Successful Women Are Unhappy That They Have To Date Down

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Why does it all have to be money based though? What's wrong with a good man who may not make major bank but enough to take care of themselves that would treat a woman right?

For a man making 100K most of us wouldn't turn away a woman making 50K or look down on her but it seems women would look down on that man if the situation is reversed. I make a high salary but realize it doesn't mean shyt or make me better than the next man. Women use that salary to put themselves on a pedestal that a lot of men (outside of users) just won't put them on.

Money is a big part of relationships. You can’t get around it. It’s also the number 1 factor in divorces.

If a woman makes more than the man she has to deal with his potential insecurities or him possibly taking advantage of her. That’s reality. There are very few dudes out there secure in themselves to be able to deal with a female making more than them b/c so many are starved for power. Women are proud of males accomplishing shyt. Men don’t even want to hear about female accomplishments b/c they automatically interpret her pride in her own work as arrogance. It’s hard to build with people like that.

Chicks think shyt sweet and that men want a partnership when a lot want a tyranny. And if they don’t have the financial means to get that set up, they will do flagrantly disrespectful shyt to humble her.

Half the chicks in my doctoral program are divorced. Not b/c they were bytches, b/c many were literally bending over backwards to appease their husbands—who threw hissy fits in the form of cheating, some became verbally abusive all kinds of fukkery. I need to make a thread about it one day.

But I digress, navigating male ego with ur own success can be a real pickle as a female and u don’t have to be an arrogant bytch to run into these types. Not saying you’d be aware of this dynamic b/c u don’t date men—but issa thing.The other side of this is the Mary J. Blidge factor which men will understand more which is the idea of people trying to use u for money which is also a thing.

Being equally yoked is good advice for a reason. That doesn’t always translate to needing everybody to make the same dollar amount and or anything that extreme but you do have to account for finances and personalities and hidden agendas b4 u take the plunge and it can be tricky.

 

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Also this is a false narrative. Damn near EVERYBODY is broke and the cost of living is only going up. I need to know where these millions of well off chicks are hiding. B/c the elimination of the middle class, increasing crushing student loan debt, consolidation of wealth in the hands of 1% allegedly isn’t affecting ALL of these Uber rich chicks outchea.

Somebody lying.

Making 60k is great.
Living above ur means and paying back 100k in student loans a millionaire does not make.

 

[Taadow]

Well don’t complain about black women getting jobs over your ass then. shyt give us something. We been caring the community on our backs since day 1.

Everybody look at this...

...this is how they feel.

 

[jay83]

Also this is a false narrative. Damn near EVERYBODY is broke and the cost of living is only going up. I need to know where these millions of well off chicks are hiding. B/c the elimination of the middle class, increasing crushing student loan debt, consolidation of wealth in the hands of 1% allegedly isn’t affecting ALL of these Uber rich chicks outchea.

Somebody lying.

Making 60k is great.
Living above ur means and paying back 100k in student loans a millionaire does not make.

She makes 85 grand a year but got 50 grand in credit card debt and still paying another 40 grand in student loans. Lol

 

[Astroslik]

How many of you "women" actually make 6 figures? tired of broke bytches giving their opinions on topics that pertain to women with high incomes.

 

[Rhyse]

Everybody look at this...

...this is how they feel.

You do know DNA was traced back to a single African woman don’t you? Stop trying to start shyt and watch a fukking documentary for heavens sake.

 

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She makes 85 grand a year but got 50 grand in credit card debt and still paying another 40 grand in student loans. Lol

I just want to be clear about this shyt. It’s not a bad thing for women to carefully evaluate the quality of dudes they spend time with.

BUT

It’s also not true that all women got their shyt together enough to look down on others.

But the internet doesn’t like balance and extremes gets views so let the fukkery commence!

 

[Taadow]

Every time I hear that statistic I always think there gotta be a lot of broke ass people out there in America or a lot of single unmarried folk. If you and your SO each make $40,000 which is a bare minimum entry level salary, that’s an easy $80,000 household income right there. It’s hard to believe half of the country can’t even do that.

Boy you better go outside...there are more people not making $40,000 a year than are...

 

[Taadow]

You do know DNA was traced back to a single African woman don’t you? Stop trying to start shyt and watch a fukking documentary for heavens sake.

What that got to do with our current "community" y'all are carrying?

When was the damn "Day 1" you was talmbat in that last post, because you for damn sure wasn't talking about that single African woman...

 

[Deuterion]

Money is a big part of relationships. You can’t get around it. It’s also the number 1 factor in divorces.

If a woman makes more than the man she has to deal with his potential insecurities or him possibly taking advantage of her. That’s reality. There are very few dudes out there secure in themselves to be able to deal with a female making more than them b/c so many are starved for power. Women are proud of males accomplishing shyt. Men don’t even want to hear about female accomplishments b/c they automatically interpret her pride in her own work as arrogance. It’s hard to build with people like that.

Chicks think shyt sweet and that men want a partnership when a lot want a tyranny. And if they don’t have the financial means to get that set up, they will do flagrantly disrespectful shyt to humble her.

Half the chicks in my doctoral program are divorced. Not b/c they were bytches, b/c many were literally bending over backwards to appease their husbands—who threw hissy fits in the form of cheating, some became verbally abusive all kinds of fukkery. I need to make a thread about it one day.

But I digress, navigating male ego with ur own success can be a real pickle as a female and u don’t have to be an arrogant bytch to run into these types. Not saying you’d be aware of this dynamic b/c u don’t date men—but issa thing.The other side of this is the Mary J. Blidge factor which men will understand more which is the idea of people trying to use u for money which is also a thing.

Being equally yoked is good advice for a reason. That doesn’t always translate to needing everybody to make the same dollar amount and or anything that extreme but you do have to account for finances and personalities and hidden agendas b4 u take the plunge and it can be tricky.

This ain’t true for me but I can definitely see it being true for guys I know. However, I think an important thing for women to recognize is that money shouldn’t be used as a vehicle to emasculate the man. When a woman feels like her status allows her to buck the natural order that’s when she will end up lonely and divorced. By that I don’t mean that she needs to be subordinate because I don’t agree with that but she needs to understand that the male is the protector from a physicality/security standpoint and she should always make she honors that. Men are biologically built to hunt, to fight, and to build and when you talk to a a man as if this reality isn’t true it’ll cause static. A woman I’m dating does this (I make more than her but she still is paid) and I look at her like:



‘She is getting a lot better but she be tryna be dominant and men ain’t attracted to that shyt.

 

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there’s a difference between being proud of your accomplishments and using them as why you’d make a good wife and deserve a husband.

A woman who is a great person, looks good plus she has a degree and a doctor is great.

A woman who thinks she’s wifey because she’s has a degree and a doctor is no bueno and will be asking Steve Harvey why men are intimidated by her.

I agree but the difference is that some men look at a woman’s success as a point of competition. It’s a running joke in our department that if a chick in our program wants to get married she shouldn’t tell him about her doctorate.

I lie to u not. Ya’ll only interact with ur homeboys but u not dating them.

I remember going on a research conference and a chick was in tears RIGHT before she was about to present her research b/c her husband was blowing up her phone pissed that he had to take care of the kids for the weekend.

Imagine supporting somebody ur entire life and thinking they will be in ur corner to support u when it’s ur time—only for them to resent u b/c u outside of a role THEY didn’t envision for u.

Not all dudes but A LOT more than ya’ll wanna consider. Not saying women are perfect but ya’ll are really unaware of how a lotta dudes movin outchea.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

Here is my bench mark,

if you are fat, your accomplishment is irrelevant. It will not work out, nor will I try.
If you are only pretty, it won't work out, I study and work way too hard to settle for just looks.

 

[DJ Paul's Arm]

Women are unhappy most of the time. What ya'll eating today???

This

bytches can be in a mansion, drive a lambo with a million in their bank account and still be bored, lonely and complain like a muthafukka.

 

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This ain’t true for me but I can definitely see it being true for guys I know. However, I think an important thing for women to recognize is that money shouldn’t be used as a vehicle to emasculate the man. When a woman feels like her status allows her to buck the natural order that’s when she will end up lonely and divorced. By that I don’t mean that she needs to be subordinate because I don’t agree with that but she needs to understand that the male is the protector from a physicality/security standpoint and she should always make she honors that. Men are biologically built to hunt, to fight, and to build and when you talk to a a man as if this reality isn’t true it’ll cause static. A woman I’m dating does this (I make more than her but she still is paid) and I look at her like:



‘She is getting a lot better but she be tryna be dominant and men ain’t attracted to that shyt.

I think that comes from a lot of confusion in women themselves. Women aren’t socialized to be leaders and maintain their femininity.
Partially b/c our society doesn’t wanna see that. But what happens when u get chicks with innate leadership qualities. They get confused and think they have to be overbearing...which ironically isn’t even what good leadership is about.

I think this is an area we’ve failed women in. Issa balance.

Also the arrogance is stupid. As I said earlier, making upwards of 60k while juggling 100k debt AND living above ur means...

I’ve seen chicks with such horrid spending habits blow thru 100k. Meanwhile there are people making 40k who are able to save money. But that’s another way we’ve failed both girls and boys—financial literacy and overconsumption.

 

[Deuterion]

I agree but the difference is that some men look at a woman’s success as a point of competition. It’s a running joke in our department that if a chick in our program wants to get married she shouldn’t tell him about her doctorate.

I lie to u not. Ya’ll only interact with ur homeboys but u not dating them.

I remember going on a research conference and a chick was in tears RIGHT before she was about to present her research b/c her husband was blowing up her phone pissed that he had to take care of the kids for the weekend.

Imagine supporting somebody ur entire life and thinking they will be in ur corner to support u when it’s ur time—only for them to resent u b/c u outside of a role THEY didn’t envision for u.

Not all dudes but A LOT more than ya’ll wanna consider. Not saying women are perfect but ya’ll are really unaware of how a lotta dudes movin outchea.

I’ve seen some major sexism working in telecom so I don’t put nothing past dudes when the doors close and they alone in the house with they women. I hear the most stupidest shyt...I was chillin’ with some cats and they were talking about cheating on their wives and how it’s a man’s right. I asked:

“How would you feel if she did the same?”





One dude said: I’d be pissed.



I said “How can you be mad at her when you doing it? If you gonna play the game be all the way about it”