I don't believe he talked himself out of it.
From my experience if she wants it she would've been down for whatever.
I had a bytch I chilled with 1 time want to come over and it was cold. It was Christmas break from college, I was literally seeing about 4 girls at the same time.
Meeting up with 1 at 8 going out to eat, going back to my or her place fukking, then leaving at 11 to go to bar meet up with another and go fukk
I wasn't 100% about her at the time so I told her I was busy that night and she texted me all types of sad faces and shyt. That ended there.
About a week passed and shyt hit me up asked what I was going to be doing, I told her just working, chillin and my birthday. She's like "lemme give you a birthday blowjob....."
Came through and we kicked it. She straight up told me "I was waiting for you to tell me when to come over, I was going to show up in my long coat with nothing but bra and panties on......."
We fukked for the rest of Christmas break and she came back on spring break to just meet up and fukk. I never had to ask for anything. It was always "hey I'm back in town......" "What time are you off...." "You up......"