Hang in there. But you might be killing yoursf silently and not know. Every single thing you described in this post is nothing short of miserable. Yikes. I know you think you’re doing the right thing but yikes yikes.I make decent money. If my Wife made 70K a year and I made 70K a year, we might be even. We have two small children (1 and 3). Day car in Atlanta costs between $1500-2500 a month. That was when we were looking 2 years ago for one child. We chose to go the home maker route for two reasons. One, we don't want our children being taken care of until they can communicate to us. Two, why would we give somebody 3K a month to watch our children?
Being a homemaker is tough. It's not popping in DVDs and drinking wine all day. Your Wife pops out your big headed child, uses her body to feed that child every 2-4 hours, prays the baby is latching properly and gets all the milk it can, prays the child sleeps without her so she can take care of herself, hopes the baby isn't colic and screams all day and night, all of this for 6 months. You have to keep the house clean, cook breakfast lunch and dinner, continue to do the shopping and run errands, and keep the fed clean and dry.
Soon the six month old starts crawling. You cant contain the little one. It wants you all the time. It only takes two naps a day. Can you imagine trying to cook and clean with a little ankle bitter wanting all your attention? If you are out of sight it begins to throw a fit. Also trying to get it to sleep through the night without you. Fast forward to a year. Little one is walking and getting into s--t. Still needs and wants all your attention. Now you are hoping it sleeps in its own bed so you can get some piece and quiet. You are are watching for milestones and trying to develop them. You are trying to engage with your little one and find the great moments throughout the day. Floors have to be cleaned, dishes washed, clothes washed, and errands ran.
Baby makes it to two. Finally, you consider a half time day care so you can get some me time and stuff done. Half time day care is $1K. Is it worth it when your a "stay at home mom"? You already know it is. Now you can hit the gym, clean the house, meal prep, run some errands without having to worry.
You put your child's safety with somebody else. That is scary. Because of social media, you hear and see all the stories of the whole world. Despite all that, you still do it for your mental health. Guess what? Every time our daughter seen the day care owner, she cries. That's odd right? That woman probably did something to our child. I promise you that.
Now you decide you want another one.
Run that back haha. I'm gone half the year. We have no support system. No village. That's not smart.
If we could swap positions, and she makes the money and I stay at home. You know what I would say... Naw. You got it.
My Wife got into three law schools before she got pregnant. One gave her a 75% scholarship. She wanted to be a lawyer from the age of six. We were going to wait but my little Brother died the summer of '18. That hit me hard and I asked for a child now. She said yes. We didn't realize what we were getting into. Life is hard when you are trying to be intentional. You continue to serve God, you try to strive for unity, and then put everything into the little ones, while trying to take care of yourself.
Seeing what my Wife goes through and what we go through when I am home. She deserves every single penny the judge orders.
That supposal support though Judge. Watch yourself. 3 years max. She already has my GI Bill.
Get married brehs and not expect to part with half of your empire you built together.
That G.M.B train doubles back for actor Anthony Anderson
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Twenty year marriage. That means she was with him before he lost the weight when he looked like he played the organ at a black church. Not saying it's not steep but let's not act like she's on the same level as the chick Pacino got pregnant
fixed , Incel set not trying to read all that
Justin Nitsuj
Superstar
Maybe she knows something about him that got her getting 4 million dollars outta him.
Let the second simpiest men to Indians make the laws brehs
knickscrusaderm
lead by example
Can someone post her big fat dumpy?
Belize King
I got concepts of a plan.
I feel you. We are trying to get together permanently. I pray they can move them out here with me. We decided at 2 we will let the little one go to day care full time. The soon to be four year old has an IEP so school is free for her. Both kids out the house for the full day, we can get back to each other and she can find herself again.
If you think about it, people do work to get money, but if you had the ability not to would you? People work to escape. Many WFH brehs still leave to get out the crazy house. Working gives you 8-10 hours to escape.
Once the kids are school age, Wifey will go to law school if we come back to the States. New born to 5 year olds is crazy. Having kids is difficult if you have not village are try to be intentional.
ThrobbingHood
“I’m Sorry for 2025”
Yeah, she earned it. If your wife held you down before the paper, you should be breaking her off with at least half.
Rick Fox at UNC
All Star
These women don't even do anything
to demand that much money
Everyman with paper should have a hitman for situations like this. Even after giving her over 4 mill he still gotta pay her more if his paper starts stacking up even tho they are officially done. Spousal support the same shyt as paying child support for a kid that's not even yours
Seek therapy.
They were married for like 20+ years, have two geown children together and have been together since they were college students. It's not like she met dude when he was already a successful actor. He actually did the right thing, married his college sweetheart, stay together to watch his career grow and raise a couple of children.
This ain't the typical GMB story. People grow apart after 30 years of being together, it is what it is.
Rick Fox at UNC
All Star
Man, they were together as starving Howard University students.
He did that shyt the right way.
ThrobbingHood
“I’m Sorry for 2025”
What’s wrong with what I said? Jeff Bezos’ ex wife helped him build Amazon and no one disagreed with the payout she got because she earned it.
Anthony’s ex-wife was with him from day one. We don’t know all the BS he did. And being a Hollywood actor, it’s not far fetched to imagine it was egregious.
Now someone like Kevin Costner’s ex doesn’t deserve anything but a back hand and good riddance. He was already established and she had the audacity to file for divorce and demand extortionate alimony. It’s treacherous women like that who make GMB valid.
Chrishaune
Veteran
That's why you have to figure out what that woman really wants before you marry her in the U.S. Most of them are just bidding time to take your stuff, whatever you have. That's the attitude that has been cultivated in this culture. And the lawyers are indoctrinated to help them do it. So you're fighting a system meant to keep men as slaves to government. Get out of slavery brehs.
Belize King
I got concepts of a plan.
I just read about their divorce. He’s paying 75K a month. She wanted 150K.
She said the children expect luxury and nothing short of it.
