Study shows once a cheat always cheater and once cheated on always cheated on

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They do it again.
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Specifically, they're over 3.5 times more likely than their noncheating counterparts to cheat on their partner another time.

Research presented by University of Denver grad student Kayla Knopp helps confirm the old adage "once a cheater, always a cheater." It also suggests that cheating is cyclical for both the cheater and the unhappy partner whose trust has been broken.

What the study found: Knopp surveyed 484 unmarried 18-34-year-olds and found that cheaters were 3.5 times more likely to cheat in their next relationship. Those who'd been cheated on were also more likely to experience infidelity with future partners.

The patterns weren't limited to cheating, as physically aggressive behaviors like "yelling, shouting, pushing and shoving" were found to be three times as likely to occur in future relationships for the aggressors and five times as likely to re-occur for the targets.

Knopp told the conference, "We like to think that we can learn from our experiences and our mistakes, especially when it comes to love," but the research demonstrated people really can't do that very easily. The extreme numbers further indicate that current approaches in psychology towards helping people break patterns of negative behavior are inadequate, especially when it comes to relationships.

Why does this happen? Previous research has suggested that cheaters are good at rationalizing the implications of their infidelity away, while psychologists told LiveScience that philanderers are likely to be optimistic about their ability to control risky situations as well. Both of these factors could contribute to future cheating. Other research has suggested that personality factors like sexual anxiety, risk-taking and "propensity for sexual excitation" (being easily aroused) are associated with cheating in relationships, so there may be certain kinds of people who have a greater propensity to cheat.

Why this matters: Cheating is relatively common, affecting up to 25% of all committed relationships in the United States. Relationship violence is too, with 29% of women reporting at least one abusive relationship. Of those, 94% involved emotional abuse.

Finding ways to help the wrongdoers break old habits could save their victims from a lot of heartache and in many cases physical harm. Knopp's research indicates many people may not understand the scale of the problem and admitting there's a problem is the first step towards a solution.
 

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Man I got called a simp on here because I agreed with some women on things.

But I have my own views on things. And some chics know which train they're hopping on with these types of men. They can't be too shocked at the destination.

:skip:


But why stay with them?


In hopes of one day changing them?


The challenge/appeal of being with a philanderer altogether?


Afraid of being alone?


I approached my girl at the club/lounge. That alone says a lot about the type of guy i am (not necessarily out to these venues specifically to look for
one niters or for ratchet women; just says i'm the extroverted, assertive type. That might not bode to well with a lot of women but i can't do the online
thing because guys of my ethnicity are disregarded off first glance so i put myself beyond the confines of the webernets to meet women).

Knowing that when i'm out and about with the boys painting the town, that i may act on my temptation just the way i did when i met home slice.


It's complicated because these women be coming back like boomerangs and you try to be a good guy but it just never falls in line with your expectations
and you just continue to not only play the hand your dealt... but you're hiding cards under the table to give yourself an advantage.


And it's ultimately fukked up.


The problem i pose to you all is that even the non-committal types or ones that are in a relationship that tend to find themselves with wandering eyes (that
get acted upon) have the decency to be good men but just get selfish and eat their Hostess off the ass of a mistress...


... sipping champagne off the heels of her stilettos...



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But why stay with them?


In hopes of one day changing them?


The challenge/appeal of being with a philanderer altogether?


Afraid of being alone?


I approached my girl at the club/lounge. That alone says a lot about the type of guy i am (not necessarily out to these venues specifically to look for
one niters or for ratchet women; just says i'm the extroverted, assertive type. That might not bode to well with a lot of women but i can't do the online
thing because guys of my ethnicity are disregarded off first glance so i put myself beyond the confines of the webernets to meet women).

Knowing that when i'm out and about with the boys painting the town, that i may act on my temptation just the way i did when i met home slice.


It's complicated because these women be coming back like boomerangs and you try to be a good guy but it just never falls in line with your expectations
and you just continue to not only play the hand your dealt... but you're hiding cards under the table to give yourself an advantage.


And it's ultimately fukked up.


The problem i pose to you all is that even the non-committal types or ones that are in a relationship that tend to find themselves with wandering eyes (that
get acted upon) have the decency to be good men but just get selfish and eat their Hostess off the ass of a mistress...


... sipping champagne off the heels of her stilettos...



.
Women stay with men longer than they know they should because change is difficult and sometimes scary.
And some of them talk themselves into dealing with bullshyt because some men DO have a handful of qualities that the women do like, in spite of the major bullshyt.
And yeah, some of them don't want to be alone.

You being extroverted has nothing to do with anything I said.
 
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