Why is it a competition?
The main purpose of sex is reproduction. When a man and women engage in consensual sex, whether they are using protection/birth control or not, should know there is a chance that a baby will result from it. You should always consider that fact when you sleep with someone. So when you have a child both parties are equally at fault for any issues that arise from it.
It should not be about who should have made better decisions or who gets the shorter end of the stick...You both made the decision to have sex.
There is truth here. However, people...most people don't do what they should. It's unrealistic to think you are gonna go through life with everyone doing what they are supposed to do. Therefore, as an adult that is responsible for your own well-being and the well-being of any child you my have, it is your job to make the best decisions possible or deal with the shorter end of the stick. The reality is, you are gonna be equally pushing this kid out or equally raising or finanically supporting this child...and that's if you are together. Damn sure ain't happening if you aren't together. And no matter how shytty the mother or the father is towards the other, the person that always suffers the most is the kid. That's what people don't think about. You fukk some stranger, end up beefing with said stranger, and the kid that you both created is stuck with a bitter, burned out mother and/or a an absentee father that they barely have a relationship with if they have any relationship at all. That's the shorter end of the stick and they didn't even have a say in the matter.