I thought they all made good points, but there were generalizations going around from everyone. A woman can raise amazing children on her own, just as a man can raise amazing children on his own. But having two loving parents - be it a straight or gay couple according to research - is the most effective way to raise a child.
Ultimately the roles of fathers and mothers are social constructs. Women aren't born mothers, they're taught how to be mothers by society. If you take a girl, lock her in a cage for 20 years with no interaction with other humans outside of giving her food...then give her a baby she's not going to know what to do with it. More than likely she'll kill it out of fear. The point being that these roles are learned.
I think it's a good idea for children to have male and female figures in their lives, regardless of whether it's a parent. Some boys learn how to "be a man" from their grandpa. Some girls learn how to "be a woman" from their aunt. Ultimately the goal should be to raise your child with love. A woman might not know the best advice on how to wear a suit, or a man might not know the best way to handle your time of the month...but those things pale in comparison to teaching a child how to be a hard worker, compassionate, fair, honest, etc...and a loving parent can teach all those things whether they're a man or a woman.
Ultimately we as men can only focus on our role. I plan on being the best father I can be, because I think it's important. And I would only marry a woman interested in being the best mother she can be, because she thinks it's important. The fact that most of us are black men makes this even more important brehs. Don't be another statistic. Raise your kids. Teach your kids. Feed your kids. Love your kids. You won't get a trophy, that's shyt you're supposed to do. That's what being a man is about.
let's all log off
