Of what? For what reason?
Successful Women Are Unhappy That They Have To Date Down
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seabreeze80
All Star
Gold diggers, potential bad mothers, and other types. I have so many stories of my coworkers dealing with their crazy ex wives and psychotic baby mama's. You have to be careful who you choose or they will make your life a living hell.
It's reality breh
Elle Driver
Veteran
Ego is a big thing. If you can’t get past your ego you’ll never prosper in the things you really want out of life. It’s something you’re supposed to realize early on in adulthood but far too many people don’t.Money is a big part of relationships. You can’t get around it. It’s also the number 1 factor in divorces.
If a woman makes more than the man she has to deal with his potential insecurities or him possibly taking advantage of her. That’s reality. There are very few dudes out there secure in themselves to be able to deal with a female making more than them b/c so many are starved for power. Women are proud of males accomplishing shyt. Men don’t even want to hear about female accomplishments b/c they automatically interpret her pride in her own work as arrogance. It’s hard to build with people like that.
Chicks think shyt sweet and that men want a partnership when a lot want a tyranny. And if they don’t have the financial means to get that set up, they will do flagrantly disrespectful shyt to humble her.
Half the chicks in my doctoral program are divorced. Not b/c they were bytches, b/c many were literally bending over backwards to appease their husbands—who threw hissy fits in the form of cheating, some became verbally abusive all kinds of fukkery. I need to make a thread about it one day.
But I digress, navigating male ego with ur own success can be a real pickle as a female and u don’t have to be an arrogant bytch to run into these types. Not saying you’d be aware of this dynamic b/c u don’t date men—but issa thing.The other side of this is the Mary J. Blidge factor which men will understand more which is the idea of people trying to use u for money which is also a thing.
Being equally yoked is good advice for a reason. That doesn’t always translate to needing everybody to make the same dollar amount and or anything that extreme but you do have to account for finances and personalities and hidden agendas b4 u take the plunge and it can be tricky.
They don’t get confused...they have to be dominant because if they aren’t they will be seen as nothing more than t*ts and ass. I see it time and time again and it stems from White male misogyny coming from the top down. White men in the workplace don’t give a shyt about what women gotta say and only allow them around because they are the best way to preserve whiteness in the office while also claiming “diversity”.
I can only speak for telecom as it is white male dominated at all levels outside of the call center. If you’re an attractive woman in this industry people are gonna be like “blah blah blah” when you talk because they automatically gonna assume you don’t know shyt. So then you have to be ultra assertive to make them take the fingers out their ears and actually hear you out. I even get this as Black man but I’m so tall and dominant that they gotta be slick with their bullshyt cuz they don’t want shyt to get real.
Actually those things replace the masculine perspective. When men stopped being reliable providers, women had to step up.
How does any of that to relate to a woman being nurturing, supportive and peaceful? Women with the tendencies you mentioned aren't hard to spot. It sounds like you're making an excuse.
Not for all women clearly. Word to @skeetsinternal
seabreeze80
All Star
Liars and manipulators are rampant among men and women. There are coli threads to prove this. There are plenty of men who do not properly vet their potential lovers and get mad when they get f*cked over.
Why would I be making an excuse? An excuse for what?
I agree 100 percent. I didn’t say it was your fault but it is the truth.
Geez. I mean u hear the same shyt on the Coli everyday and it’s dudes FANTASIZING about the opportunity to do this to chicks, so u know what’s up.I’ve seen some major sexism working in telecom so I don’t put nothing past dudes when the doors close and they alone in the house with they women. I hear the most stupidest shyt...I was chillin’ with some cats and they were talking about cheating on their wives and how it’s a man’s right. I asked:
“How would you feel if she did the same?”
One dude said: I’d be pissed.
I said “How can you be mad at her when you doing it? If you gonna play the game be all the way about it”
But with that being said, chicks aren’t saints either. Much like men, they have their crutches they hide their fukkery behind too. The most common ones I’ve encountered are God and illusions of financial stability.
Chicks: “Oh God aint sent me a good man!”
Or “I’m Single by choice!”
My dad: “Yeah cuz ain’t nobody choose you!”
My mom:
Rest of us:
My fam so etherous
First thing out my parents mouth when we dating somebody
Them: “Is he buckin and bending?!”
Us:
Them: Buckin and bending them knees! Walking?! Ain’t got no car?! Need to be worried about a job instead of p*ssy!
Us:
But I digress. Dating can be an adventure
I’m trying to figure out why it’s wrong for a successful woman to want a successful man?
Women want the optimal-level of a man, not be with him during his grind/building phase.....
Because women don't have a stigma for being in school for 6 years to do a grad program in liberal studies, staying at home with the folks until mid-twenties/early thirties, and being saddled with 100k worth of debt...
Conversely, men need to be Tupac in a business suit by 22 or be seen as a lame.....
Ahhhhhhhh yeah I’ve seen this too! Chicks who don’t know how to code switch when they leave the battlefield...