It’s kinda how females let homos call them bytch and hoe, like they do with each other, but will be gravely offended if it came from a straight man...cultural appropriation, power dynamics and a bunch of shyt goes into it I guess...
not gonna lie, having to navigate that shyt is one of the many burdens (big and small) of being black in America....years ago I was at a bar for a going away get together with coworkers....one of the chicks I worked with brought her Mexican best friend who starts saying left and right around me...I politely tell her to stop...she goes on this whole rant bout how she can say it because her boyfriend is black...turns into a whole back and forth, and I just say fukk it and end up leaving....now I’m the angry black guy at work