense

I still reach out to older cats for advice, but the patronizing has to stop. Just because I'm getting clamped up, don't mean you wouldn't.
 
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STOP listening to OLD nikkas who ain’t in the game and haven’t adapted to the digital/social media era which has women acting like men in the dating game.

Y’all have just seen an old nikka like Shannon Sharpe get gamed by a young chick.

But Coli OLD nikkas will tell you they’re smashing younger women without breaking off bread :mjlol:


STOP listening to them.
 
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Macallik86 said:
Great conversation being had in here.

I'm in my late 30s and definitely appreciate how much has changed in the past decade. I just wanted to remind some of the younger crowd, that it wasn't 'better' back in the day, just different. Is it better to compete w/ the entire internet or be limited to women within a 5-10 mile radius? Is it better to have women try to show value by twerking on IG or better to have women trying to show how pure they are by thinking that giving head is beneath them?

It's a different ball game out here for, sure, but I would caution against glorifying a different era. Even back in the day, there a subsection of guys who excelled at dating thanks to good genes or just grinding and putting in the effort at getting better. I believe that if they were exposed to the same manosphere/pop the balloon trash, there would be a lot more lost older brehs too.

The two pieces of advice that I would give are:
  1. Frame your perspective based on lived experiences instead of social media: Too often I see inexperienced men suggest that the strippers/escorts on a manosphere podcasts are really how all women think as if they do not have sisters/mothers/female cousins living normal lives with normal morals.
  2. Take responsibility for meeting the type of women you are interested in: If you know what type of woman you are looking, you should regularly be asking yourself whether you are likely to find her with your current location/strategy. There's nuance to all this shyt that come with experience. For example, are you more interested in the woman at the club or the woman at Target? But also, if you are at the club, the club you choose will bring out different types of women and the nuance can go deeper still... The women hanging at the bar are likely on a different type of time than the women posted up on the dancefloor, which might be different from the women sticking to the VIP area, which might be different from the women who arrived at 10pm because they plan on leaving early to get a full night's sleep.

It's all about knowing what you like + then knowing what they like + knowing where & how to meet them. It's a lot of effort initially but builds experience, puts the odds in your favor and surrounds you with people who think like you do.
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Old nikka, why you giving Windows 98 era advice :troll:
 
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RickyDiBiase said:
But the thing is

you can't go through life expecting people to kiss and coddle you dude

that's not how that shyt works. A bytch will have a field day with a dude like that.

And yes

A lot of people aren't "good enough" but here's the thing- why the fukk would you ever allow that to stop you from getting what you want out of life? We're not just talking getting a piece of p*ssy, across the board, why would you ever take heed to the fact of your imperfections and deny your chance at carving out anything substantial in your day to day life?

It's dude's in wheelchairs who ain't letting bullshyt like "height" stop them from getting what they want.

I can think of a multitude of brothers from their 20's-40's in my immediate area that ain't Johnathan Majors but got a woman holding shyt down for them.

That's why young dudes get clown

no backbone, no sense of self-responsibility and no sense of fukking imagination

A woman is not the end all be all there is for a man, and vice versa. It's not a guaranteed right, it's a privilege to be with someone.

And to wipe away any sense of personal reflection or responsibility for them is doing them a major disservice.
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This is my only issue with it. Everyone can acknowledge that the game is different. Just adjust to the climate. If you can't or refuse to don't sit there making excuses or whine that the game left you behind. Some of these guys talk like they're entitled to a good woman because they're a male. Not a man because the way these guys whine that things aren't fair isn't a quality a man will display. You make the necessary adjustments then you put yourself in the best possible position to achieve your goals
 
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Macallik86 said:
Great conversation being had in here.

I'm in my late 30s and definitely appreciate how much has changed in the past decade. I just wanted to remind some of the younger crowd, that it wasn't 'better' back in the day, just different. Is it better to compete w/ the entire internet or be limited to women within a 5-10 mile radius? Is it better to have women try to show value by twerking on IG or better to have women trying to show how pure they are by thinking that giving head is beneath them?

It's a different ball game out here for, sure, but I would caution against glorifying a different era. Even back in the day, there a subsection of guys who excelled at dating thanks to good genes or just grinding and putting in the effort at getting better. I believe that if they were exposed to the same manosphere/pop the balloon trash, there would be a lot more lost older brehs too.

The two pieces of advice that I would give are:
  1. Frame your perspective based on lived experiences instead of social media: Too often I see inexperienced men suggest that the strippers/escorts on a manosphere podcasts are really how all women think as if they do not have sisters/mothers/female cousins living normal lives with normal morals.
  2. Take responsibility for meeting the type of women you are interested in: If you know what type of woman you are looking, you should regularly be asking yourself whether you are likely to find her with your current location/strategy. There's nuance to all this shyt that come with experience. For example, are you more interested in the woman at the club or the woman at Target? But also, if you are at the club, the club you choose will bring out different types of women and the nuance can go deeper still... The women hanging at the bar are likely on a different type of time than the women posted up on the dancefloor, which might be different from the women sticking to the VIP area, which might be different from the women who arrived at 10pm because they plan on leaving early to get a full night's sleep.

It's all about knowing what you like + then knowing what they like + knowing where & how to meet them. It's a lot of effort initially but builds experience, puts the odds in your favor and surrounds you with people who think like you do.
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Preaching breh! That's why I tell them that they have to go out and mix and mingle with women. Far too many have such a narrow view on women because their experiences are just shared experiences they got from social media... That's why they think all women are IG/OF/gold diggers and attention seekers. But that also shows that those are the only women they actually follow and pursue. Their algorithm is all messed up. That's why I'm a big advocate of them going out and meeting women through some of their hobbies they enjoy doing. They have to actually date to know what they truly like. But a lot of them are afraid of the relationship failing or going wrong before they have even met the girl
 
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I understand easily

Majority of younger dudes are lames who are so use to being isolated on their phones they dont know how to approach or converse with a female. Grew up on computers & phones instead of social interactions with humans .which is why it’s considered “harassment” when they approach(you’re probably ugly/unattractive if you even say some goofy shyt like that). Women that are attracted to you will never think that you’re harassing them they’ll welcome it

Y’all was on my space we was at the park,mall,arcades etc competing for the most #’s :yeshrug:
 
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